Moving Out EOW

[nottowantomoveout]

My DP & I live together. House is both our names - we split everything. I have 2 DCs as does he.

I love our life together apart from one thing. His 2 DCs have never accepted their parents split & do not like us being together.

So EOW I 'move' out - to friends or relatives whilst his DCs stay. I completely understand the DCs feelings but just feeling a bit fed up this weekend. Beautiful weather - they will be having BBQ/pub whilst I'm on my jack jones.

AIBU to feel a bit pissed off ?

You can't be forced out of your own home! I'm sure there are very complex feelings involved but the long and the short of it, is that he's enabling their bratty behaviour. Taking them home when they get the hump, trying to please them all the time. Everyone wants someone who, if they have DC from previous relationship, is still good to their kids - and nobody's saying he shouldn't have them and care for them, but they can't dictate his life and have the power to lock you out because of what??? Because they want something that isnt going to happen, as in parents reuniting. They're both old enough now to start the process of understanding that their parents have moved on in different directions. He's doing them no favours by letting them carry on like this!

Taking them home when they get the hump is unfair on the mother who would be unable to plan her weekends just in case her kids were brought home.

The dad needs to think about what his long-term plan is. If he plans to keep doing this until the youngest goes to uni then he needs to tell OP. After that she might not have to leave EOW but she will be forced not to go to extended family events for life "because of the kids". Who'd want to live like that? It's not a sustainable choice imo.

No way would i be moving out of my own home, how on earth will this ever get resolved if everyone tiptoes round them and their feelings!? Its your home so they better get used to it!