DH and I are recently married. We'd been to visit a city a while ago and fell in love with it, and have been planning to move there. I have a few interviews, as does he, but he's not happy about them as they either pay a lot less than he was hoping for, or they'd be a step down career-wise. We'd still be much better off financially on those salaries, and the way I look at it we need any old job to secure accommodation, and then can look for something better once we actually live there.
DH has applied for and got an interview at a job quite a way away from the city we were planning, and it's a live in position, but only for him. It's the same position as he wanted and pays a lot. He's saying it would be good because I can either still live in the original city and we save up to buy, or we find somewhere in this new town and I can start applying for jobs there.
Thing is, I know it makes sense, but I don't want to start married life by living apart from each other. Not that I would ever move to a new place on my own anyway. And as nice as this other town is, it's not what we had originally planned. I'd fallen in love with the city and am really upset that the plan has changed.
He has a proper career, so his job is more important than mine. He's originally said he wanted to take a step back and move down a position, but now he's saying he doesn't want to do that and so it's harder to find a job for him that pays what he expects. Thing is though, living costs are so much cheaper that wed still be so much better off than we are now that I really don't think it makes much difference.
AIBU to be upset? I had this idea in my head of what we'd be doing and now suddenly the plan has changed. He's not actually got the job yet but he's done a Skype interview and they said they'd just like to meet him in person before they sort out the paperwork, so to me it sounds likely he's going to be offered it.