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To be agog at this cheeky bint on one of the Facebook selling sites

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witchofzog · 12/06/2017 21:50

She has posted that her and her boyfriend are moving into their first time together and does anyone have any cheap or free furniture to help them. Someone posted a tv cabinet. Bit old fashioned but in good condition. Her reply? "Got one" Someone else posts a set of bowls and plates. Quite nice actually. Her reply? "Don't need em". And then someone has offered a wardrobe for free but she wants to see pictures first before she accepts . But she would prefer black of possible

And this is probably the third or fourth ad I have seen from this person. I have never bothered to read the replies until today. Surely if you want your home kitted out for free you need to be polite. And not really picky either. Or is this how things are done now? Confused

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witchofzog · 12/06/2017 22:50

Dianne I feel the injustice for you. How nasty can you get?

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justkeepswimmingg · 12/06/2017 22:51

Yep I see this all the time!
My favourite is one woman who claims to have no money to clothe her DS, and she is then inundated with offers of baby bundles for free. It's a local mums group, so gets full sympathy. She will then post ads of brand new expensive designer baby clothes/shoes etc. It's often she does this, so I don't believe they are gifts from family/friends. She dresses her DS in designer clothes, of which isn't included in those baby bundles she receives. She also then sells the baby bundles once he's 'outgrown' them.
I'm all for helping people in need, but I avoid this woman completely. Some people just take the piss.

Mupflup · 12/06/2017 22:55

A chap on the one I'm on the other day asked for a conservatory, and said that the seller would also need to deliver it to his house and put it up for him too as he was disabled!

BestZebbie · 12/06/2017 22:57

In the OP, I think the person wanting furniture should probably have been more specific when posting her original request/less informal in her replies, but I don't think it is actually rude at all to turn down crockery when you are looking for furniture, and barely rude to not want multiples of a TV unit in your house (if you are trying to furnish a house from scratch on facebook you probably only have one living room with a tv in it, maximum).

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/06/2017 23:03

Best

Its not rude to turn things down that you dont need, but it is very rude to not thank the gifter. A simple "Thank you but we are ok for kitchen stuff" would be fine.

Fanciedachange17 · 12/06/2017 23:07

You sound a formidable woman dimples. I hope you have everything you need now and you and your kids are safe and comfortable.

toldmywrath · 12/06/2017 23:07

A young lad on our local group was asking for people to come round and clean his house (he wanted volunteers, so no payment to anyone)

Bless him, he has additional needs but people were being really unkind to him. I felt really sorry for him. He lives with his mum who suffers from depression.

Anyway, that's neither here nor there. People are strange in their online requests.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 12/06/2017 23:10

Years ago we gave some nice sofas and bits and pieces to a 'struggling single mother' She sold the bloody lot and went on holiday! No shame.

Where I live (not UK) I see it a lot. Bloody scroungers. One woman actually owns a store where she sells the stuff she gets free or really cheap!

Recently on a local fb group there was a couple getting married but claimed they were on a tight budget, ie they had fuck all money but still wanted to get married. They basically wanted their entire wedding donated/paid for/supplied by suckers people on fb! A kind lady even offered wedding rings but they wanted more 'bling' so turned her down! I despise people like this.

DimplesToadfoot · 12/06/2017 23:21

Fanciedachange17

You sound a formidable woman dimples. I hope you have everything you need now and you and your kids are safe and comfortable.

Thank you .. I'm a fighter, I get knocked down quite easily but I get back up, it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to us lol and I certainly found out who my friends were :-)

it was 19 years ago, the kids have grown up, and moved on, but I've never forgotten the kindness of strangers, the interweb was new and way before FB but I could have wrote a 'begging post' myself ...

Neverstopsmiling · 12/06/2017 23:27

I had something similar she asked for things for her house that she could do as a project,,She got offered a free sofa, bed frame amongst other stuff and declined it all..Not sure what she actually wanted! Very cheeky!

SeanSpicer · 12/06/2017 23:38

There are people who go to charity shops a bit like this. They haggle and quibble over the prices, trying to beat them down all the time so they can resell at a higher price on their market stalls etc.

