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'Let's have a BBQ ' said no woman ever!

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Lifewithasixyearold · 18/06/2017 13:16

No it isnt easier, no it's not less work and no DH you don't actually do anything like all of it!
Fuck me, it's 160 degrees out there, my rage is hotter than the damn BBQ which wasn't lit in time of course and naturally I have started things in the oven because when the BBQ does get going it will incinerate the outside of everything and leave a lovely warm core of pure food poisoning within...
AIBU surely we could get them banned, smoke, emissions or something??

OP posts:
BiddyPop · 19/06/2017 15:50

Our charcoal BBQ gave up a couple of years ago, so we replaced it with a gas one so we'd use it more midweek when weather was good. Take advantage of nicer days after work etc.

It does work ok.

I am more likely to suggest it than DH.

I have been known to have a BBQ even if he is away.

Our BBQs are pretty straight-forward. I make up mixed veg anyway, so put that on kebabs or in tinfoil packets or a (tinfoil type) tray to cook. Just enough meat for us or us and our guests (not mountains). Perhaps some potatoes if I feel like it or salad. But we really treat the act of BBQing as just cooking outdoor rather than indoors. (And DD loves it - she also wants to cook on wood-fires outdoors as much as possible, Bear Grylls/Scouts style!).

Marinating meat and/or veg in advance (oil and some seasoning) really does help.

Not cooking too hot or too long - so the inside cooks while outside gets nicely charred but not burnt, and inside is not gone dry.

Keep accompaniments simple.

If having friends, get everyone to bring 1 thing (we regularly have 4 houses on the street together - 1 does meat, 1 does salad, 1 does nibbles for beforehand, and 1 does dessert). Not too much work for anyone, and we all relax together.

Last night, we couldn't face takeaway after a day on the water in the sun, so ran into Tesco, grabbed 2 steaks and 2 portions of salad (coleslaw and a pasta with mushrooms), I defrosted 3 sliders and 3 buns at home, and we added ketchup and garlic sauce to the table. That was dinner done on the BBQ (DH and I had steak, DD had sliders)! And within 20 minutes of us getting home we were sitting down eating, while also having put wet gear on the line, getting washing into the machine, packing bags for sailing mid-week, watering plants, feeding tomatoes, and getting wine/beer/fizzy orange opened too....

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 15:55

What's a slider?

MrsOverTheRoad · 19/06/2017 15:57

Dame it's a frigging bap! A bread bun.

NO idea when people started calling them sliders. Stupid Americanism.

MrsOverTheRoad · 19/06/2017 15:58

Sliders

No idea what poster means by defrosting sliders and buns. They're ALL buns!

ItsNachoCheese · 19/06/2017 15:58

This is why god invented george foreman grills for an indoor bbq Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 15:58

But she defrosted 2 sliders AND 3 bunsConfusedGrin

MrsOverTheRoad · 19/06/2017 15:59

No she didn't. Grin

BiddyPop · 19/06/2017 16:00

My DF also is a BBQ enthusiast! Charcoal all the way (I am almost disowned for getting gas for convenience!). But he has a big kettle style one that he does things like legs of lamb (fed 40 for a party in late October 1 year!), and he used to cook for a family gathering in a woods 90 minutes from home every summer (coming from various directions), steaks and sausages for up to about 40 there too!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 16:01

I defrosted 3 sliders and 3 buns yes she did

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 16:02

BiddyPop I demand you clear up my confusion Grin

tanfield90 · 19/06/2017 16:04

Man speaking here. I can't stick barbecues. Macho posturing faff dressed in a silly apron. Ruined during my growing-up years by fractious squabbling parents who couldn't agree on trivial shit like warmed plates or cold plates, rice salad or potato salad, how many of each foodstuff and so on. Twats. I haven't been anywhere near a barbecue in at least twenty years.

And another thing. In case of doubt, it's not spelled 'barbeque', okay ? Thick publicans and street party organisers take note Angry.

