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My husband coughed phlegm into my face and mouth last night and it stank.

68 replies

TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 09:59

We are going through a difficult patch at the moment but things are getting better. He kept sleeping on the sofa for a while which was making things worse but we agreed that he would stop doing it.

He smokes and several times a day he will get this sudden splutter cough and you can hear the phlegm in the back of this throat.

At 1am last night this happened. All over my fucking face, it went into my mouth. I could smell it for fuck sake.

I screeched in disgust and horror, he rolled over. I told him to sleep on the sofa. I wiped my face in the bathroom but my stomach was turning. It doesn't help that im in the first trimester and my stomach was turning before id even got to sleep let alone waking up to that.

I know im BU because he was a sleep and had no control over it, and this will be his argument but I don't care if he was in a coma, that was fucking foul.

I would tell him to stop smoking but that will cause a row that we cant afford to have at the moment.

My skin is still crawling.

OP posts:
TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 12:35

If you walked past a homeless person would you say "Do you not have a home to sleep in?" after they repeatedly mentioned that they sleep on the street?

If someone said they cant afford to feed their family would you ask "Have you not got any spare money?"

I had repeatedly referred to my husband sleeping on the sofa, I feel as though it was painfully obvious that a 'spare room' didn't exist.
And the way you worded it "Do you not have a spare room" made it sound as though most people have a spare room, whether you meant it or not. As you can see, you didn't just come across that way to me.

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caffeinestream · 14/06/2017 12:36

Um, okay...

TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 12:38

Honeydragon our kids already share.

This third child was not planned, which is basically the biggest issue here. That I didn't get rid of it. But I don't want that to be the issue on this thread.

Most people on here have listened to me and helped me talk it out, I haven't reached a solution and Im not sure what I expected when Iposted. I just needed to get it out. I needed to vent.

Thank you for replying.

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HoneyDragon · 14/06/2017 12:38

Op, You're starting to come across as someone who can't get a fight with her husband as he's working and not engaging so you're trying to pick one here.

Stop comparing yourself to people in dire straits. It's facile.

TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 12:39

Um, okay...

Thank you. Grin

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 12:45

Im absolutely NOT comparing myself or someone homeless or broke!

Not even a little bit, that is NOT the point of that reply.

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notknownatthisaddress · 14/06/2017 12:48

If you don't know what you want people will help you think it through BUT if the way you're addressing your dh is the way you're addressing some of the people on this thread than literally nothing will be resolved.

This ^ The OP isn't coming across as the epitome of love and affection is she? As a pp said, it's no wonder there are issues if she has the same attitude towards her husband. She sounds very snappy, angry, irritated, and rude.. Being pregnant is no excuse for this.

She seems to talk about he DH with contempt imo.

Maybe anger and frustration is making her arsey, but still, there is no need for the rudeness towards posters.

PeaFaceMcgee · 14/06/2017 12:55

Replace your double bed with singles, OP? Being phlegmed on is yuk! I hope he acknowledges and apologises.

PeaFaceMcgee · 14/06/2017 12:56

I hate bedsharing, with anyone!

blue2014 · 14/06/2017 13:26

Singles is a brill idea.

He should also apologise though!

Chloe84 · 14/06/2017 13:48

caffeine's question was not stupid, OP.

Why are you attacking people taking the time out to try and help you?

Iloveanimals · 14/06/2017 14:25

Something doesn't seem right about this post....the OP seems to be on defensive/attack/rude/unhelpable mode. Sorry he coughed in your face though Grin

TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 15:10

Defensive to one poster, yes.

Openly thankful to the others. More than once.

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 18:49

He came home with flowers.

And i bought pillows today, i have now devised a pillow wall between our head with a single pillow.
Sounds stupid but it might just work...

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blue2014 · 14/06/2017 18:53

I'm glad, hope it goes well OP Smile

RebelRogue · 14/06/2017 19:31

Can't you face different ways when you sleep? The pillow wall should help too..

TippyTinkleTrousers · 14/06/2017 19:45

we do face different ways when we fall asleep. I guess we must move. I have wondered how many times I've got it in my hair and not known about it though..... Envy

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GreatFuckability · 15/06/2017 02:17

You've got the arse with him over something he did whilst he was SLEEPING?

riiight.

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