Baby presents from girl I hate!

[mintich]

Background:
The secretary for my partners department has always fancied him and has told him as much, before I met him ( despite her being in a relationship) He has never been interested in her.
When I went to a work do of his last year, she got me on my own and started saying that he had told her he wasn't that into me etc. I got him over and told her to repeat what she had said. She started crying, saying I was lying and why did he want to be with a liar! He told her he would never look at her and we were happy and to leave us alone.

I know he has to be professional but even him working with her annoys me.

Anyway we now have a 3 week old baby and he came home with a gift basket. There was a gift receipt in there and I notice it was all bought in the town she lives in. I know as the secretary, she would have been sent out to by it all.
Even though I know everyone had paid for it, the thought of her choosing gifts for my baby really winds me up!
I know I'm being kind of unreasonable but I feel like sending it back!
I think the reason I get so annoyed is because I feel like I didn't get to confront her properly at the time. I have quite a fiery temper but because he dealt with her at the time, I feel like I still have things I'd love to say to her.

If there was a gift receipt then swap the lot.

Leave it.

Okay, honestly - grow up. Let it go.

They're gifts from his coworkers. What will it achieve if you do anything but accept them graciously?

Congratulations on your baby. Gift receipt you say? Change it!

Unfortunately there's not a lot you can do about her. You could confront her till the cows come home and she'll still be a dick. Just be reassured your husband has zero interest in her.

It won't achieve anything ha! I know it's childish, I'm even annoying myself thinking about it, and even being bothered by it!

Send a thank you note with a picture of the 3 of you, then swap the lot.

Honestly just don't let it bother you! At the end of the day you're the one with the baby and the partner, just let it go. Your dp sounds like he's got his head screwed on when it comes to this woman, so why stress yourself out over something trivial when you have a newborn? Forget the gift, enjoy your beautiful baby!

If what you say about her feelings are true it will have been hard for her to go out and buy the gift, harder than for you to accept it. Sounds like she made a drunken mistake one night and presumably she's trying to move past it. Perhaps you should do the same.

Don't send it back or try to confront her - you will just look unhinged!

But, if it's going to annoy you to use it, do quietly return it all to the shop with the receipt and choose something you want with the cash.

An unpleasant character my DH had the misfortune to work with gave us a baby gift and I just never used it as it felt a bit bleargh (she was just a nasty piece of work, as far as I know she didn't fancy him or anything like that!)

*Send a thank you note with a picture of the 3 of you, then swap the lot
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This!!!! ^^

"the thought of her choosing gifts for my baby really winds me up!"

I bet it wound her up even more

Let it go. She's an idiot, but stewing over it will just make you miserable.

Send a thank you note with a picture of the 3 of you, then swap the lot.

I would be so tempted.

"the thought of her choosing gifts for my baby really winds me up!"

I bet it wound her up even more

Very wise, Saucy. Very wise.

Send a thank you note with a picture of the 3 of you

that

and forget about it. Put yourself in her shoes, she might be more than annoyed to have to buy you the gift but had to because it's her job.It's worst for her than you.

She probably hated doing it. If the stuff annoys you, give to charity.

She can't be fired for an immature obsession.

What Saucy said - it must not have been pleasant for her, buying baby gifts for you.

Yep great idea about the photo with the 3 of you and a thank you cardif that doesnt rubher nose in it, I dont know what will lol

Absolutely, a really lovey dovey photograph of you and your husband with your new baby ... then swap, if they left the receipt then they're offering you to swap it anyway .... plus she may have tampered or cursed it ☠️😻😜

Firstly, I think you delt with things perfectly so although you still feel there are still things to say I don't think there are. You showed her up splendidly at the work do and instantly showed you and your dp are a united front.
As for the gifts, I first thought you were going to say they were from her so being that it has been a collection from everyone it's not so bad. Can understand it making your skin crawl though. I think as others have said, if there is a gift receipt change the items for something else for baby that you can enjoy from everyone. But tbh you should just enjoy you have your dp, your new baby and a lovely future ahead of you to which she is jealous. You hate thinking she chose the gifts but she probably was seething buying them You should use them with pride. Congrats btw

By the way just to say by you letting this eat you up she is winning?

I agree with click send a thank you to the office with the three of you, if she is the secretary she will open it.

However I think you protest too much, you don't need to confront her because you don't feel threatened right? Why would you want her to think you are even giving her a second thought?

Oh you really need to send that photo! Make it as cheesy as possible.

Don't send the photo to her, but to the whole dept along with a thank you for the lovely gifts. She will definitely see it and be pissed off but it won't look like you sent it to her specifically.
Then swap the lot!