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AIBU?

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Original poster

to tell a company I applied for a job with that they are rude

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BigYellowJumper · 13/06/2017 09:36

and that I don't want to work for them?

The faceless person I have been emailing with (seriously, not even a name on the replies, just the company name) has been dismissive and rude every time we've spoken.

First: when they offered me an interview I asked for a clarification of the interview time. It was written in a way that sounded quite unclear (said one time, then after, another.). The person replied 'As I clearly stated before, the time is xyz.' OK, I thought, bit abrupt, but never mind.

They gave me the address for the office, and said 'do you have a car? A car is essential for this role because the office is not near to public transport.' I said 'yes, that's no problem, I have a car.' They replied 'well, it would be a 'problem' as you say, if you didn't, because there is no public transport here.'

Honestly, I just feel so put off. Every time, there is some snippy little comment and I kind of feel like if I go for this job, I'll be working in that kind of atmosphere and get stressed out. If I was desperate to work, it would be one thing, but we have enough saved up that I don't need to work for a little while, so would I be unreasonable to just cancel the interview and to tell them that I find their responses very rude and don't want to work in a place with rude people?

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AlpacaPicnic · 13/06/2017 12:08

Refused to be fired?!
How???!!!
I need to know...

AnUtterIdiot · 13/06/2017 12:09

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

redshoeblueshoe · 13/06/2017 12:09

I don't care if you don't want to work there but it is your duty to us to keep up this correspondence - and report back
this is getting my vote for funniest thread of the day

AlpacaPicnic · 13/06/2017 12:10

Xpost!

Good god! The moxie of some people? Why on earth didn't they stop paying them?

artycakemaker · 13/06/2017 12:12

I KNOW!!!!!Why did they not stop paying? It's beyond me.

i still have some friends in that company.Every now and then I will e-mail and ask ; Is Sonia* still there?'

She's outlived a few senior management changes though since then.

*not her real name.

Kazzyhoward · 13/06/2017 12:12

Do you really think the other person will care if you email them back to withdraw and tell them they're rude??? It'll be like wetting yourself in dark trousers - you'll get a warm feeling but no-one else will notice nor care.

I'd go along with an open mind and go through with the interview and discover more about the organisation and the plonker. You can then withdraw later. It'll be good interview technique/practice.

Some people do come across as rude/abrupt but turn out to be really nice, friendly people in real life when you meet them. It could well be that they're accustomed to dealing with lots of idiots and they're trying to be as clear as possible , as quickly as possible as their coping strategy. I know in my job, I have to bit my tongue (well keyboard actually) when time and time again, a client clearly hasn't read my email and asks for a piece of information that was clearly stated or misreads it, and it can be hard to keep it polite as that takes up more word/writing, which means even more time. I've certainly replied "as per my email" a few times, not intending to be rude, but out of desperation when someone has clearly not bothered to read it and I've got a screen full of emails to reply to!

chocolateworshipper · 13/06/2017 12:37

I don't know if it's been said already, but is it possible that the person emailing you doesn't have English as their first language? I once ranted about an email I had received from someone, only to find that they were German. Not only was English not their first language, but the German language when literally translated can come across as "abrupt" to us sensitive English types.

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BigYellowJumper · 13/06/2017 12:39

Thanks for all the input, I'm going to think about it and let them (and you) know tomorrow!

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Ginkypig · 13/06/2017 13:40

If it turns out that they are all infact as bad as they seem from the phantom emailer then just use it as a good practice for interviews

TakeMe2Insanity · 13/06/2017 13:50

I would say that the person in admin probably wanted the job or hopes to get the job if no one applies hence is being boarder line rude regarding it.

user1497357411 · 13/06/2017 13:54

It might be that the majority of the other people working there are nice, but if it is a small company you would have dealings with the HR department/person on a regular basis. So... hmm... Regarding the "non native speaker" comment. I find the behavior of this HR person to be very widespread in the UK HR-departments and recruitment agencies. I think they hire people with no education within the field and then "train them" (or not) themselves. Also this behaviour in NOT normal in the other European countries I have had dealings with, so ..

alltoomuchrightnow · 13/06/2017 13:59

Yanbu. I'm rarely one to speak up / stick up for self , however I just told a company that they were unprofessional in how they treated my application . Woman from HR rang several times wanting to talk about it. I couldn't take the call, however we've emailed and she has apologised because she is concerned about my poor experience (her words) with her recruitment team

FizzyGreenWater · 13/06/2017 14:00

Either way, make sure you note the email address of RudePerson, then one day when you're far from home, pop into a library and from a public computer and a new email account, email her/him:

'Oh, you're RUDE. So very rude. Rude and snippy. I didn't like you one bit. Just wanted to let you know that. Bye!'

(only joking of course...)

redladybird · 13/06/2017 14:00

I would still go for the job. likes others have said you probably won't have anything to do with this person anyway, I did lots of job interviews but as they were all in different departments I never actually worked with any of the staff. If you were to get the job and then decided not to take it I would send a rejection email to whoever interviewed you - forwarding my reply underneath all the snotty reply emails you got back from the person who set up the interview so they can see what you had to put up with!

Cupoteap · 13/06/2017 18:37

You need to find a reason to email then and add in 'sorry I don't believe you've given me your name'

Yellowbird54321 · 13/06/2017 19:01

What Fizzy said but add in: "and you really need to pull your dicks up" at the end. Please please do this OP it's making me giddy with giggles just thinking about it

Shadow666 · 13/06/2017 19:09

Maybe this person is leaving and is just over it. I'd go along for the interview anyway just to check things out. It is weird though that they still haven't filled the post.

noenemee · 14/06/2017 17:54

@BigYellowJumper any more thoughts?

Namechangearoo · 15/06/2017 12:00

How did it go, OP?

Tazerface · 15/06/2017 12:06

I like aurynne's email. Although I might wait and send it after I'd be offered the job

What did you decide to do?

Ilovebaconbutimonadiet · 15/06/2017 20:11

Ihhhhhh definitely placemarking

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BigYellowJumper · 16/06/2017 04:45

Hi all, sorry for not getting back to you promptly (please, no passive aggressive rudeness!)

I got offered a different job! So I emailed them just now to say that I wasn't interested. Quite looking forward to hearing what they have to say about that.

"We didn't want to work with you anyway" probably.

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HappenedForAReisling · 16/06/2017 05:59

Different job in a different company?

If so, please email snippy git's company and tell then what a shite they have dealing with recruitment and that he/she needs to pull their dicks up

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BigYellowJumper · 16/06/2017 06:03

In a different company, yes.

Pull your dick up, Robert/Josephine.

Those are the names I imagine for them.

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Ceto · 16/06/2017 06:13

It might not hurt to send someone senior some polite feedback about their recruitment practices. In the circumstances they can hardly take it as sour grapes on your part.

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