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To ring my neighbour's doorbell every half hour

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Bellini81 · 03/06/2017 08:05

To make sure they are up? Back story is we have a house of "professionals" who live four doors along (no idea how many live there, but there is a few of them) and come the summer months they hold regular parties that spill into their back garden and keep us all awake, we knock when they wake our kids up but they are always so very pissed and it's like talking to a bunch toddlers when asking them to take the party indoors.

Last nights party went on till 3am, we went and knocked 4 plus more times before the noise settled down. I've got work today so I can't have a lie on go catch up on my sleep Angry

Would I be unreasonable to go and ring their doorbell every half hour with a cheery smile to make sure they don't get to sleep off their hangover?

I've just lodged a complaint with the local council but I'm sitting here so tired and fed up.

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PersianCatLady · 04/06/2017 19:19

By 2 am he took his baseball bat, marched in past the occupant and proceeded to smash the living daylights out of their sound system
It is ridiculous that going through the proper channels did nothing to help your friend and therefore he was forced to resort to doing this.

If the students had reported your friend he could have been charged with not only criminal damage but also burglary.

It is disgusting that everyday people are forced to resort to committing crimes just to live in peace.

nocampinghere · 04/06/2017 19:22

it's outrageous OP, ignore anyone on here saying it isn't

i am surrounded by neighbours and teenagers

everyone is very respectful. If they are having a party they drop in a note, with a mobile number, asking us to phone if they are disturbing us. Sometimes on a summer's evening it can be a bit noisy - dd just moves into our bed (at the front of the house, not backing onto the garden) and we move her when she is asleep.

that is normal behaviour.

go through the channels. get it dealt with.

Meinmytree · 04/06/2017 19:28

I had someone in the flat above me for a year who was really noisy. She was a student and it's a block for youngish professionals, so she wasn't in the right place to live a student lifestyle.

I put up with the noise from her for about a year (reporting her to her landlord didn't work as her landlord was her dad...), which included things like dropping bowling balls (that's what it sounded like), walking her pet elephant (well, someone who can't be more than 5ft tall and very slim can't possibly thud that much when walking), not parking in the right place and ignoring requests to do so.. once I got woken up at about 3am by the sound of her having rather loud sex. I decided that 6am the following morning would be a great time for a bit of flute practise. In my bedroom. Which is right underneath hers.

In the end I reported her to environmental health for noise pollution. I got a letter advising me they'd written to her. 2 days later she moved out.

milliemolliemou · 04/06/2017 19:28

OP - if you can remember exact dates and times you could back date the diary for environmental health. And if your neighbours are equally exercised about the partying you could ask them to keep one too. And possibly while you're finding out who owns/manages the house you could post a registered letter to them asking them to let the street know when they're going to be having parties (and keep a copy) and let them know why.

I think our remaining police have enough on their hands not to deal with noise disputes in major cities.

Have much the same problem in the country - at least 20 firework parties a year. During which I have to sit on my dog (and no, sedation doesn't work for either of us). Only two of those parties notify us.

grannytomine · 04/06/2017 19:32

I've only called the police once about noise. The woman next door was on holiday, she moans about anything and everything and hates all local kids and was the same with mine when they were kids. Well she went on holiday and her son, in his early 20s, had a noisy party. I was wondering what her reaction was going to be when she got home and saw how they had trashed her garden and if her house was the same.

I was getting really fed up and then the girls started shrieking in the garden. I phoned 999 and said their was a disturbance nextdoor and I could hear women screaming, which was perfectly true, the police arrived quickly and closed the party down. Apparently everyone was OK but police assured me I did the right thing as the shrieking and screaming could have been one of the young women being attacked.

He never did it again and I never heard if they did much damage in the house but he moved out very soon afterwards.

FramptonRose · 04/06/2017 19:33

Apologies if someone had mentioned this and I missed it.
On the Land Registry entries, what address does it show for the proprietors, it should next to their names. Is it the neighbours address or a different one.
I tracked down a landlord of nightmare tenants years ago using the Land Registry entries and went round to his house. He sorted the problem out immediately!

grannytomine · 04/06/2017 19:35

I think our remaining police have enough on their hands not to deal with noise disputes in major cities. The thing is if the police don't deal it can escalate. I remember a noisy party locally where a neighbour was drive to the limit with this happening regularly. One week it got too much and he got his revolver, went round and poked it through a window and shot someone. They died, I think they were 21 or 22. Not worth dying for and I'm sure the investigation and court case took up alot of police time.

Bellini81 · 04/06/2017 19:35

We live in a busy London borough I didnt even think to call the police tbh as I know they are so busy every day of the week. I'll just ring the out of hours ASB number when they do it again next weekend

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PersianCatLady · 04/06/2017 19:39

The landlord was contacted and the tenant was warned then evicted
You were lucky, in that the LL wanted to take action.

