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To say something to my friend re her stretching my dress...

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friendsornot · 18/06/2017 11:10

I have a friend who is going for job interviews. She is bigger than me and asked me to borrow some work clothes to wear to interviews. I just said I don't think I'll have anything that fits her. She said but I used to be the same size as her so I just have something (I was overweight now normal she is still overweight) but I don't think we were ever the same size
She came round a few weeks ago walked in my bedroom & started looking through my clothes ( we have been friends since we were teenagers so I think she felt comfortable doing it even though it was a decade ago we used to rummage through each other's wardrobe) and starts picking things she thinks might fit her. Before I can say anything she's got a dress on and saying it fits her. It really didn't and was stretched so badly. I tried to tell her nicely that she might need a bigger size but she seemed so happy that size stretched over her I didn't want to push it as she's really sensitive about how she looks. I am now a smaller size so hopefully won't need it but it was a lot of money for me and I was hoping to either sell it or tbh I've gone back up couple of stone since last year so perhaps I might need it again one day soon. Blush

Anyway she's given it back and it's now stretched and basically ruined, completely baggy around the bum area. Aibu to say something and if so what would you say?! I can't afford another one and as it's part of a suit I can't really replace the whole outfit either.

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friendsornot · 18/06/2017 13:24

Thanks to those clarifying the weight comment!

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Gemini69 · 18/06/2017 13:39

I've never liked the 'borrowing' thing.. it makes my skin crawl when something is given back.... so I absolutely never do it ..

TheFirstMrsDV · 18/06/2017 13:44

I am a bit puzzled.
What kind of fabric is it?

If it had enough 'give' to go over her body even though she was far too big for it, why hasn't it gone back into shape?
If the dress is not jersey/lycra (in which case it would go back into shape after washing and drying) the seams would also be damaged by her forcing it over her much to big body.
Are the seams damaged too?

Sometimes necklines can get distorted and not go back but the backside would be designed with 'ease' to allow movement.

Notknownatthisaddress · 18/06/2017 13:47

The line 'I was overweight but now I'm normal' did me in. Confused

I am amazed the OP even has any friends! Hmm

Confusedandintrigued · 18/06/2017 13:51

Not known...
Presume you just posted without reading precious dozen comments

BlahBlahBlahEtc · 18/06/2017 13:52

I'd write this dress off but never let her near your bedroom again

This.

augustusglupe · 18/06/2017 13:52

Being older and wiser...it was too late once you let her borrow it!!
In the 80s I lent a friend a favourite mohair off the shoulder jumper. It was gorgeous and my mum would hand wash it for me.
On returning it, my friend looked pleased and said thanks and that she'd washed it for me Shock
It was ruined!! It was about 6 feet wide and the length of a crop top Sad

Ilovebaconbutimonadiet · 18/06/2017 13:55

I would say something but then again, would've said when she tried it on and wouldn't let her borrow it.

gamerchick · 18/06/2017 13:56

FFS the word normal is fine to use, wind your necks in Hmm

You really should have been more assertive from the off OP but it's done now and she was rude not getting it cleaned as well. Who does that?!

See if getting it cleaned helps with the stretching and work on your reply the next time she asks to lend some clothes. There are comfortable ways of saying no when you get the hang of it.

newnoo · 18/06/2017 14:08

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The OP has privacy concerns and so we've agreed to take this down.

Aeroflotgirl · 18/06/2017 14:31

Its too late now, but next time say no, I don't lend out my clothes, last time you ruined my dress as you stretched it.

TrinityTaylor · 18/06/2017 14:35

People are SO touchy about weight ffs oh my god! Normal is a TOTALLY FINE way to describe weight. The day we stop being allowed to even mentioned someone being overweight, or treat obesity as a totally acceptable thing we cannot mention, will be a sad day.

friendsornot · 18/06/2017 21:29

Some of these comments make me laugh! 'I'm surprised op has any friends' I have plenty otherwise I'd probably act even more desperate haha.

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