I'm starting to find it harder and harder to not say something!

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My paternal grandparents are right wing foreign hating typically council (although you wouldn't believe It, as they seem to think they're descendents of the queen) now, I understand the animosity to an extent, especially in the aftermath of a terror attack. But thinking back over my childhood, I can't remember a time stupid racist comments weren't made. Now we have Facebook and it's all written in print. 'Send them back' 'they'll never be British' and this isn't just aimed at Muslims, they're very inherently white supremacy. We don't speak. We had an unrelated falling out over my dad's affair and subsequent behaviour towards me and my sister's.
With every post I want to post ahem... 'What about me and my sister's then?' Because the skeleton in our family closet is somehow, my dad ended up being mixed race. Which means that, me, my sister's and my dad are not fully 'British' in their eyes and I can't help that their hateful rhetoric will soon be backtracked once I bring up this point. It's one of those things we've always been aware of, but no.one talks about it. Isn't that nice?

I fear if I explain anything I'll dig myself a further hole. So all I can do is apologise again.

zucker the most information I've gotten is from my mum, and things she's picked up over the years. My dad seems to be slightly in denial despite his obvious differences, as he also has quite a racist outlook. I don't feel it's my place to ask but I guess now I don't really have any paternal family (My dad had an affair, left the family and decided he wanted nothing to do with us when I was 20) I've just been rather curious. My family tree is squiffy anyway, while both my nans can trace their parentage back fairly far my paternal lineages are abit more complicated. My great nan slept with a sailor so my maternal grandad doesn't know who his real dad is either.

I hate this stereotype.

I grew up in a council house and was raised by a single mother who relied on benefits. I left school at 14, worked NMW jobs and now I'm a single mum living in a council house relying on benefits. Neither of us are racist.

There are people with right wing views in all walks of life and it's really unfair to say that racism is "typically council".

But, that aside, you would not be wrong to challenge them and tell them how hurtful it is to you.It sounds like they need to be pulled up on it.

Sorry OP, cross posted with your last 2 posts.

Older generations are set in their ways and it's hard to get them to see reality even though we can see it clear as day. My grandparents are deceased, but my paternal grandmother would casually make comments that "men make better leaders than women" and subtle racist comments. In the same breath, she would tell me I need to go out there and make something of myself all after she would tell me that men make better leaders, etc. That side of the family lives in denial and it's very hard for me not to flip out on them, so I tend to avoid them. I can't imagine having them blast these things on fb though. That must be awful and I'm sorry. Maybe you should block them.

I'm 'council', (3 generations ) but I won't hold that comment against you.

My family are the same, unfortunately. I grew up listening to awful things being said like they were fact.

I was born in 1983 and I clearly remember an election when my mum kept saying if Labour get in then she was taking us all out of our local school because we'd all be talking urdu by the end of term.

I was in year 1 and someone had brought Indian sweets (homemade for a celebration) in for us to share and I said as bold as brass to my teacher that my mum wouldn't want me eating paki sweets. My face still burns with shame at that memory.

My nan especially says the most hateful things and justifies it all with it's nothing 'they' wouldn't say about us. She has actually said that 'they' should all be drowned at birth. I cried with anger and told her she was hateful and she told me I wouldn't be saying that when we are at war with them.

I have an aunt who went crazy because her children were going on a trip to a Hindu temple with the school. An uncle that doesn't want black nurses treating him but he's not racist because his best friend is black. Cousins who post Britain First shit all over Facebook. All working class, all Conservative or UKIP voters. My nan loves the Queen and Maggie Thatcher and talks about them like they are distant relatives.

Shameful.

I went to a school where I was one of 5 white British in my class of 30. I had to hear about why it was disgraceful that we were making prayer mats or having an Eid assembly or learning about Rama and Sita.
Thankfully it gave me the opportunity to see that my family were talking shit.

We live in a very multicultural London borough. The racism is everywhere. I have lost count of the number of people at bus stops that tell me how 'they've' ruined the area and how 'they' are taking over.

I have challenged people for as long as I can remember and fallen out with family. White supremacy is alive and kicking.

I think 'typically council' is really offensive so I'm not really interested in hearing whatever point you are trying to make.