To want to move down south?

[BlackAppleCore]

Staying in Wiltshire for a few days. I'm from Hull, East Yorkshire.

I never thought I'd hear myself say it as a proud northerner but god I really don't want to go back to Hull. It's so depressing. A million miles away from anything decent, shitty weather, dark and dingy streets, shit schools, no prospects, council estates everywhere -

Down here seems to be a totally different way of live. An hour from London meaning we're never too far away from the big events, beautiful scenery, polite kids, beautiful houses, so much in the area to see and do, fantastic weather ...

AIBU to seriously consider leaving the North for the first time in my life? Is the grass greener down here or will it just taste fresher for a short while?

The south doesn't have a monopoly on nice places. I had lived in the south all my life and chose to move north (Cumbria) a few years ago. It is absolutely beautiful. Friendly people, stunning countryside, pretty villages, good schools, 15 mins from a lovely town, 25 from a small city, less noise, less traffic. A stone's throw from the Lake District national park. And house prices considerably cheaper than anywhere I'd lived before. There is nothing I don't love about it except the weather .

And I like my countryside rugged and a little bleak :o Windy little single lane roads that take you through deep puddles and under a thick blanket of trees before your (hourly, every day) bus emerges into another village, impossible looking hills with a tractor climbing up, looking out of the window into a deep valley with another one of those windy roads heading down it, culminating in 3 houses and a lot of very hardy sheep. yellow fields as far as the eye can see, because apart from the dots of poppies in amongst the yellow, not much other than oilseed rape grows.

The countryside here doesn't do twee :)

The 'not friendly' thing depends on where you live. I just saw my neighbour water in his flowers in pants. They're lovely!

And we're deffo 'south'.

It's so flat down south! I need mountains! proper mountains!

It depends what you want, my ex husband was from Halifax and I'm from the south so we spent a lot of time up there.
people are much more friendly up North and the cost of living and housing is much cheaper.
I prefer the weather up north, I love snow and cold.
It is so much harder to make friends down here and people are not motivated the same way they are up north, when you try and start a group here in the south it's like pulling teeth as people are too busy trying to pay the bills to involve themselves in activities.
Why don't you move outside Hull, Beverley is nice.

Tazer that house is gorgeous...

Hull isn't exactly representative of the whole of Yorkshire, let alone the north of England

No, it's not but I can start in South Yorkshire and tour through West, North and East catching up with friends and family and feel just as negative about each part. But that's just my feelings about the area. My daughter, however, is desperate to get herself up north to Uni despite my dire warnings of the damp and cold for 10 months of the year! God knows why because she left when she was 2 so can't even remember it.

YANBU - I was born in Liverpool and spent much of my youth there. DH is from Yorkshire. We now live in Hampshire and would not go back if you paid us!

But it's never dull in Hull...

I was in Hull recently and I can see why you'd want not to be. I love Wiltshire.

My mum is from hull left at 17. Her best friend left a couple of years ago at 60 as did one of my friend's dads. After living their whole lives there they left in their 60s and are loving life.
I went to hull for the first time in years a few months ago and was surprised by how nice it was! I was expecting a shithole and was pleasantly surprised.

As a PP said - washing your hair is sooooo much better upnkorth! God I love going home for a good hair wash and a cup of Yorkshire tea made with lovely soft water.

Fucking London limescale.

@NatureIsAWhore agreed! I always laugh at how everyone is all like "oooooh Box Hill" yeah, it's one relatively small hill. Where I'm from ever street was basically Box Hill.

Having spent half my life down south and the other half up north I can confirm that there are plenty of council estates in both halves of the country

To be fair, the limescale is a bit of a pain in the arse in this part of Wilts! Maybe Yorkshire Tea could flog vats of water to us 'new' southerners?

I am the other way round - grew up in Wiltshire and moved to West Yorkshire as an adult. I would never move back, and I don't enjoy visiting my hometown. I love it here!

lol bangkok I don't know what box hill is like but I can imagine!

My cycle commute to work has 400m of ascent on and it's only 15km!

@NatureIsAWhore agreed! I always laugh at how everyone is all like "oooooh Box Hill" yeah, it's one relatively small hill. Where I'm from ever street was basically Box Hill.

Not sure if it's the same Box Hill but I used to go down and up there all the time and I can't tell you the amount of people who'd hesitate at the top! At least my upbringing on the side of a fucking great hill prepared me well for gentle southern slopes!

I'm East Sussex..there is good and bad but where I live I'm surrounded by Midsomer Murders like villages..I love it. Walk the dog to different pubs on a weekend, my heart leaps at some of the views. Our plan is to move to the States (Oregon..Christmas Tree farmland) but if we don't we are going to the West Country..so friendly and laid back..I'm country through and through and have found East Sussex to be more friendly than West Sussex.

Eolian don't say any more. Keep it a secret but we live in the best place in the UK!

I come from central Scotland and now live on the Surrey Sussex border. Honestly I wouldn't go back. We don't really go into London, although it's less than an hour on the train, but I would say the weather is better and it is prettier down here, there is also "more" going on here.

We had some friends down last year and had dinner in the garden and one commented "god, we never have dinner in the garden, we don't get the weather" and it's normally true, having lived there for thirty years.

I don't feel or sound like a southerner, but I've found the people very friendly and see this as my home. I live in a tiny village and went into the local post office last week and the guy serving said "where have you been we haven't seen you for ages!!" I've only lived in this village three years and hardly every go to the post office, but shows just how friendly they are. 😁

I've lived in the north and the south. I prefer the south, but not London. I like the south coast. Now I live in the Midlands so I can get anywhere I want fairly quickly. It feels more southern than northern where I live with lots of sunny days.

Both Hull and Wiltshire have very hard water, so that's not going to help anyone make a choice.

The current daan saath weather is unusual, so don't factor that in too much (although having just moved from NE coast to south coast I am enjoying that 5 to 10 degree difference in average temp without the inevitable haar ruining a sunny day).

For those of you worried about hard water, you can install a water softener

@MrsJBaptiste isn't it? I spent a lot of my youth tramping round the area and while I suspect it wouldn't be quite the same as an adult I have a really deep yearning to move back down south, specifically London, and just be in the thick of things. I'd like to run a little coffee shop - somewhere nice and hipstery