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AIBU?

To be hiding the alcohol?

29 replies

PrudenceDear · 19/06/2017 09:53

Ok, so DH and I aren't big drinkers but quite enjoy a shandy or glass of vino occasionally, especially on these lovely warm evenings once we've got the kids into bed.
DH Sister & brother in law are heading round later and they will happily drink from breakfast onwards but will never bring anything with them. They see alcohol as a challenge- I've known him to drink most of a litre of vodka on an evening and return the next day to finish off! SIL collected the kids from school for me the other week when I got held up at work, she finished the half bottle of wine off but didn't bother feeding the kids (7&9).
I bought a few beers the other day and a bottle of pimms. I've just buried them deep in the cupboard in the hope they don't find them!! I've left a couple of beers in the fridge as DH will know that they're there... I'm hopeful some will remain for later in the week when I'm meeting my friends. Please tell me that I ANBU

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Supersoaryflappypigeon · 19/06/2017 09:56

They drink at breakfast?!? Christ, I like a drink as much as the next person but that is ridiculous. Yanbu-I'd put it in the car boot if it were me. Cheeky sods.

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paxillin · 19/06/2017 09:57

Don't have any in the house when they come, then they can't find it.

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AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 19/06/2017 09:58

Don't leave the drink in the cupboards, serious alcoholics will find those no problem. Hide it in your knickers drawer.

YANBU!

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gamerchick · 19/06/2017 09:58

So they're coming around to yours just to drink?

You're not being unreasonable but I'm not sure why you're reduced to hiding stuff in your own house from guests. Are they hard to tell?

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Inertia · 19/06/2017 09:59

Do they see your house as their personal private bar?

YANBU to hide the alcohol somewhere more hidden than deep in the cupboard- if they help themselves to your drinks to that extent, they won't balk at rooting through the kitchen cupboards to find more. I'd hide it at the back of your wardrobe, and just keep a couple of bottles of beer in the fridge.

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MrsHathaway · 19/06/2017 09:59

They sound awful - awful drunks and awful guests. Who would drink half a bottle of wine whilst babysitting and not even give the children some fish fingers or something?!

Do they need help, do you think? Are they nineteen years old?

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RedStripeIassie · 19/06/2017 10:00

Drink from breakfast?!!

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emesis · 19/06/2017 10:04

I'd be hiding it somewhere much deeper than the pantry. In my closet or in the shed perhaps.

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blueskyinmarch · 19/06/2017 10:16

Blimey. I would be minded to hide every single drop of alcohol and when they arrive and ask for a drink tell them it is a hot drink or water. Cheeky alcoholic buggers.

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paxillin · 19/06/2017 10:18

Just don't have any in the house, full stop. Alcoholics will find it, their need and want to drink will always outstrip your hiding abilities. They will stop coming if there is no booze.

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LuckyLuckyMe · 19/06/2017 10:19

I take it you meant they'll drink from breakfast as a funny exaggeration OP?

I'd hide it In the car or the shed and tell them that there are a few beers in the fridge or hide the lot and tell them that you didn't have time to buy anything.

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QuiteLikely5 · 19/06/2017 10:20

On a serious note I would not expose my children to people who demonstrated that it was ok to knock alcohol back as if it was like having a cup of tea!

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MrsHathaway · 19/06/2017 10:22

I assumed she meant they would drink alcohol at any opportunity - like people who have merrily a pint with their breakfast at 7am at the airport - unlike most people who have a mental barrier of eg "not until the baby is in bed, unless it's a special occasion in which case lunchtime".

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DJBaggySmalls · 19/06/2017 10:24

Get one of those trolley cases, you can bung a padlock on it. Hide it in the wardrobe or cupboard under the stairs.

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PrudenceDear · 19/06/2017 10:45

they would usually have a coffee or a cold drink, as offered but if they happened to spot a beer in the fridge they would have to have it. There would, after the coffee, be some joke made and they would ask for it. Whether it was this time in the morning or later. Their holidays are always started with a beer for breakfast.
I was pretty miffed about the wine tbh- I had had a shit week at work and was really looking forward to a glass. It's a rare treat for me. The empty bottle was left by the back door.

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PrudenceDear · 19/06/2017 10:47

They wouldn't search the house for it, not whilst we were here anyway. But if they spotted it, they would have to have it. No self control where alcohol is concerned.

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blueskyinmarch · 19/06/2017 10:49

Just make sure they don’t spot it then. They sound like a real delight to have round!

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NavyandWhite · 19/06/2017 10:52

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PickAChew · 19/06/2017 10:55

Put it in the loft or lock it in your car or garage. It needs to be well out of the way of them.

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paxillin · 19/06/2017 10:55

I would say something when the next "joke" about booze comes about or when they ask for it. Just say sorry, no, you need it for when your friends come around. Tell them you noticed they ask for booze first thing. They are probably unaware you realise. This should stop it if they aren't yet complete alcoholics.

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AnnetteCurtains · 19/06/2017 11:02

cant you just say no to them ?

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paxillin · 19/06/2017 11:04

I think the fact that they introduce their alcohol begging with a joke shows they are still sensitive to social disapproval. Use that fact and show it. Say things like "you are drinking a lot/ very early/ have you drank all my wine AGAIN/ why are you looking for booze in my cupboard/ can you ever not drink".

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 19/06/2017 11:05

We are saving those beers for later. Don't touch!

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waitforitfdear · 19/06/2017 11:07

So thry steal your alcohol? That would be it for me anyone taking my wine without consent has crossed a line! Grin

Seriously op I wouldn't be serving them anything apart from tea and hide what you have away. They sound horrible users

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redshoeblueshoe · 19/06/2017 11:22

Why do you let them ?

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