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Original poster

I should just be dignified and not say anything, shouldn't I?

35 replies

crocodarl · 18/06/2017 21:29

To be pissed off that I sold my old maternity dress on a pre-loved site for £8 and just saw the same woman who bought it 2 months ago putting it up on the same site for £22 !

I should just be dignified and not say anything, shouldn't I?

OP posts:
Gartenzwerg · 18/06/2017 21:32

You could put a message on her page saying "I hope you are giving that £14 profit to charity". Optionally you could add "you shameless grabbing oil" at the end of the sentence.

Gartenzwerg · 18/06/2017 21:32

Oik not oil.

TheMysteriousJackelope · 18/06/2017 21:33

I'm not sure what you can say or to whom.

If you say anything to her you'll just get a reply 'I know, wonderful isn't it? third hand and a better price'. The customer is going to tell you that nobody had this particular dress in that size for less money, and they wanted it so........

I see the same second hand books on Amazon for prices varying from $1 to $150. The $150 sellers are just waiting until they are the only one happening to offer the book and they get that desperate reader willing to pay the price.

It's supply and demand in action.

PaintingOwls · 18/06/2017 21:33

Are you angry that she's:
a. selling it at all
b. selling it "too soon"
c. selling it at a profit?

Leeds2 · 18/06/2017 21:34

She might not get £22 though!

AperolOnIce · 18/06/2017 21:34

YANBU to be pissed off but once she'd bought it from you then it was hers to do with as she pleased. She might want £22 for it - but save your pissed-offness until she actually gets it!

Tobuyornot99 · 18/06/2017 21:35

You can't really say much IMO, presumably you were happy with the £8 paid..the dress then became hers to do with as she pleases. Perhaps put a higher price on things going forward, maybe you did yourself down on the dress.

Pinkheart5912 · 18/06/2017 21:37

You sold it the item became hers at that point to do with as she wished so I'm not sure why you think anything needs to be said Confused

She paid you for the item
She is now selling the item she now owns
What's the problem?

AmyGardner · 18/06/2017 21:38

Well she legitimately owns it, so she could sell it for 22k and it wouldn't really be anything to do with you.

Maybe you under-charged?

Original poster
crocodarl · 18/06/2017 21:40

Gartenzwerg thank you, you made me laugh! Your answer definitely cheered up me the most!

PaintingOwls C !!!!

Tobuyornot99 thanks, I think you're right....

OP posts:
bimbobaggins · 18/06/2017 21:51

Definitely yabu. She bought the dress and can do whatever she wants with it , including selling it for any price. Can't believe you'd even have an issue with this

SuperBeagle · 18/06/2017 21:59

It's not your dress. She can do with it as she wants. You should've sold it for more when you had the opportunity.

orabel · 18/06/2017 22:00

In one of the big tutu/dancewear selling groups I'm in they won't allow the sort of scenario in the OP, it#s one of the rules. It created too many bunfights, people immediately reselling in the group for profit!

I don't know that I'd care much about it, and not enough to say anything.

FizzyGreenWater · 18/06/2017 22:09

I like the oil typo, maybe use that?

Message on her page 'Oh! Is this the dress with all the oil?'

She won't be selling it then Grin

19lottie82 · 18/06/2017 22:09

YABU, you'll just look like a nutter, seriously.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 18/06/2017 22:11

I hope you are giving that £14 profit to charity

Why should she?

LiveLongAndProspero · 18/06/2017 22:12

You sold it for what you could get, and agreed a price. If somone else gets far more for it later, it has nothing to do with you. You could have tried harder to sell it for more.
IT's not about being dignified, there is nothing you could say that wouldn;t make you look like a loon.

Voice0fReason · 18/06/2017 22:18

What is it that you are pissed off about?
This has absolutely nothing to do with you and doesn't affect you in any way.

Silencio · 18/06/2017 22:19

Maybe YOU should give the money you took to charity!
WTF?
Is it me or what?

Floggingmolly · 18/06/2017 22:20

There isn't a definitive price on second hand goods - the price is whatever someone is willing to pay. There may be someone willing to pay £22 or there may not. It's outside everyone's control.

winglesspegasus · 18/06/2017 22:21

are upset because shes a better sales woman?
next time up your prices

AdalindSchade · 18/06/2017 22:22

Don't be so daft
Second hand stuff varies in price it can attract based on time of year, the place it is sold, who happens to be looking for that thing at that time. You got £8 for it and she clearly sold it at a more favourable time. It's hers now, not yours. Get over it.

LikeCandy · 18/06/2017 22:26

I sold a light fitting bnib on my local selling site for £5 and it was back on there the same day for £25. It's still up there a week later, I'm sure they won't get £25 but it did make me want to write a rude message underneath it 😬
Benefit of the doubt and all that, maybe they really need the extra few quid...

BoomBoomsCousin · 18/06/2017 22:42

It would certainly be undignified to say anything. It's dignified as such to not say anything, it's just normal. What would you say "Hey you cheeky oik, stop being a better business woman than me! How dare you!"

You have no justification for being pissed off with her. Only, possibly, at yourself for taking a low offer when you might have been able to get a higher one.

Rioja123 · 18/06/2017 22:43

She bought it for the price you advertised it at, not sure why you're annoyed.