To be constantly pissed off at his online manner?

[strea]

Right, this is going to make me sound incredibly pedantic but here goes.

I have been seeing a man for around 6 months. He's funny, kind, sweet and intelligent, and childless though I have a toddler from a previous relationship who I'm not letting him meet until I'm absolutely sure things will work out.

At first, I was properly head-over-heels for him. However, in the past month or so I've started to become increasingly pissed off with him just about every conversation we have over text or Facebook messaging.

I'm aware this is incredibly trivial and pointless but it started off with small things, like him not using any punctuation at all in messages, constant abbreviations (think 'with you people' to 'w/u ppl'), and the heavy use of 'ironic' kisses after everything (eg. xoxoxoxox).

He has no literacy problems, he is extremely intelligent and articulate and he knows I'm pedantic about grammar. If it was just occasional I wouldn't care less, but the fact it's constant in just about every message that it drives me up the wall.

He's also the worst for not only double but quadruple texting. Every conversation we have online irritates me and it's as if his whole online manner is a completely different person to who he is in real life.

I'm prepared to be told that IABU and I know it's something incredibly minor. It just pisses me off and I have no logical explanation for why, as it never used to bother me

Hollibobs. Holidays.

(Slopes off to vomit).

How bizarre! Shorter and quicker to write holidays, surely? Or hols? (I must be getting old....!)

Of course its snobbery. Looking down on someone because of the way they express themselves in a text message, thinking youre better than someone else because you can write longwinded texts in full words.

Many people can do that, its not a unique "wow" skill. But simply choose not to. & even if they cant, they could have good qualities in many other ways that are far more useful in relationship life.

The man isnt writing an essay or a sonnet. OP has said he is intelligent and articulate in real life. Real life is more important than texts, surely

Still OP - in your shoes if he irritates you that much then simply get rid. You must've known on here you'd attract a thread (mostly) criticising your man..if you can also sit there viewing it all then you dont like him very much, so why stay? Youve told him, and he's made clear thats how he writes informally. Its wasting time when you could find someone who suits you better.

If it's snobbery then there's a fair amount the other way too - being judged because you write texts in full iambic pentameter words and sentences.