To hate the term 'Making memories'?

[NotBigBrotherAgain]

It just makes me cringe!

Someone that I know is continually hashtagging it on Facebook and Instagram. Even a walk to the local shop with her kids is #makingmemories.

AIBU?

I just saw a photo of someone's DDs with several hashtags including #raisinggoddesses

It's cringey.
I'm sure I did 'memory making' sort of stuff, but looking back several years later it's the weird things you remember, or the bad behaviour, like my ds throwing poo at the wall. I didn't need to hashtag that because its emblazoned on my mind forever.

While its Each to their own, I'm sorely tempted to come off FB for this reason because I am getting so down on all the fakery. It enrages me to quite an unhealthy level sometimes.

On the back of this thread I just asked DS what his favourite part of last years holiday to Cyprus was - his answer? The snack box on the plane

Haha English girl, reminds me of when we took our DC to watch England play in a football match (first time for them going to watch England) - afterwards when asked the best part they said staying at the Travel Lodge!!

While its Each to their own, I'm sorely tempted to come off FB for this reason because I am getting so down on all the fakery. It enrages me to quite an unhealthy level sometimes.

I think coming off Facebook would be a good idea if it's causing you ire. I don't much like the kind of things being here either in the sense I'd not do it; perhaps as I don't see it often it doesn't wind me up and I think if people are happy and want to share that in whichever way they wish then it's not harming anyone. I don't like comments such as "#goals" or the way language is often employed on much of social media by some but try to ignore it.

If anyone wants to make me a memory they can make me lunch. I'll remember that until I eat dinner.

What does famalam mean?

Love these. Took dd to London for first time aged 8. Open top Bus tour, tussauds, planet Hollywood... her favourite part was watching the girl make her pancake on Westminster Bridge. Not even eating it!

There's a lot of "hate" for something which is essentially a positive thought.

I don't say it, but I don't reckon it's worthy of something as strong as hate.

It annoys me too, and I think it's because some sort of control is being exerted (this could just be my personal history speaking!), as if the parents want to make the memories.

For example, my mother likes to recall the time we went to watch the Tall Ships with my cousins. My overriding recollection of this event is my mirth when my aunt allowed one of my cousins to piss into a bottle because there was no toilet nearby!

Yes a very judgey wiman often uses this when I mention I am not "into" things that her brother does with his kids.
So a conversation where she was discussing the elf on the shelf and telling me I ought to do it for my 11 year old. I said I thought it wasn't really for us. "Well I guess we're just into making memories".
As a result I know anyone using it is on a snark or fake offensive. I get the bitchy urgr to counter #fakingmemories.
It's all bollocks isn't it?!

YANBU, OP.

Maudlin nonsense same as that ghastly gas advert (or any other that's jumped on the bandwagon) referencing 'your world'.
to the moon and back

My MIL is obsessed with #makingmemories I told her my memorys tend to just happen I don't have to go out of my way to make happy times with 20 facebook posts she was not impressed.

Elf on the shelf is bonkers!

I find it a bit odd that people think folk who upload photos to fb are doing it for the viewer's benefit.

A friend's husband recently had a bit of a pop at me at a party. He said that he was 'too busy' on holiday to upload photos and that I spent too much time on fb during my holidays.

What I actually do is spend less than 5 minutes a day creating a diary of my holiday. I usually do this just before bed.

I've since resisted the urge to ask which kept him busiest... getting wasted every day at the AI bar; getting horribly burnt because he falls asleep, drunk by the pool which he never appears to move from, or looking at my holiday photos on his wife's fb.

The party was the day after we'd both returned from holiday. His wife had posted all of the above from their Spanish hotel, but I wasn't aware of that during the conversation!

We were in our touring caravan in Wales. I'm not sure why my holiday diary irked him so. There were no hashtags, blessed emojis, or references to memory making.

Perhaps he's just an enormous grump .

Offherhead #fakingmemories that's perfect!

Shocker, I think a large percentage of FB posters are doing it for the viewer's benefit.
Or, maybe not the viewer's benefit, but for some strange need they have, to be praised by their FB friends for having such a Wonderful Life

Ugh elf on the shelf, that's reminded me of Christmas eve boxes

There's too much social media competition about who can make the best memories. It's such a load of crap. I remember more of the stuff we did all the time - like making 'food' with mud and water in the garden, rose petal perfume etc

When I look at photos of holidays/days out which would now be #makingmemories, I remember absolutely nothing about them.

Kerala and another PP nail it.

Also whoever said something about the random things they remember. If we do something amazing and I ask DD what her favourite part was she'll say something like "having a packet of Wotsits" or similar.

I just taught my dd (10) how to do boiled eggs. She asked for some for lunch, I decided I'd been a bad mummy too long it was time I got on and taught her so we did it. I showed her how to turn the gas hob on, bit of safety etc, how to put eggs in without breaking them, she did toast etc and watched the clock for the eggs. It was nice and she felt good for doing it.

It did cross my mind that some sad parents would be less focused on actually teaching her and more focused on taking pictures of her in various poses with an egg, completely missing the moment, to then post it on instagram/Facebook with some awful hashtag of #makingmemories 🤢

I've managed to teach my dd how to do eggs and spend that little bit time with her and no one knows about it! Well except mn now

I find the phrase "making memories" depressing because it's not about living in the now and enjoying yourself now. It seems to imply a miserable future where you'll need happy memories to look back on because you'll have nothing else.

Apologies cory - you described some great times in your post

The assumption being the #memories they're making are good ones?

#relationship goals
Lush
Mamma (I love being a mamma)
Hubby

All cringe

"I find the phrase "making memories" depressing because it's not about living in the now and enjoying yourself now. It seems to imply a miserable future where you'll need happy memories to look back on because you'll have nothing else."

Yes, I think you've summed up pretty exactly what my family member feels. And why it's important.

(poster nether Sat 10-Jun-17 07:35:47)

Not sure i agree. The only part of their early childhoods that my children remember that have me in them are holidays. They don't even remember all the stories i read them (again and again and again at their bequest). Id rather be remembered for cleaning hotdog sick off a foot than not at all.

My three can't remember anything! We told them we taken them to Florida (Tenby in caravan) and had them believing it for a while! Ds will occasionally remember food related things..Falmouth..that's where the seagull ate my pasty...Not a fan of #anything or making memories.Especially when it's stuff like taking them to the park in the school holidays to stop them killing each other in the house.