to think getting up early isn't an indication of moral superiority?

[MaryJObliged]

I do get up early most days (between 6 and 6:30am) so I have time to walk the dog and go to the gym before my long commute to work or so I get more time to work when I work from home. But I've never seen this as some kind of positive side to my character or indication of my moral superiority. I just do it because it's practical for my life.

My mother, however, is of the opinion that people who "lounge around" in bed until 7 or 8am are lazy bastards who don't know that they're missing the best time of the day. When she comes to stay on weekends she'll stand at my living room window first thing (say about 8-8:30am) commenting on all the drawn curtains and the lazy buggers asleep when they could be cracking on with accomplishing things.

This is a very odd attitude to me but I've found quite a few people in my life share this perspective. Am I being unreasonable? Or am I, in fact, morally superior because of my early mornings ?

Well, I love a lie in AND an afternoon nap. But I'd happily stay up till 1am on a work night, and later at the weekends.

I think my life is reasonably together.

I was painting my lounge at 2am this morning. Managed to get an hour's sleep before waking up with DS breakfast, getting him sorted and into school. Went back to bed and now will be wide awake till probably the same time.

I wish everyone else would operate on my body's timescale ;)

Tell your mum to stop curtain twitching!

Maybe people are having a lovely shag of a morning with the curtains closed.

I'd much rather that than peel myself out of bed at the sparrow's fart to get down the gym/tackle a mountain of laundry.

Happy to be a slattern.

Your Mum would hate me. My curtains weren't open until ten this morning, but I was up with DD until gone three. Got up at 8.50, showered, sorted out the dogs and then went and did curtains.

I miss working lates. Getting up early for work sucks.

I'm also lucky that DD has never been an early riser, even as a baby. But it's pure hell for us both getting up to get to school/work. I'm ok as long as no one talks to me before about 10am.

Nah, you can keep your morals.

I'd rather be up late; it's not socially acceptable to drink in the morning and all the good tv is on in the evening. I'd rather have the time then!

Well I happen to think midnight-3am is a great time of day over the weekend when partying.
So no way am I up on a Saturday or Sunday anytime before 11am!
Even if I'm awake, I refuse to get up until I've hit '8 hours' in bed.

My mother, however, is of the opinion that people who "lounge around" in bed until 7 or 8am are lazy bastards who don't know that they're missing the best time of the day.

Oh my GOD I had a friend like this.

Thought I was a loser because I wanted to sleep till 11/12 on holidays instead of getting up at 8 to sightsee.

My BF is like this - thinks I am wasting my time lying in, and that he is so much better because he wakes up at 8 and plays Playstation and watches TV

Me and DP don't get out of bed much before 4pm on a Sunday

I tend to sleep late - I have depression and this causes insomnia, so once I am asleep, I find it very hard to wake up again.

Unfortunately I have absorbed the belief that it is 'wrong' to lie in, and I call myself lazy etc for doing so - even when I am so tired I can hardly keep my eyes open - and that self-condemnation doesn't help the depression!

I love sleeping - mainly because my dreams > my actual life, LOL

Moral superiority my arse. I'm up at 5am every morning. Go to sleep around 10.30pm. It's just how my body clock works now...no reflectionà on me. I never use an alarm clock, so it's not even intentional!

TBH, I'm a bit annoyed that none of you agree with my mum and, therefore, think I'm brilliant.

I hadn't thought that people would be shagging in bed while my mum curtain twitches and tuts. Perhaps people should be shagging with their curtains open and in full view so my mum knows that they are in fact awake

Yes that's interesting bumblebee I think women felt far more judged and were judged as home makers back in the day and of viurze they had loads more manual tasks to do.

My gran cleaned her step and I am 50. Bless her

I'm lark, an early bird - but I'm sooooooooooo GLAD others aren't - I really relish the silent solitude of early mornings - I get 3 hours of relaxation and time actually to myself before the household awakens at the weekend.

I know people like this, they really do think that it makes them somehow superior, yet I dont think that when they have to go to bed at 9pm and I can stay up until 4am!

My mum especially is very funny about lying in. She still gets up at the same time she did when she was at work, I asked her what the point was of retiring if she couldnt have a lie in! I think its guilt though for her, "up and doing" was my Grandads motto and I suspect that lie ins were only allowed if you were at deaths door, so on the odd occasion she does sleep in she will have to justify it.

LBOC Yeah you miss all the best telly if you are in bed at the watershed! :o

Ah I see I'm up at them by 6 because, life etc but if I had the choice I'd spend all day horizontal. According to my mum I'm still guilty of sloth.

Let's be clear. Up at 6 but don't want to be, the height of laziness.

Looool, @op , yes not just awake but engaging in physical activity! Now how worthy is that?!

To be fair, it was wishful thinking on my part, I am curtain-closed guilty and am seldom found to be getting jiggy, more like pigging out on a family size bag of chips while perusing Netflix. Love those days though!!! Sorry mum!!

I'd be inclined to ask if hasn't she got anything better to do than pass derogatory comments on strangers and maybe their curtains are closed because they want privacy from the like of her?
It's not a 'generational thing' or any other ageist statement either. I'm that age and it's none of my business what others are doing, as long as they aren't hurting someone else.
I spend my working life doing all kinds of shift working, so could be in bed at all times of day - maybe your neighbours are shift workers, have been up half the night with babies/sick children/ sick adults and are needing to catchup on a bit of sleep.
No moral superiority in being up early or late - maybe a bit of it in minding ones own business though.

As long as you're getting some exercise lemonzest
It's all good

BiL is an early riser and thinks nothing of phoning the landline at 7.15am.

I'm a night owl, 8am is my ideal time to get up (ha! Said the toddler), child maintenance all day, cook supper, eat, tidy after supper, sit down around 8pm and by 9-9.30 I'm ready to do stuff! 10.30pm is the cleaning golden hour!

My father is the same, he doesn't believe that a person can stay up late/wake up early and be a productive person! I was homeschooled for my A Levels and would do the majority of my work between 11pm and 4am, sleep until midday, see my tutor and friends in the afternoon/evening - it worked wonderfully for me, but my father insisted that I couldn't possibly be working hard enough!

You're with the wrong people! I don't know anyone who thinks like this. Getting up early is a hardship for many people, most of my friends anyway. My own parents struggle to get up before 8-9am and are horrified when the DCs are up by 7!