To miss the way i used to look

[stormywaters]

We aren't young for long, but when we are we take it for granted, never imagine you wont always look the way you do. Anyone else get a bit upset about losing their looks. Sorry for sounding shallow.

It is what it is.

Some can push the ageing back. Good luck to them.

I accept graciously that I will never be the same again. It's just that. But I love my life. Great family/partner/kids, There is no price on that. Even if I have aged a bit in the process!

No one really cares about how you look anyway, they are too busy looking at themselves. That's something I learned years ago. You will never measure up. But fuck it.

Oh I was Dextra. I had obscenities shouted at me all the time. Ugly cunt ect. A group of lads would come over to use praise all my friends for being in their words "As fit as fuck".
Whist reminding me how disgusting I was. My so called friends would smugly stand there gigging.

Instead of saying like I would or my dd would. That's my fucking friend you're talking to.
Anyway 20 years on. They're all haggard and dowdy looking. I've developed my own unique sense of fashion and like I said grown into myself. So now its my turn to be smug.

I'm the opposite, at age 45 I'm more happier and content in my own skin than I've ever been.Yes, if I have a good, close inspection in the mirror all the signs of aging are there but I'm content with the way I look.

I say this on every age thread, most people you meet, despite what they think will just look their age,

It's the feet that bother me the most. Looking back I used to have lovely feet. Now they're dry and horrid. When and how did that happen and how can it be reversed

Bottom line is therr is nothing wrong with not looking young

You're now a swan then.

I prefer to look a bit craggy! I get less hassle from random men now, that's a benefit.

I think it's all bollocks

I really believe truly beautiful women and I mean inner beauty, age well.

Of course there is something objectively pleasing about youth. But anyone who isn't a shallow ring wraith will always listen, notice and appreciate a mature woman.

I'm 38. I genuinely feel much better than I did twenty years ago. Fitter, wiser, kinder. Because I've grown as a human being.

And even if we are looking at things objectively, I don't think older women are any less pretty than younger ones. It's just relative.

Sure I'm not going to turn a young man's head but why would I want to? Young men should be lusting after young women! If I was single, I'd not give a 20 year old another glance either! He'd probably be a bit rubbish in bed anyway.

But men of our own age, the good ones anyway, find us sexy, interesting etc.

I do think it's a form of brainwashing, this ageism.

babyspider how nasty, young people can so cruel....i'm glad you've grown into yourself and are now happy with how you look.

Funny, I don't feel that way at all and I don't really know why.

I am much happier with how I look in the mirror now in my forties, than I ever was in my twenties. I can see grey hair and wrinkles and scars from an accident that weren't there 25 years ago, but somehow I still feel more attractive than I was then. I hated my face when I was 20, I was horrified at photos of myself, embarrassed that I was so ugly. I look at those same pictures now and I can't see what upset me so much, but I clearly remember how strongly I felt about it. I am very glad to be older and wiser.

I still try to look forward to 'growing up'.

Instead if looking at pictures of 20 year olds and feeling sad about the loss of my yoof, I prefer to read about and see pictures of women in their 60s and over, to be inspired about what I can achieve in the future, rather than mourning for things that are over.

It's important to have something to look forward to.

It's amazing what can be achieved post 40 - there is a strength in older women I think.

I have plans!

One can be so ageless on the outside, but at the same time be an inner so and so biatch.

I prefer to just be myself, and show the lines around my eyes and the droopings everywhere else. That's from smiling and laughing down through the years.

As long as you are confident about who you are, who really cares?

Anyway everyone else is looking at themselves all the time. Ain't that the truth. Must justify the money to get rid of the lines, push up the boobs, whatever.

Anyway.....

I look back at pictures of myself and think I want to be that young woman again because along with the where did my figure, energy and looks go? I also think, Christ I hope the next 30 years don't go as fast as the last 30 or I will be in my box before I know it.
So unless I have a boat load of liposuction and botox, I'll just have to carry on wishing.

I do believe that taking care of yourself goes a long way. Nobody has to accept bring 3 or 4 dress sizes bigger than they were, it might be s but harder to keep the weight off and keep toned than before but it's possible, it just takes more effort than it used to.

Good makeup, a good hairstyle, and knowing what suits your figure also means you can feel great at any age.

Having said that, ond thing I do notice - wanting to put under eye concealer on every day. It's not just dark circles but hollows. That does bug me. I would definitely have cosmetic stuff done to correct it but I'm too chicken as apparently it's a hard area to get right. Anyone had their hollows filled here?!

Spend time looking at yourself in the mirror. The more you see it, the less of a shock it will be and youll remember what you look like now. Take lots of photos of you with your friends/family/children etc when youre all having fun together and look at them - get some printed and put them up on the fridge etc. Learn to love your body as it is now

I looked awful as a young teenager (massive NHS specs, bad hair- still got that) then must have had a window of being reasonably happy with how I looked - possibly 16-30. Now in late 30s I miss my firm(er) tummy. I wish I had worn a bikini more often!!

Our beauty shines from within.

A lovely smile, a kind demeanour and a caring attitude will make us all shine so brightly. No plastic surgery or whatever other intervention will change that really if you haven't got it already.

Occasionally I get the clobber on, but the effort is amazing. And so tiring.

And then I fall off the high heels, sorry the nude heels. Must get with the program!

How are the men doing anyway, just to mention.

On the positive side I do seem to have more gravitas at work.

Although more gravity affecting my arse.

So swings and roundabouts

would males have a similar thread anywhere?

I don't miss the leers and street harassment. Was lovely pulling on an old jumper and leggings and still looking good though. Still better than the alternative! and happens to us all if we are lucky

* But the me of 20 years ago (when I was in my early 20s) is how I imagine that I look, and then I look in the mirror and I don't look like that any more!*

Yep. I guess we all do this sometimes, shallow or not, it's natural to miss our lovely younger selves..... (sobs)

Yes kerala its all so much more effort to look passable now.