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Do you lend your parents things?

41 replies

Herbie22 · 08/06/2017 21:13

I just took an overnight bag to my mum's because she is going away this weekend. OH said this was weird as she should have her own bag and not borrow off me. Yet he borrows off his dad all the time. He said that was different because he was the child in the relationship.
FWIW my mum does have her own overnight bag she just wanted to borrow mine as it's a bit bigger.

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Highalert · 08/06/2017 21:15

Of course I would.

NoCapes · 08/06/2017 21:16

Confused what an odd attitude your DH has

FelixtheMouse · 08/06/2017 21:17

We own no luggage and always borrow off DCs. Why wouldn't families loan stuff to other members? DCs borrow tools and car from us?

Want2beme · 08/06/2017 21:21

Very puzzled by this. It makes no difference what your relationship is to the person you're lending to & borrowing from.

loveulotslikejellytots · 08/06/2017 21:33

Yeah my in laws borrow my dog all the time Grin. They don't have the time for a dog full time, they pop off for weekends here there and everywhere and it wouldn't be fair to leave a dog with friends or in kennels all the time. So we got a dog on the agreement that they looked after him when we went away. They like walking in the woods too so they come and pick him up every other weekend for a woodland walk. Spoilt dog!

Birdsbeesandtrees · 08/06/2017 21:35

Can't say as I do but I certainly borrow theirs !

If I ever had anything they wanted to borrow then I would.

Emboo19 · 08/06/2017 21:40

Ha, your dh's attitude is weird. I lend my parents stuff. I don't consider myself the child in the relationship though, I'm their daughter but I'm no longer a child.

Reminds me, my mums still got a pair of my shoes she borrowed a whole back!

Emboo19 · 08/06/2017 21:40

While not whole

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Siwdmae · 08/06/2017 22:05

How bloody weird! Of course I'd lend them stuff/borrow stuff if I lived close enough!

KinkyAfro · 08/06/2017 22:19

So he's allowed to lend his parents stuff but it's weird that you do? Only thing weird is him....bizarre

Nymerialuna · 08/06/2017 22:37

I'm always lending my mum stuff. She can't really afford to buy herself things and its a waste if she had to buy something for a one off when we can easily it lend it to her. But even if she could afford it, what's the point if she only needs it as a one off and we aren't using it at the time?
I would tell DH that it's your mum and you will lend her what you like.

LadySalmakia · 08/06/2017 22:40

No because we're miles away but that's not weird at all.

Northgate · 08/06/2017 22:42

I'd happily lend my parents things if I had something they wanted to borrow. DH also lends his parents things.

Your OH's reasoning is weird. Why shouldn't an adult lend things to their parents? He may be their child, but he's not an actual child anymore.

GreeboIsACutePussPuss · 08/06/2017 22:43

Not anymore, but only because my mother is absolutely crap at taking care of possessions and ruined a few bits I had lent her, I do lend her money occasionally though and we are always lending MIL and F

Camomila · 08/06/2017 22:43

Of course, DM and I do it with clothes and bags all the time. It means both have double the amount of clothes and bags!

ClumsyFool · 08/06/2017 22:43

How bizarre! My mum and I frequently borrow things from each other. When either of us go on holiday the other will bring an assortment of clothing to go through to see what they want to take with them.

We actually have a shared dress that we bought for an occasion that we each had separately so maybe we're at the other end of the odd scale 😂. We also regularly lend each other handbags and jewellery, I'm just gutted we're not the same shoe size!

acornsandnuts · 08/06/2017 22:44

I think that says a lot about his mindset still a child and maturity. Surely as adults we can chose to lend and borrow of and too anyone we wish too. Odd.

GreeboIsACutePussPuss · 08/06/2017 22:44

sigh, fat fingers MIL and FIL stuff

Louiselouie0890 · 08/06/2017 23:48

What a bizarre attitude to have. Quite a spoilt one too. Why wouldn't you help a family member in need

Nocabbageinmyeye · 08/06/2017 23:51

Of course! Your dh sounds like a meaner! He'll take but won't give Confused

Seren85 · 09/06/2017 00:01

How odd! Your DH's stance I mean. I often lend my Mum stuff e g kitchenware or a handbag or a small suitcase to use as carry on. I also borrow stuff from my parents eg decent stepladders or again handbag from my Mum. Why buy something to use it infrequently if you can share with other adults? Surely as a grown up 'child' it is no different to lending something to a friend.

Pinkheart5919 · 09/06/2017 00:04

Yes absolutely I'd lend something to my parents as they would me. I find your dh thinking it's odd, very strange indeed!

Whereismumhiding2 · 09/06/2017 00:11

Yes of course. I borrow off of /and loan things to my parents, friends and sister all the time. Isnt that normal? I always say to my parents, let me check if i have one, as no sense in them buying new if I can loan. I even (with permission) borrow my 12 y.o.'s cute red clutchbag if it matches my outfit (ok, I owned it first but she loved it and gets more use out of it, so it became hers.. )

AcrossthePond55 · 09/06/2017 00:46

Of course I lent my parents things! Everything from a baking dish to our car.

Why ever is that 'weird'?

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