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not to have agreed to pay for something of strangers that my child lost?

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LottieG100 · 04/06/2017 22:40

I took DS and DD swimming today. DD got out to use the children's slide. In the meantime, a lady put some ear plugs in and the container on the side of the pool. DD tripped over this as she turned around and fell over onto her knees. The lady came over and said that DD had knocked her earrings that had been in the (open) case down the drain. I apologised but couldn't hear her too well as I was consoling a crying DD over her sore knees. When DD calmed down, the woman demanded I pay the £100 the earrings apparently cost. I apologised again but said it was an accident and there's good reason for the signs saying to leave valuables in the lockers provided in the changing rooms. She began swearing at me so we moved away but I saw her complaining to staff later who didn't approach me so I presume they were of the same opinion as me.

AIBU to not have agreed to pay?

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ShelaghTurner · 04/06/2017 23:25

She's either on the rob or stupid. Either way YANBU. Cheek of her.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 04/06/2017 23:33

Knowing me I would have probably given her the money back

Given her money back? Back for what?

That is exactly what people like her count on. Mugs. Why would you give money for something that you didn't even know existed and that wasn't yours or your DC fault even if it had which it didn't. No wonder there are so many people ready to rip other people off. Op was in the right.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 05/06/2017 11:25

I did an assertiveness training course once. Everyone else on the course was there to improve their assertiveness (I was there to tone down mine!). One of the exercises was for us to pair up and ask the other person for £5, for no good reason, we just wanted it. The number of people who said "yes, ok then!"
Scary.
It's OK TO SAY NO!

NavyandWhite · 05/06/2017 11:29

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purplecollar · 05/06/2017 11:29

YANBU sounds like a scam to me. Who would leave their expensive earrings by the drain on the swimming pool side?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 05/06/2017 11:34

Yes, N&W, I can. After my experience on the assertiveness course, yes. There are people who would.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 05/06/2017 11:40

Bloody hell who's stupid enough to leave £100 earrings at the side of the pool! I wouldn't have paid up either. The locker is for valuables! YNBU.

Hope your DD is okay today.

NavyandWhite · 05/06/2017 11:43

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expatinscotland · 05/06/2017 11:49

Oh, fuck her off! What a chancer! She's the one responsible for her valuables. Signs are up about that everywhere. She approached me again I'd tell her I was suing her for leaving a hazard about in the pool area and causing my daughter to trip and there is no way she was getting a penny from me.

OhSoggyBiscuit · 05/06/2017 11:51

That's her problem for not using the lockers, wouldn't give her a penny, OP.

ImperialBlether · 05/06/2017 11:54

She's the one who should be in trouble for leaving a trip hazard in such a dangerous place.

FreeSpiritJen · 05/06/2017 11:55

What a stupid woman! I would report her to the swimming pool OP. She is taking the piss and trying to scam people. Disgraceful.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 05/06/2017 11:55

I would have complained to staff about her language tbh.

ArchieStar · 05/06/2017 12:02

YADNBU, sounds like a chancer. Your poor DD!

SapphireStrange · 05/06/2017 12:06

I would have complained to staff about her language tbh

I would report her to the swimming pool OP. She is taking the piss and trying to scam people.

I was going to say these two things. Also put in your complaint that she caused an accident by ignoring health and safety/security warnings.

kierenthecommunity · 05/06/2017 12:09

I'm another one wondering how big the ear plug box was that it was a trip hazard Shock

YANBU, those earrings didn't exist

SapphireStrange · 05/06/2017 12:11

For heaven's sake. Why do people think something has to be a certain size for someone to trip over it? Confused

It's irrelevant anyway; the DD DID trip over it, whether it fits into your personal world view or not.

rightwhine · 05/06/2017 12:14

yep. The cheek of it.

fannydaggerz · 05/06/2017 12:15

No I wouldn't pay

hmcAsWas · 05/06/2017 12:17

"I did an assertiveness training course once. Everyone else on the course was there to improve their assertiveness (I was there to tone down mine!)"

Had to stifle at laugh at your bracketed comment ThumbWitches Grin

kierenthecommunity · 05/06/2017 12:29

For heaven's sake. Why do people think something has to be a certain size for someone to trip over it?

It's irrelevant anyway; the DD DID trip over it, whether it fits into your personal world view or not.

it's not exactly a personal word view, more a pondering on basic physics Grin

earplug boxes are about two cm in diameter one cm tall,and weight about an ounce. how that gives sufficient leverage to trip a child who presuambly must weigh at least two stone is baffling

zzzzz · 05/06/2017 12:31

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SapphireStrange · 05/06/2017 12:33

Baffling and yet it happened, kieren.

Really don't see why people are getting hung up on this.

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/06/2017 12:36

I understand people's doubts about "tripping over" the box, but standing on something hard (and unexpected) in bare feet could easily make someone lose their balance and fall.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 05/06/2017 12:36

Hope your little girl is alright.
Who would go swimming and take their expensive earrings with them, and then leave them at the side of the pool 🙄
I too call 'scam'.

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