Baby presents from girl I hate!

[mintich]

Background:
The secretary for my partners department has always fancied him and has told him as much, before I met him ( despite her being in a relationship) He has never been interested in her.
When I went to a work do of his last year, she got me on my own and started saying that he had told her he wasn't that into me etc. I got him over and told her to repeat what she had said. She started crying, saying I was lying and why did he want to be with a liar! He told her he would never look at her and we were happy and to leave us alone.

I know he has to be professional but even him working with her annoys me.

Anyway we now have a 3 week old baby and he came home with a gift basket. There was a gift receipt in there and I notice it was all bought in the town she lives in. I know as the secretary, she would have been sent out to by it all.
Even though I know everyone had paid for it, the thought of her choosing gifts for my baby really winds me up!
I know I'm being kind of unreasonable but I feel like sending it back!
I think the reason I get so annoyed is because I feel like I didn't get to confront her properly at the time. I have quite a fiery temper but because he dealt with her at the time, I feel like I still have things I'd love to say to her.

Saucy is correct that she will have absolutely hated this task. Enjoy your baby, let dh send a send a thank you note (his monkeys, his circus). Swap the gifts

A similar thing happened to me when I was pregnant with DS. There was a girls who worked there who had basically worked her way round making a play for all the men in the office, she was absolutely bonkers and when she eventually left they found an Excel spreadsheet on her computer marking them all out of 10 for various different attributes!

Anyway she tried it with DH who just gave her short shrift which she hated. We went to a work BBQ and she got horrendously drunk and tried to drape herself round DH who told her to fuck of, she proceeded to tell me how she would have him and take him off me etc.

She then proceeded to give DH stuff for DS as a means of apology, I just binned the lot and ignored her. She was sacked before DS was born so I never had anymore dealings with the horrible cow!

I wouldn't her send a photo

Not to her - to the lovely colleagues who actually thought you might like gifts, gave money, and probably made suggestions about what to buy.
She may see it, but that's just a side effect.

See I would get utmost pleasure in using the gift. I'm evil like that!

Photograph of the three of you as a 'thank you'. Then donate the gift - there will be who would be very glad to receive it.

Everyone in the office has contributed for the gift, so exchange it for items you want to use with your baby and think of their good wishes.

I LIKE THE ONE ABOUT SENDING A THANK YOU NOTE WITH A PICTURE OF ALL THREE OF YOU. tHEN SWAP THE LOT XX

I didn't even think about the fact choosing the gifts probably wound her up more.
I have no idea why I give her a second thought, I'm just petty like that ha!
You've all simmered me down

I'd swap it all

agree agree agree... and especially do remember that there were some lovely colleagues of your dh who actually wanted you to be happy receiving gifts from them

I don't think anyone said to send the photo specifically to her. You have to write a thank you card to the dept it's only manners and of course it's only polite to send a photo of the baby with you both holding or maybe your husband embracing you..... we get them in our thank u cards all the time at work

I'd be worried she'd tampered with the products. She sounds unstable.

I agree, lovely family photo with DH looking at the two of you adoringly to go in a nice thank you card tot he office, then swap the gifts.

Meh. He's your partner and you have a lovely baby. His other colleagues think enough of you both to contribute to a gift. There's no way you should even give her a second thought (except that sleep deprivation can make a monster out of a saint!).

Oh yes, you are definitely looking at this in the wrong light.

Her having to buy your baby gifts was the ultimate payback.

Seriously she must have been spitting chips to have had that job to do. Send a lovely thank you and swap anything you don't like. Be sure to send a lovely family photo / postcard of you all for the work noticeboard 😁. Big beaming smiles of bliss. The best revenge is living well x

oh get over it.. pretty sure you have 'won' enough

She may have just been the messenger in terms of buying. I do the presents at work, we discuss what to buy and collect accordingly. My suggestions are often but not always run with but I usually do the leg work and wrapping etc but not always. And I buy the overall group choice. So she could have been working to someone else's taste and their instructions and not chosen it herself.

Plus if her fatal attraction effort on your DH is known about, would she be trusted to buy blind?

I sort of get where you're coming from. My DPs ex's parents send him and my DC birthday and Christmas cards and it winds me up. I can't explain why, I cannot stand his ex but it isn't her parents fault. But it gets on my tits. I do know I look like the petty one though when i roll my eyes when I ask "who is that card off...." ect. I still put the cards up. Just not somewhere as visible as the rest just grin and bare it. The gifts are for your DC not you and congratulations btw!!!