(Before I start, I know, I know, it's such a cliche to harp on about 'the one that got away'.)
This man, G, was one of my best friends during university. I had feelings for him literally ever since I met him. He had a lot of issues - difficult past meaning he was very closed off at times, could take his anger out on me (not through violence or abuse, I should add) and didn't like talking about anything even slightly emotional (on the rare occasions he did he would go icy cold on me for days after). However we had more in common than anyone I'd ever met and he was the first person I felt I could ever truly be myself around - and he said the same about me.
Just after we graduated, G finally admitted he liked me too. We tried to be together but it really didn't work out and I think it was, to make use of another cliche, a case of 'right person, wrong time', as we were living very separate lives.
We had a horrible messy breakup and blocked each other on social media. There were a lot of unanswered questions between him and me, and I never felt like I really got closure. We didn't speak for five years, during which time we got in serious relationships (both engaged). Mine ended a few months ago.
Earlier he sent me a Facebook friend request and, after looking at his page, he's just got a job meaning he will be moving to my area. He's also single again. I have accepted the friend request and don't know what to do now.
Should I message him? Or wait for him to message me first? Will he message me?
I've thought about him every single day since we ended it. His last words to me were along the lines of he 'will always have a flame burning for me'. I badly want to speak to him and at least get closure, but not sure if I should dive straight in or wait or what? Help!