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/06/2017 23:45

There is a great charity shop in our town with an area full of vintage/collectible stuff and you do get people trying to haggle.

I think that they should put up a sign saying "Dont bother haggling, we are cheaper than eBay so you will still make a profit".

Allofaflumble · 12/06/2017 23:52

Someone on my Freecycle recently had two WANTED posts. One was for a caravan. The second was for a car in good condition with an MOT! Shock

intergalacticbrexitdisco · 13/06/2017 01:18

Oooh, someone else wants 'Stokke, Bugaboo or iCandy pram' in vgc.

:)

TheMysteriousJackelope · 13/06/2017 01:47

Half these people are getting free stuff and selling it.

Justdontgetitatall · 13/06/2017 02:14

Rollon Shock And they wanted it for free?!?!?!?!?

Justdontgetitatall · 13/06/2017 02:15

Ohwhatfuckery What are gubbins? X

Justdontgetitatall · 13/06/2017 02:18

Dimples Omg! That's awful. And how on earth did you get a house so quick?? X

Justdontgetitatall · 13/06/2017 02:20

Mupflup Shock !!!!!! What were his responses?! X

Ginger782 · 13/06/2017 02:26

Well bugger me.
When DH and I married and had only enough $ for our rent, our (second hand) mattress sat on the floor for 12 months because we saved to buy a bed. I turned our packing boxes on their sides and stacked them to create a "wardrobe" and hung business shirts from the curtain rods to stop them from creasing. We cooked every meal from our one saucepan until we saved to buy more kitcgen stuff.
And we had a wonderful time! Our friends had no problems having fish and chip picnics on a rug on the floor drinking cheap wine from water glasses.

What a fool - I could have posted a wish list on FB and had it all delivered for free! Grin

HirplesWithHaggis · 13/06/2017 02:43

Justdontgetit, "gubbins" just means "stuff" or "things". So, "Where can I get a Dyson Airblade fan thingy?" gets the answer, "House of Fraser" (a reasonable quality chain department store). "Where can I get a ?" - "House of Fraser" etc.

DimplesToadfoot · 13/06/2017 03:43

Justdontgetitatall

Dimples Omg! That's awful. And how on earth did you get a house so quick?? X

A friend was renting, she told her landlord what had happened to me that morning, she replied saying she had an empty house and gave her the key to give to me.

Whole story - I lived with the kids dad, in our own home mortgaged he woke us at 6.30 "get up get up theres a fire", I jumped up, ran and grabbed the kids, shoo'd them out of the house turned around to see my now ex slam the front door on us and refuse to let us back in, there was no fire. I lived 2 mins from the police station, we walked up there, bare footed in just our jammies, the police said "domestic" and refused to help us.
Even solicitors couldn't get us back in, there was protocol that had to be followed ..

we all lost everything and I went into survival mode .. I had to fight .. for the kids sake .. thank god for the kindness of friends and strangers or I would have broken inside

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/06/2017 03:50

Jeez Dimples that is breathtakingly cruel.

Did you ever find out what had led him to do such an awful thing? I cant imagine anyone doing that unless they were drunk or on drugs or very very ill.

Did you get your share of the house, your possessions, anything? Sorry to ask so many questions but my mind is blown by that. What an absolute cunt. I hope that his life is utter SHITE.

DimplesToadfoot · 13/06/2017 04:29

PyongyangKipperbang

I found out he was shagging my best friend who wanted my life :-/
so she moved in, then found out my life actually sucked and she had done me huge favours

we never got our stuff, none of it, the kids clothes toys, my clothes, but that's fine, were not materialistic and we survived, we suffered more as he refused to let us have the dog, the dog had been adopted in his name so he took it back to the kennels who then refused to let us have him .. we got kicked every which way
eventually I forced the sale of the house and that got us back on our feet, debts repaid etc

last I heard he got totally fleeced by a woman, who spent all his money and then threw him out and he's now a raging alky .. but whether there is any truth in that I have no idea .. tbh I don't really care

Woobeedoo · 13/06/2017 07:08

Apologies Dimples there are probably exceptions to what I wrote.