To complain to a shop for selling DD alcohol?

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DD is only 16! She was with her friend as well (same age) and they purchased one of those Bailey's cans. It definitely requires age check. She doesn't look particularly old for her age and it's think 25 anyway! I'm not impressed and I appreciate its DD's fault for even trying to buy it and I've had strict words. AIBU?

Shouldn't you be reprimanding your daughter as well in that case for actually attempting to buy it knowing that she was underage?

The cashier needs to be aware that not all teenagers are interested in their livelihood and needs to protect it for themselves by not selling alcohol to underage teenagers.

If there was fake ID then that's slightly different, although you can refuse to sell alcohol at all to someone if you're not convinced they are over a certain age.
The girls shouldn't have asked, but it's hardly rare for teenagers to try it on, and anyone working in a shop should be well aware of that.

does she know or even care she could potentially lose the cashier their job?

I read the explanation thinking perhaps they were trying to drop someone in it.

Otherwise, why would you tell your mother you'd just conned someone into illegally serving you??

You need to report to the Police, they will be selling alcohol to other under age kids too.

What a weird thing to do. Does this shop have a reputation for selling alcohol to underage kids? Really makes no sense to buy a can just to show your parent you can.

When my DC were about 16-17 (now 23/20) they knew exactly which off-licence was lax with ID. If you have a shop with the right wrong type of shop keeper you can always get it.

Local gossip about where to buy is good business for Mr Dodgy Shopkeeper

i would tell the police and let them complain!

What sort of shop is it? I'm just wondering regarding the till system. Could just be a case of the cashier didn't even know it contained alcohol. Obviously if we are talking a supermarket or similar then when you scan it the system should remind and ask for cashier to check. But if it's a small shop and the cashier just puts in the price and uses the till as a calculator then easy to slip by sometimes.

I'd go in there with a photo of her, show it to the cashier and tell them that she's underage and if they sell to her again you'll report them.

And then report them. Because if they're selling to her they'll be selling to other teens.

I would complain to the shop. I wouldn't be worried about the cashier. But I'd be criss with my dd and also explain to her that by tricking the shop you could actually cause someone to lose their job. She sounds a bit entitled tbh.

Is this what teenagers do nowadays? How weird.

So they went into the shop to get refused alcohol and were so surprised they weren't refused they proceeded to purchase it and then came home to tell you? uh-huh.

Maybe focus on parenting the 16 year old buying alcohol instead of the shop selling it. I've seen many 16 year old girls who look much older than they are. I'm assuming the didn't rock up make-up free in their uniforms

Knowing how difficult it is to purchase alcohol under 18 without ID, I'm afraid I would also want to be sure they did actually pay for it...

I've seen many 16 year old girls who look much older than they are.

Did they look 25 or over? Because that's exactly what that policy is for...

"Is this what teenagers do nowadays? How weird."

It's been a while since I was a teenager, and I was a quiet, sensible one, but this was going on back then, nearly thirty years ago.
Dress up, full make up to look older, try to buy alcohol.
Yes the girl should be in trouble for trying (and succeeding - I hope you're not going to let her drink it!) but if the shop is selling it to your dd, who has been honest about it, they are also selling it to teenagers who won't go and admit it.

Did they buy it, did someone else buy it, did they steal it.
Their aim was to get a tin of Baileys, they succeeded. Why were they surprised, they evidently had an effective plan. Teenagers are strange fickle critters but I've heard of few who plan to get ID'd unsuccessfully unless they have been acting as the decoy

Maybe the cashier didn't realise those iced coffee things contain alcohol? I''ve seen them in the tea and coffee aisle. The cashier may well be a teenager themselves

Oh god my Dad did this when I was 16. Mortified!! I would speak to the shop manager and show them my daughters photo. I wouldn't report them officially for a one off can of Baileys.

*actually came home and said "I know you'll be mad but can you believe I actually managed to buy one" and then said how she was only telling me because she was surprised herself.

That makes no sense whatsoever.*

I thought this, and then I remembered that when I was 14 I went to an over 18s night club. Then told my Dad. I told him because I thought it was funny and crazy my friends and I got in. On hindsight it was a stupid thing to do as we al got in trouble and he phoned the club as well. I just wanted to tell him as it was a story to tell - and also, cos I was a kid and didn't really think. So I do think it's plausible.

My daughter cashiers for a large supermarket during uni holidays, it is an offence punishable by instant dismissal to sell alcohol to those under age, and she is always so worried that she wants to ask everyone for I.D, including those with a pension book and bus pass! I think I am right in saying that both the individual and store can be prosecuted.
If this is the type of outlet they got it from then you may risk losing the cashier their job. This is not to say that I agree with them being sold alcohol, but it might have been a one off genuine mistake.

So your DD broke the law but you are going to whinge to the shop? How odd from start to finish

Doesn't your DD need a telling off before you go complaining to other people?

I don't think it's the trying to buy alcohol age 16 that people think is weird, it's the managing to buy it (if it was alcohol haven't seen the Baileys tins) and then rather than drinking it with your mate and chucking the tin away deciding to tell your mum and encouraging your mum to complain to the shop to get the seller in to trouble. That's weird and not in a good way. A career with the gestapo looms.

When I was 15/16 we would kiss the shop assistant in the off license in return for wine "on tick" until we got paid for our saturday jobs. My daughter whilst underage (now 22) would undo a couple of buttons to entice young men to buy alcohol for her. We need to talk to our kids about responsible attitudes and behaviour around alcohol and not pass the blame along.