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Original poster

To not go to this anti natal test?

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:27

I posted yesterday about an ultrasound at 5 weeks with just a thickened lining and hcg of 239. They want me to go and have more bloods drawn.

I spent the night in tears convinced the worst after googling, but looking at it now I think it's unnecessary.

Had I not gone to hospital saying I was spotting (I had one spot smaller than my little finger nail, it was like a dot) they wouldn't have done any of this and I wouldn't be worrying. With my first child they couldn't see much on an early scan and it was okay.

I overreacted and now I'm having extra tests that I don't think I need. Why are they putting me through this?!

Would I be unreasonable to not go? I have severe anxiety and the stress is so high

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Original poster
DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:27

Antenatal.

Ignore my spelling error

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SleepFreeZone · 10/06/2017 10:29

Well I would say that you should go. Is there a chance of ectopic? I would want to know as soon as possible if my HCG was rising and yet they couldn't find anything via scans.

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:30

They think they saw a sac but couldn't say for sure, so they don't think it's ectopic but said they can't rule it out.

I'm not having any symptoms of it so why test me if they aren't testing everyone?

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DJBaggySmalls · 10/06/2017 10:31

YABU, your anxiety is causing you to blame the test for the way you feel. Tell yourself there is nothing stressful about a scan and just get it done. Google cant check your baby, the hospital can.

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:32

But if I hadn't overreacted they wouldn't be doing any tests :(

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RedHelenB · 10/06/2017 10:33

YABU it's a blood test that could help determine an ectopic pregnancy that could endanger your life.

ItsAHardKn0ckLife · 10/06/2017 10:33

Surely if you don't go there'd be doubt niggling away, making you more anxious?
Good luck whatever you choose to do Flowers

CBG17 · 10/06/2017 10:34

And then you might not have discovered that there was an issue until much later when you were very sick (if there is an issue at all).

What's done is done, better to follow through now as your anxiety won't go away until you know one way or the other.

Remember the test won't change the outcome, it merely tells you the results.

babykite · 10/06/2017 10:34

If it was that small why did you even tell/call them?
I had my hcg levels checked for 7 weeks, I was only 4 weeks when they started doing it. But I was getting side pain and that seemed to scream ectopic, but all was fine

Heirhelp · 10/06/2017 10:36

As there is a risk of an eptoic pregnancy you need to go.

The way I see it there are 3 outcomes

  1. you go and all is well and your stress is reduced.
  2. there is more concern and you may have a risk of miscarriage and you will be aware of what may happen and/or need monitoring for retained products
  3. you have an eptopic pregnancy for which you will need urgent medical care or it may be. Risk to your life.

It is such stressful time op and not easy. Flowers

AliTheMinx · 10/06/2017 10:36

Are they aware of your anxiety? They may think that this test will alleviate your worry as opposed to heightening it. After several miscarriages I was scanned at 5w6d after a positive pregnancy test. They could see the sac but nothing else as too early. They said by 8 weeks they should be able to tell one way or the other. It was a very very long 2 weeks, but I held out and it was good news when they found the heartbeat. If you are able to hold out a little longer that may give you a more conclusive answer, but maybe these tests will help to put your mind at rest? Good luck, OP. Big hugs xx

SleepFreeZone · 10/06/2017 10:36

I nearly didn't go to so many of my scans with my last successful pregnancy as I had such a huge fear of being given bad news (after three miscarriages). I was having panic attacks and wouldn't allow them to switch the screen on. I was a mess the whole pregnancy. But I always went and has the scans/tests anyway.

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:36

If it was that small why did you even tell/call them?

Because I'm an anxious idiot. DP didn't think I needed to go to hospital and when I explained how little it was they seemed to be fine with it.

They even said they were happy to send me away until 7 weeks because I was so early but I insisted on a scan and now they're doing all this :(

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:39

Minx yes but I don't know if they know just how anxious I get. Part of me thinks it'll reassure me but I'm also worried it'll cause more stress.

I mean my hormone levels are normal but I keep stressing about it not being "average" which is ridiculous so I know I'll do it again

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pandarific · 10/06/2017 10:49

It's not overreacting to report a concern. It's really normal for them to check you out, just go and get it over with. Better you know more rather than less.

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:53

Yeah but why are they checking it because one brown spot isn't any concern.

Also I keep finding things out about hcg levels with some things telling me my numbers are too low and others saying it's fine Hmm

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babykite · 10/06/2017 10:56

Sorry didn't mean to seem like I was having a go, if it was very minimal I wouldn't have said anything. Bleeding is so common in the early days.
Please turn up though, they are just doing their job and making sure to follow everything through. I get you are anxious but I'm sure everything will be okay

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 10:57

I don't think anyone's having a go i want people to be honest

I wish I hadn't reported it. Because now I'm worrying something is wrong despite there being no reason for those thoughts

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troodiedoo · 10/06/2017 10:59

Googling is causing you unnecessary worrying. The test will put your mind at rest.
There is a case for saying there are too many tests. But ultimately it's for your benefit. Hope it all goes well for you. Flowers

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 11:01

This happened with my eldest. I had an early scan at 6 weeks and they couldnt see a fetal pole. I spent the weekend crying. Had another scan a few days later and there was a heartbeat.

I'm angry at myself because I said I wouldn't have early tests again.

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AliTheMinx · 10/06/2017 11:22

So sorry you are going through this, but in your case I think I would definitely have the test, because that will give you a more conclusive answer before you are able to have another scan. I think if you don't have it you will continue to worry, and perhaps the test results will help to put your mind at ease earlier and relieve some of the anxiety, especially as it sounds as though there isn't any real cause for concern. At my scan at 5w6d they just saw an empty sac, and said it was likely it could still look empty at 7W, which was why they urged me to wait until 8W if I could hold out that long. It was a terrifying time. I drove myself mad Googling every twinge and symptom and convinced myself I was losing another baby, and then I worried that this stress was affecting the baby. It was a vicious circle. If I had been offered a test at your stage I would definitely have taken it. Good luck with whatever you decide. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best xx

PacificDogwod · 10/06/2017 11:24

It is up to you whether you have further tests.

A repeat blood test after 48 can advise on whether the pregnancy is ongoing normally. Might it not put your mind at rest?

I hope you have good support for your anxiety - it's a vicious thing to be living with Thanks

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DragonsandDungeons · 10/06/2017 11:25

Minx Thats how I feel. I worry about it then I worry about the worry then if I manage to not worry for a few minutes I worry about that! I'm probably going to go I feel so worried.

Does anyone know the chances of everything being normal? I was 5 weeks LMP but I think I'm actually a few days earlier because my periods were a bit irregular.

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AliTheMinx · 10/06/2017 11:26

Just wanted to add that I am sure they are aware of how anxious you are and suspect that this is why they have offered the test to help to put your mind at rest, as opposed to any real concern about the pregnancy xx

Neverknowing · 10/06/2017 11:28

I would defiantly have the tests, they clearly think it's important enough to do them. Also if anything was wrong you'll be very upset about not going.

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