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"yeah, the kids all have a vomiting bug"—visitors!

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happilyLostCareer · 18/06/2017 04:58

Grrrr. Friends turn up at our yesterday with DC 6, 4 & 10 months, all pale, whiny, with running noses and dodgy tummies. After 10mo vomits all over herself & the playmat, and 6 yo continues to whine while shoving her face into mine, DH's, and DS's, parents gaily say "oh don't mind them, the kids all have a vomiting bug" and then stay another 2 hours while their kids monopolise the toilet!!!

They were coming round because they know I'm on my knees with sleep deprivation after 7 months of waking every 10-45 minutes with DS, and we've all been really ill with a cold and thus were too tired to meet them at the usual cafe meeting on Saturday morning. They went to that too and distributed a few viral particles round the cafe...

And guess what, now we all have the bug too.

What is wrong with people?

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WeirdAndPissedOff · 18/06/2017 09:30

I feel for you, OP.
It drives me up the wall when prole do this - at the very least it's inconsiderate.

When my youngest Dsis was a newborn - less than a week old - our cousins came to visit. Understandably excited about the new baby they spent a lot of time fussing around her. Their DM then cheerfully informed us that they wouldn't be eating much as they'd been up all night vomiting. To say our DM was furious would be a massive understatement!
Luckily she didn't catch anything, but our siblings did which left DM trying to sort a newborn and three vomiting children.

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happilyLostCareer · 18/06/2017 09:46

Thanks for all the support.

F*wit husband has sent back a text saying that I should get a grip and learn to cope with the world, and that I have time to deal with a vomiting bug as I don't have a job.

Which is the general attitude he has sent in my direction for the last few years. DS and I will certainly not be going back to Saturday morning meet-ups again. DH is of two minds but will probably see sense once the vomiting starts...

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Mummyoflittledragon · 18/06/2017 09:50

What a prick! I'd be tempted to say something else. But I think now I'd rise above it and consider the friendship over.

AnneBiscuit · 18/06/2017 09:52

What a git. Tell him you don't need to get a grip. You just need to not have anything to do with selfish people who don't give a toss about others.

user1495025590 · 18/06/2017 10:02

You know I have noticed this trait among doctor parents on several occasions. I think they see so many people with serious life threatening and life changing conditions, they are very blase about minor illnesses

user1495025590 · 18/06/2017 10:05

I would like to pont out that chartered engineer status requires a masters. Engineers are not nonacademic Angry

londonrach · 18/06/2017 10:08

Op leave it and remove these people from your life. Wish they could see this thread. They seem vvvvvv thick.

Increasinglymiddleaged · 18/06/2017 10:09

F*wit husband has sent back a text saying that I should get a grip and learn to cope with the world, and that I have time to deal with a vomiting bug as I don't have a job.

Well this would be the end of the 'friendship' for me well actually when they brought vomiting DC round it would be the end Who the actual fuck do they think they are.

Text back 'OK no probs, it will be easier to keep my grip without further contact. Have a nice life'

Wholovesorangesoda · 18/06/2017 10:16

Also emetophobic here, I'm very lucky that, touch wood, DD hasn't had one for a few years now. I wouldn't necessarily sever contact if, in general, you get on but if this us just one if a list if things then definitely time to say goodbye. Why on earth you'd drag your poor kids out of the house when they have a sickness bug I don't know. I'm pretty sure when I've been poorly with one the last thing I would have wanted was to be in somebody else's house! Dickheads.

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happilyLostCareer · 18/06/2017 10:22

user1495... i wasn't saying engos are nonacademic, just that (at least in the cirlces I have mixed in for the last 20 years) there are engos who tend to vocally criticize academics, and this fine specimen is one of them.

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Butterymuffin · 18/06/2017 10:22

Rude, selfish idiots. Don't go to any more meet ups. Can't see what they are bringing to your lives that's worth holding on to.

KateTheShrew · 18/06/2017 10:31

User1495, I think what OP means is that she and her DH are career academics (ie university lecturers/researchers) not that engineering is a 'non-academic' job.

OP, how inconsidetate of them. I'd be raging too. I hope you all feel better soon Flowers

AntiHop · 18/06/2017 10:36

It sounds like time to end this friendship. I can't believe a doctor behaved so stupidly.

harderandharder2breathe · 18/06/2017 11:26

He sounds a total fuckwit. Why are you friends with such a rude arsehole?

I really think you should sever this friendship. Not just because of vomit but because of their generally shitty attitude towards you

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 18/06/2017 11:30

Wow, he's a selfish and stupid fucker isn't he!

I think I would be "busy" from now on.

Fabellini · 18/06/2017 11:32

Never mind the vomiting children, the husband is a dickhead. That'd be it for me!

Notknownatthisaddress · 18/06/2017 11:33

What a moron. It would be the last time I ever asked them around. Angry

NellieFiveBellies · 18/06/2017 11:34

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 18/06/2017 11:43

I'd text back "Me learn to deal with the world?? You couldn't deal with your fucking children yesterday and had to pawn them off on us while they were sick so you learn to fucking deal with your kids before dishing out advice to others about dealing with the world. Selfish cunt" - look your surely not going to want to see him again after that text so cheer yourself up and call him out on being a wanker, the sickness might not seem so bad then

CoraPirbright · 18/06/2017 11:54

Shock at his reply! I would text him back "you are incredibly rude and selfish. Do not contact us again" and then block him. He sounds utterly vile frankly.

QuinoaKeen · 18/06/2017 12:03

I would have demanded they leave.
This is unacceptable, selfish behaviour. They are not your friends.

8misskitty8 · 18/06/2017 12:08

What a selfish git. I'd not be meeting up with them again.

What is with people ? Thinking that it's just a wee sick bug. It happens at my school, children sick, phone parents and then they tell us that the child was sick previous night or in the morning but they are fine. Then they kick up a stink when they are told the child can't come back for at least 48 hours.

kkkkaty123 · 18/06/2017 12:10

People always go down in my estimation when they pull a stunt like this. It's beyond rude. Iv had someone constantly do this my my dd. Before we got her asthma under control every cold meant a hospital stay. Would this keep a certain someone away ? Would it fuck. Had to have a strong word in the end.

IntrusiveBastards · 18/06/2017 12:11

OK no probs, it will be easier to keep my grip without further contact. Have a nice life

This but with an added 'without such selfish people' to it. I would also insist your husband gets onside, noro is bad enough but what if it was chicken pox or measles? What if they went near a newborn or someone vulnerable.

Selfish cunts. I hope they get it from both ends.

kkkkaty123 · 18/06/2017 12:13

It's just so frustrating. People should know you just keep you and your germs at home. Why would you want to take vomiting kids to a cafe all morning. I know myself if iv had it the last place I'd want to be is around food !