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AIBU?

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"yeah, the kids all have a vomiting bug"—visitors!

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happilyLostCareer · 18/06/2017 04:58

Grrrr. Friends turn up at our yesterday with DC 6, 4 & 10 months, all pale, whiny, with running noses and dodgy tummies. After 10mo vomits all over herself & the playmat, and 6 yo continues to whine while shoving her face into mine, DH's, and DS's, parents gaily say "oh don't mind them, the kids all have a vomiting bug" and then stay another 2 hours while their kids monopolise the toilet!!!

They were coming round because they know I'm on my knees with sleep deprivation after 7 months of waking every 10-45 minutes with DS, and we've all been really ill with a cold and thus were too tired to meet them at the usual cafe meeting on Saturday morning. They went to that too and distributed a few viral particles round the cafe...

And guess what, now we all have the bug too.

What is wrong with people?

OP posts:

kkkkaty123 · 18/06/2017 12:15

Sorry just seen they met at yours

IntrusiveBastards · 18/06/2017 12:18

Also if my dh was still in two minds after I received a rude text like that I'd be fucking pissed off. The only response should be 'Fuck off to them'.

gunsandbanjos · 18/06/2017 12:37

What a total prick, rude to bring disgusting ill children to you and then compounds it by making out that YOU are the one with the issue. I'm gobsmacked, I'd have no further contact with him.

IntrusiveBastards · 18/06/2017 12:40

total prick, rude to bring disgusting ill children to you and then compounds it by making out that YOU are the one with the issue.

Agreed but I'd see the mum as just as much to blame. She seemed quite happy and unapologetic to say they were suck. Even if her husband is a controlling arse, she could text op and warn her and let op and her dh be the ones to text and cancel for some reason.

StrangeLookingParasite · 18/06/2017 12:44

What a pack of rude selfish arseholes. And this "Me learn to deal with the world?? You couldn't deal with your fucking children yesterday and had to pawn them off on us while they were sick so you learn to fucking deal with your kids before dishing out advice to others about dealing with the world. Selfish cunt".

He really is an utter dickhead.

bumbledryer · 18/06/2017 12:48

"There's only one thing that scares me in life with 3 small children and it's a vomiting bug ripping through all of us."

I currently have this happening in my house. It's utter shit. I would not knowingly inflict it on others.

Emeraude · 18/06/2017 12:48

What is with people ? Thinking that it's just a wee sick bug. It happens at my school, children sick, phone parents and then they tell us that the child was sick previous night or in the morning but they are fine. Then they kick up a stink when they are told the child can't come back for at least 48 hours

We get this ALL THE TIME at school. Every time the first thing that the kid says when they get in is, 'Miss, I vomited last night,' and parents think no one will ever find out.

They sound like awful people.

Aeroflotgirl · 18/06/2017 12:51

Why did you allow this! When they told you they had vomitting bug, I would have told them to go home, and that you and your kids don't want to catch it. Selfish idiots, don't be a doormat again!

Aeroflotgirl · 18/06/2017 12:54

What a dick, I would distance myself from them, hate that entitled attitude.

Apairofsparklingeyes · 18/06/2017 12:57

I'd reply 'never contact us again as you've shown us that you are selfish, cruel and unkind'. You and your family really don't need such horrid people in your lives.

I don't agree with the pp comment about doctors being blasé about sickness bugs. They are usually very aware just how serious a minor infection can be for anyone vulnerable such as a young baby and would be keen to contain an infection. Your doctor friend is just too weak to stand up to her nasty husband. Maybe you can renew the friendship once she comes to her senses and gets divorced.

Shiftymake · 18/06/2017 13:48

I am a member of a family consisting of doctors, medical personnel, engineers, teachers, professors and the likes and there is no way any of us would subject you and your family to illness. This man is missing some very key traits in knowledge and behavior, and I would be very clear to him that regardless of how "we" live our life, he has no right to subject anyone to contagious conditions no matter his personal opinion, nor be the judge on how people are to lead their lives. If he wants to visit people with illness then that is his choice but bringing illness to others is abysmal and a characteristic flaw of good judgement. On the other hand, my family barely raises an eyebrow when it comes to broken bones, but that isn't contagious ;)

lalalalyra · 18/06/2017 14:06

So because you don't work and have time that means it's ok for him to make your children sick? Fuck that. Even if I had all the time in the fucking world I would be furious at anyone who actively made a decision that made my child suffer.

Dealing with the world includes accepting when your children are too contagious to mix with other children who don't need to suffer from whatever illness yours have (even if being housebound drives you barmy!)

Deploycharitygoats · 18/06/2017 14:58

Selfish bastards. Yes, I'm sure you wish you'd asked them to leave, but I get that when you're on the bones of your arse with exhaustion, assertiveness is probably in short supply.

I ended a friendship over the same thing. Friend had form for sending her toddler DD to play dates with raging fevers, with a shrug and "she wanted to come, what can I do?" Say no, you incompetent pillock

Then one afternoon the DD turned up with her nanny, looking peaky. When friend collected her a few hours later, she said "yeah, she was sick all day yesterday, but I'm an emetophobe and anyway, I needed to pack for holiday tomorrow. So I thought it would be nice to get her out for a few hours."

I was pregnant and looking after 18mo DS1 solo as DH was away. DS1 dutifully got the bug and spent the next few days with raging temp and D+V. When I messaged her the next morning to say thanks a fucking bunch, her response was "DD wasn't ill, just in a febrile state". I refused to have anything to do with her after that. Selfish (and stupid) cow.

gamerwidow · 18/06/2017 15:41

What an arsehole the husband is. OP I would never invite this family to your house ever again and at the very least he would big brother coming back.
No one should have to put up and shut up about having a sickness bug because his too selfish to have his plans changed. Those poor kids too I can't imagine dragging my DD out if she was ill like that.

gamerwidow · 18/06/2017 15:44

Never not big brother

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