we are going out for a meal for mothers day

[starshaker]

and i have to drive so that dp's dad can have a drink. it doesnt seem to matter that it would be quite nice if i could have a glass of wine with my meal but nobody bothered to think about that

i said to him a few days ago and he said we would have a nice bottle of wine on sat (last night) but he went over to his mates straight after the football and never got in till after midnight so that didnt happen either

Tell them you'll drive on Father's Day!!

It sounds like you feel it's OK for them to disregard your feelings, but you also feel you can't tell them that you don't want to drive.
I'd just insist that someone else drives, or you get a taxi.
It doesn't have to be confrontation - you just need to state it as a fact.
Your feelings are as important as theirs - and it's Mothering Sunday, so you get precedence.
I hope you have a lovely meal.

i do hate confrontation so ill prob end up driving and say nothing just wish i had the guts to just say no im not driving

So ss. What did you end up doing???
Am just nosy, and curious.

LOL BOM I'm being nosey too!

i ended up driving in heavy snow and nearly crashed the car and was told women are useless at driving. if i am so bloody useless why make me drive in the first place

are they both still alive?

because i think i would have killed them if i were you.

in future, if you don't want to drive, don't, let them sort out alternative arrangements

maybe he will get the hint and learn to drive, then he can take his dad out instead

also i am glad you are ok after your near crash

You poor thing Glad you're (all) okay but really - you must stand up for yourself, what a load of crap.

Holy shit, how have your dp and his dad not end up with a spike in the head?

because i wasnt there hd

I'd have held your handbag, lou

So you're good enough to chauffeur them about, but a little incident (glad you're ok) and suddenly women drivers are crap. I'd refuse to take him anywhere. And if he asks, say, well I would darling but women drivers are crap, I think you'd be safer with a male taxi driver!!!!

i'd have used it to knock him out with hd, but you could be there to take pictures

bloody hell star you are a better person than me I would have stopped the car and told them to get out and bloody walk if that was how they felt

Justified happy slapping, lou.

definitely hd

SS, he's done this sort of thing before, hasn't he?

Can you see if there's some assertiveness training courses in your area? I think you might benefit from it. You shouldn't feel you can't say anything to your partner and this was a wholly unreasonable request.

How about a bit of passive aggressive and drink before you go anywhere, then he CAN't make you drive.

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