Barrytheunicorn · 19/06/2017 16:07

Op YAB really U Grin

I once tied some string to the top of a fishing umbrella and then lowered it out of my spare room window so it covered my BBQ when we had rain once and I really wanted a BBQ.
It worked out quite well.

I really don't need an excuse to BBQ Grin

BiddyPop · 19/06/2017 16:09

DameDiazepam you certainly live up to your name as a drama queen!! Grin !

Sliders are small sized burgers in my world (blame M&S and America!). We find quarter pounders or “BBQ burgers” just toooo mahooosive for normal eating.

Last year, M&S started selling sliders, some plain beef mince ones but also some veggie and some fish versions. This year, there are chorizo and pork, morroccan lamb, and tomato feta and chicken versions in the range. They make a nice mouthful or 2, rather than loads of bread and meat. And they cook quickly too. We like them as giving us a variety without mountains of meat, and also just for convenience and speed (and not feeling bloated by bread!).

So DD had the last pork and chorizo mini-burger, 2 tomato feta and chicken mini-burgers, and all served in small brown bread rolls.

Does that help?!

(Sorry, MN keeps crashing work pc so had to go off and type this up in word to post…..)

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 16:10

So sliders are the burgers not the bread rolls?

MrsOverTheRoad · 19/06/2017 16:12

Dame apparently they are in MAndS! Not anywhere else though

Google Slider Recipes or Slider Ideas and it's all bread!

Oh..and I KNOW she said she defrosted some ...I was being sarcastic. Grin

TalkinBoutNuthin · 19/06/2017 16:13

You've made the mistake in 'running' the bbq. If he wants a bbq, then leave it to him!

If he destroys the food - on his head be it, if there are no salads etc to go with it - on his head be it, etc, etc, etc.

NotCitrus · 19/06/2017 16:14

BBQs are wonderful at my ILs.
Normal meal: dozen overcooked dishes, because they think all veg takes two hours to cook (except the potatoes which will be hard as they've only had 10 minutes), and I won't let them serve the meat until I'm sure it's not going to poison anyone. Then huge hassle getting everything into serving dishes, kids to the table for more than five minutes, and crap food and stupid amounts of washing up (serving platters, why???)

BBQ: Meat gets actually tasty. Even MIL can't destroy salad and bread. Space for everyone. Dog eats bits that get on the ground. All happy, less washing up. The BBQ is cleaned by having bits burnt off it next time.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 16:17

I'm off to Google... Grin

BiddyPop · 19/06/2017 16:18

I generally call the meat patty the slider and the bread roll part the bread.

I know in Eddie Rockets, the combined meat and bread and fillings is called a slider.

But in M&S, they sell the meat part as sliders and the bread as "slider rolls" (or something very similar).

Mrs Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/06/2017 16:21

I just had to Google Eddie RocketsGrin

I feel like you're all speaking a different language to me BlushGrin

ahhhhhwoof · 19/06/2017 17:29

YANBU I bloody hate BBQs

Nousernamefound · 19/06/2017 17:38

Here here! No man ever thinks of all the other prep and cooking that goes with a BBQ, as far as they're concerned it's meat and bread. It's never just a BBQ for the 4 of us either, always masses of other people invited so there has to be other food available too. I love a BBQ but wish my other half would realise how much work it is!

purplebunny2012 · 19/06/2017 17:41

I love a good BBQ and I let him get on with it

BertrandRussell · 19/06/2017 17:44

"No man ever thinks of all the other prep and cooking that goes with a BBQ, as far as they're concerned it's meat and bread"
I just don't understand why women a) have such a low opinion of men and b) put up with all this crap.

Arealhumanbeing · 19/06/2017 17:47

I'm a woman and am always saying let's have a bbq.

Wait until the flames are gone and the coals are white but glowing. Food will be cooked perfectly.

Add bread, two salads and loads of lovely booze!