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to tell a company I applied for a job with that they are rude

111 replies

BigYellowJumper · 13/06/2017 09:36

and that I don't want to work for them?

The faceless person I have been emailing with (seriously, not even a name on the replies, just the company name) has been dismissive and rude every time we've spoken.

First: when they offered me an interview I asked for a clarification of the interview time. It was written in a way that sounded quite unclear (said one time, then after, another.). The person replied 'As I clearly stated before, the time is xyz.' OK, I thought, bit abrupt, but never mind.

They gave me the address for the office, and said 'do you have a car? A car is essential for this role because the office is not near to public transport.' I said 'yes, that's no problem, I have a car.' They replied 'well, it would be a 'problem' as you say, if you didn't, because there is no public transport here.'

Honestly, I just feel so put off. Every time, there is some snippy little comment and I kind of feel like if I go for this job, I'll be working in that kind of atmosphere and get stressed out. If I was desperate to work, it would be one thing, but we have enough saved up that I don't need to work for a little while, so would I be unreasonable to just cancel the interview and to tell them that I find their responses very rude and don't want to work in a place with rude people?

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thetemptationofchocolate · 13/06/2017 10:20

Oh I'd go for the interview but I'd be careful to ask about whether I'd be expected to work at all with 'rude person'. If they wanted to know why I'd tell them about the emails. That's when you'll find out if this rudeness is endemic within that company.
I've not applied for jobs where the job pack they send out has been sloppily put together, stuff like that. I think I'd also be put off by rudeness like this. It's unprofessional, and this kind of thing tends to filter down from the top.

HeyRoly · 13/06/2017 10:22

I would go to the interview but try to ascertain who exactly has been sending the dickish emails. And if it transpires that you'd have to work with them on a daily basis, run for the hills. I could not put up with someone who manages to turn every simple interaction into something unpleasant.

BewtySkoolDropowt · 13/06/2017 10:22

I wonder if miserable Maureen went for the job when it was first advertised and didn't get it, hence the attitude towards any prospective applicants... and the reason the job is still available...

Redsippycup · 13/06/2017 10:22

I worked with a woman that was horrifically rude to everyone - colleagues, superiors (not that anyone was actually superior to her, oh no Hmm ), customers etc etc and when people, understandably, got cross with her she would get really angry about how 'rude' they were and how she 'wouldn't put up with it'!

... This isn't a job in the SW and associated with DEFRA is it?!

Although she would never not sign her name, she's far too self important!

aurynne · 13/06/2017 10:23

I would forward the e-mail conversation to the company's CCO or General Manager with the message:

Dear Mr/Mrs GeneralManager of CompanyX,

Before I continue my process of application for a position in your company, I would like to request clarification as to whether the way your HR representative is addressing me is representative of the work environment in your company (please read e-mail conversation below).

If confirmed, I would respectfully recant my application, as I have always prided in providing and expecting respect from work colleagues.

Sincerely,

BigYellowJumper"

Nowwhatsthis · 13/06/2017 10:23

Here's another 'non native speaker', and I'm from a country that's well known for being rude. But we would still never be THAT rude!

Please send them chumps reply Grin

burdog · 13/06/2017 10:24

Ugh, I cannot stand people who labour a point in emails.I work with someone like that. If I get 1 email I get 5 all on the same point. The lady is being rude and a bit dim if you ask me. OP said it wasn't a problem because she had a car. In any case, why labour the point at all? Anyone would be able to figure out there's no public transport and make plans accordingly. Why is it any business of the person arranging the interview how OP gets there?

SapphireStrange · 13/06/2017 10:26

Maybe you've been corresponding with the company's one Petty Person.

Go to the interview and see what you think.

Mermaidbutmytailfelloff · 13/06/2017 10:32

Perhaps the person you are emailing is currently covering the role and likes it! They want to put you off so they can get it by default/stealth? Don't let them!

PoochSmooch · 13/06/2017 10:33

Wow, that is impressively snippy! With that ability to pick up on one commonly used phrase and make it a huge thing, they'd do well on AIBU Wink

Like bewtyskool, I wonder if Pass-Ag Pamela there actually wanted the job you're going for? I'd still go, but I'd make damn sure I found out who the phantom emailer was and that I'd be far, far away from them on a day to day basis.

Good luck!

PoochSmooch · 13/06/2017 10:34

Eurgh, lookit the inadvertent sexism in my post! Let's call him Pass-Ag Peter instead Grin

jay55 · 13/06/2017 10:34

Its not a plants company is it?

www.theguardian.com/money/2017/jun/01/scented-geraniums-worst-customer-service

blankface · 13/06/2017 10:35

Go to the interview. Maybe the emailer wants that job and is trying to put all candidates off Smile

It was written in a way that sounded quite unclear (said one time, then after, another.). The person replied 'As I clearly stated before, the time is xyz.' OK, I thought, bit abrupt, but never mind

I'd have been straight on that and quoted their email back at them.
I needed to confirm the interview time because in para x you said and in para y you then said

It is odd to be emailed by a person who doesn't identify themselves, its it MI5? Grin

Squishedstrawberry4 · 13/06/2017 10:36

I would go to interview but explain your reservations about the company.

Squishedstrawberry4 · 13/06/2017 10:38

Yes ask if you'd be expected to work with the rude person who sends all the snippy emails.

We have one at work. I'm on the cusp of telling her to pull her dicks up and be polite.

Squishedstrawberry4 · 13/06/2017 10:38

Socks. Not dicks

aurynne · 13/06/2017 10:41

"We have one at work. I'm on the cusp of telling her to pull her dicks up and be polite."

Best typo of the day GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

category12 · 13/06/2017 10:41

Interview practice is good. Think of it only as practice. You haven't got the job yet to have problems working there Smile.

See what you feel about them in person. You may find out if you'd be working closely with whoever is emailing you.

If you get a nicer vibe about them in person and get the job, then great, take it.

If you don't, no harm done - you get interview practice - and the opportunity to feed back to them that whoever it was was rude.

SingaSong12 · 13/06/2017 10:42

If it's quite a large company I'd definitely go along - HR can be very different, sometimes not even the same company. I'd probably go along anyway unless you work in a sector where jobs are easy to get.

KarmaNoMore · 13/06/2017 10:50

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Mumoftu · 13/06/2017 10:52

Go to the interview. And if you are offered the job I would let them know that whether you accept will depend on how closely you will be working with wanky email person. If they are putting off quality potential employees management will be more likely to act. If you don't get the job then it won't be your problem but you could still give feedback if you wanted to.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 13/06/2017 10:53

Sounds like she's a MNer who has spent too long on AIBU and forgotten she was at work Wink

Orlandointhewilderness · 13/06/2017 10:53

Oh please go! I need to know if they are all that petty and awful!

squishedstrawberry That is an awesome typo!

Orlandointhewilderness · 13/06/2017 10:54

Oh please go! I need to know if they are all that petty and awful!

squishedstrawberry That is an awesome typo!

Namechangearoo · 13/06/2017 10:59

squished strawberry that's going to be my new favourite saying. At first I thought it was slang for knickers or something...

FFS, Maureen, pull your dicks up and be polite!