Got background married, have DS13yo and DS10mo. Have mild PND on meds. Baby is poor sleeper, wakes twice a night and husband works away a lot/ does long hours.
Today feel exhausted but house is a mess/ needs cleaning. I say to DH I feel like having a nap (with the baby) how do u feel about doing the cleaning while I nap? Bearing in mind he has only ever done a full house clean ONCE and does very little cleaning. He agrees.
I feed the baby at 1530 and he falls asleep. I fall asleep after feeding baby. We both wake up at 6.
Goes downstairs, no cleaning done DH playing on phone. Asked him what he been doing he says I cleaned behind the oven and hoovered downstairs. 😡
Feel a bit miffed because he agreed to do cleaning but hasn't done any of the actual house cleaning that you can see, i.e. Internal glass, floor
Mopping, bathrooms/ toilets, general moving away of mess.
Then he says he's doing some gravel raking in the garden and heads outside. So I start cleaning with a cloth in one hand and baby in the other.
Decide to go outside and tell him how
miffed I am that he hasn't done any of the house cleaning and just cleaned behind the oven that no one can even see, and he says "if you've just come out to have a go at me don't bother".
So I ask him why can't I talk to him about this? Why can't I tell him in miffed off? He says same thing so I just go indoors, carry on cleaning for 10 mins ish. Fuming.
Then I decide to go out. Ask DS1 to come into loving with baby for a few mins, tell him DH is in back garden and after that this cartoon ends take baby to DH.
Drive off.
Cue panicking call from DH where are you? When are you coming back? Etc.. told him I'm out and I'll be back in a bit 🙊
I know this isn't exactly worst thing in world but I'm pissed off, DH does very little housework, cooking, shopping, baby minding, clothes organizing, school stuff, nursery stuff etc etc. For once I wouldn't have to clean/ do EVERYTHING and he hasn't done it then told me I can't be mad about it!! AIBU to just check into a hotel for the night and let him just fucking deal with everything?