AIBU to not know what to do

[HardplaceandRock]

BACKGROUND: 7 couples all friends, meet at NTC classes during our first pregnancies, live in a small town to groups of the kids have ended up at same schools, all gone on to have more children and all friends.....think family BBQs, couples nights out, even been camping and to centre parcs together...eldest children are now all school yr 10 and siblings range from yr 7 to yr 2

ISSUE: husband of couple a is having affair with wife of couple b.........wives of couples c & d (I am wife's) discovered it basically caught them meeting up at a hotel and have cast iron proof....wife a has confirmed, when confronted that it is going on and no intention to stop......now no idea what to do.....husband c & d have no idea nor do either of couple e.

Telling the partners of those having the affair, is going to blow their families apart and their will be reprocussions throughout the adult friendship group as well as the children's group.

Also if we tell us it gonna come back and bite us where we end up the bad guys......feel sick thinking about it and don't know what to do....help how do I handle this

You did the right thing. They're the ones that have ruined their marriages with an affair they had no intention of stopping, not you for telling the OH's. I feel sorry for the wronged husband that's left the family home as he should have stayed since he's done no wrong especially if the wife is being so horrible to you.

Say absolutely nothing and do nothing about it. It's none of your business. It could all blow over soon anyway. It's the couples decision what to do whether to tell their partners or not

Bit late there Bobbins.

Well done op. You've done the right thing. I think the particularly shitty bit is that on being found out they said they'd continue the affair. It's not like they were devastated and found their compassion; they really didn't care.

Well done op I think you did absolutely the right thing

Tell on them. It would be way worse when it comes out down the line and the aggrieved parties find out that everyone knew and didn't say anything. Not only will they have been betrayed by their partners, but also their friends