If the LL doesn't care, the council can't make them evict the tenant.

Whether a LL cares or not often depends on whether they receive their rent on a regular basis.

Bellini81 · 04/06/2017 19:39

FramptonRose it just shows two female names no other address but some of the party goers we spoke to insisted it was 'some mans' party. If it's rented out would it definitely show the owners address if they live somewhere else do you know?

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piggypoo · 04/06/2017 19:47

Make as much noise as you can, they obviously don't give a shit about the noise, the only way these people understand is a dose of their own medicine, when DD was born, the downstairs flat owners had a huge sound system in their living room, weekly drug-fuelled parties, even bands turning up to play at these improvised "gigs", an absolute nightmare. We tried everything, reasoning with them, complaints, the council even confiscated their stereo, all to no avail. In the end we had a huge party, invited everyone to stamp on the bare floorboards for about 40 minutes, I was happy to see the silly bitch from downstairs running up the road, crying. They moved about 3 weeks later. Good luck to you I say! :)

PersianCatLady · 04/06/2017 19:47

If it's rented out would it definitely show the owners address if they live somewhere else do you know?
Not necessarily.

Next to the names does it show the address where the party was??

curlylocks101 · 04/06/2017 19:55

I had a similar situation at uni. Totally sleep deprived and stressed, I pulled the pin out of my personal security alarm (thanks Mum - it came in handy), knocked and chucked it into their flat when they opened the door. Petty but SO satisfying.

EmpressoftheMundane · 04/06/2017 19:59

Set off your house alarm, mow the lawn, radio out front while washing the car, children practice their instruments, etc.

AlexRose5 · 04/06/2017 20:02

Completely out of character for the guy too! He was just driven to despair . He even frightened himself how angry he got...
But it goes to show how badly the noise was affecting his life. People should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves .

Bellini81 · 04/06/2017 20:03

PersianCatLady yes shows the address 4 doors along to me (party house) and two female names. No other addresses.

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Lillithxxx · 04/06/2017 20:04

You are my hero.
Do you think they consume plenty of alcohol at their parties?
Do they then drive the following morning?
Just one little call.....

StrangeLookingParasite · 04/06/2017 20:04

could have been charged with not only criminal damage but also burglary

I don't know how he could have been charged with burglary if he took nothing?

HaudYerWheeshtBawbag · 04/06/2017 20:11

Well if you are at work you wont be able to knock on every 5 mins, however get your neighbours to do so.

Deidre21 · 04/06/2017 20:13

Sounds like that movie starring Zac Efron, "Bad Neigbours" maybe watch it and get some ideas...

Deidre21 · 04/06/2017 20:14

Like piggypoo's story

Pollyanna9 · 04/06/2017 20:22

Lillith has it right. The Crimestoppers can be EXTREMELY useful. I've used it myself to report next to the right who was dealing cannabis. Soon stopped that shit.

Sadly they were better than the neighbours to the left who r noisy, disrespectful twats. The police should be able to deal with them in the same way - overall this type of disturbance causes way more issues than some wazzock slipping a packet of ganga into someone's car window, but less is done about it.

PersianCatLady · 04/06/2017 20:23

yes shows the address 4 doors along to me (party house) and two female names. No other addresses
When the house was purchased for all you know the owners could have been living in the house itself, so there wouldn't have been any other address to put on there.

The fact that the home owners no longer live there and it is being rented out does not mean that the information would be updated as only a transfer of ownership would cause the Land Registry to update the details.

Have you looked at my other suggestions earlier for finding out more about the tenants??

Failing all of the ideas I posted above, you can go down to the council offices in your town and ask to look at the electoral roll.

You look up the street and house number and it will tell you who is on the electoral roll at the address.

Services like 192.com are not as good as actually going to the council as the data that they have is not always as up to date.

bigtapdancingpimp · 04/06/2017 20:26

I had this a couple of years ago. I asked them politely at 4am (on a school night) to quieten down but got blank stares in return. I then told them if they didn't shut the fuck up I'd get my husband's gun and shoot the lot of them. I didn't have either a husband or a gun at the time but it seemed to do the trick.

Bellini81 · 04/06/2017 20:29

Yes I did google the address and nothing archived was coming up and I still have that other letting agency to try again tomorrow so I might hit the jackpot then. Bit dismayed by others stories of terrible neighbours and nothing being done, it isn't right or fair.

Yes lots of alcohol, very interesting about them maybe driving the next day and still being over the limit, the party definitely went on beyond 3am, they just took it inside after us knocking again and again.

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