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Original poster

MIL comment on Facebook

53 replies

Monstermuncher · 22/05/2017 17:27

Its a MIL thing and a Facebook thing - I know these get done to death but please give me some perspective! I posted a photo of 6 year old DS on Facebook. He is messing about pretending to sing into an inflatable microphone. MIL has commented "So sexy!" AIBU to think this is a) wierd and b) just a bit inappropriate?

OP posts:
Mummmy2017 · 22/05/2017 17:55

PM message her and say this.

I hope you don't mind and please don't be offended but I have a real problem with the word sexy when it's applied to children, so I have deleted the comment...

I do agree with you DD looked so Cute and adorable... xxx

RebelRogue · 22/05/2017 17:56

No. just no.

LineysRun · 22/05/2017 18:19

Mummy2017 - very diplomatic.

Scribblegirl · 22/05/2017 18:22

See I don't think 'I have a real problem...' works - it makes it sound like the OPs issue. It's not, it's entirely inappropriate.

I'd go with 'Hope you are not offended but references to sex in the context of a small child give off the wrong message, so I've deleted your comment x'

Maudlinmaud · 22/05/2017 18:23

Grin I think it's funny.

Birdsgottaf1y · 22/05/2017 18:32

""See I don't think 'I have a real problem...' works - it makes it sound like the OPs issue. It's not, it's entirely inappropriate. ""

Thousands would disagree. Sexy these days means adorable etc and isn't sexual.

I have Mums on my FB who use it about their own children.

If you look up the meaning, the informal meaning has nothing to do with sexual attraction.

So it is the OPs personal bugbear.

I agree, btw, but I've been shouted down about it, in my circle of acquaintances.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/05/2017 18:33

Sexy these days means adorable etc and isn't sexual

Hmm er since when?

Original poster
Monstermuncher · 22/05/2017 18:38

People refer to their own children as being sexy? Hellfire.

OP posts:
qazxc · 22/05/2017 18:39

Yanbu, it's weird and wrong. There a many more adjectives she could have used .

Scribblegirl · 22/05/2017 18:46
Hmm
MIL comment on Facebook
muffinwaggon · 22/05/2017 18:49

This is very weird. Glad you deleted the comment. If a grandad had said this about his granddaughter, it would be vile. Doesn't make it any different.

Roussette · 22/05/2017 18:50

Hmmm... it's not just the OP's bugbear though is it...

It's a totally inappropriate comment. Definition below

sexy
ˈ
sexually attractive or exciting.
"sexy French underwear"
synonyms: sexually attractive, seductive, desirable, alluring, inviting, sensual, sultry, slinky, provocative, tempting, tantalizing;

Whoever thinks it's OK needs their head read

Roussette · 22/05/2017 18:51

Snap Scribble!

Jux · 22/05/2017 18:56

Awful.

Can you just say that 'sexy' is inappropriate and cute and adorable are great alternatives.

FrenchMartiniTime · 22/05/2017 18:57

Ewwww!

Wtf is wrong with her?

It's the same when parents call their children sexy boy and sexy girl, it's just fucking weird!

Jaxhog · 22/05/2017 18:58

Wholly inappropriate. Please tell her this. I suspect she didn't mean it that way, and will be mortified. If not...

RebelRogue · 22/05/2017 18:59

Sexy these days means adorable etc and isn't sexual.

So all the sexy nun,nurse,princess,alien,whatever outfits are just adorable outfits?

Kids are not sexy!!

Scribblegirl · 22/05/2017 19:01

rousette praise be to google Grin

FrenchMartiniTime · 22/05/2017 19:02

Sexy means adorable nowadays?

Get a grip!

Would you say someone's baby was sexy? Or a kitten was sexy?

Do you look at kids on their first day of school and think they all look sexy?

Think about it.

AcademicOwl · 22/05/2017 19:03

Nope. Not ok. Just weird.

Was it some kind of weird passively aggressive thing about the pose/clothes/posting on fb? If not, I'd just have a quiet word next time you see her in rl

Instasista · 22/05/2017 19:03

"Today 17:39 KoalaDownUnder

I'd just delete it and move on.

It's really off and ill-judged, but I'm sure she doesn't literally mean she finds him sexually attractive. Probably a clumsy way of saying 'handsome' or 'cool'."

Absolutely this- in fact I probably wouldn't delete it. It's not worth confronting her over and making her feel foolish

beachcomber243 · 22/05/2017 19:12

I'm a grandmother to 3 boys and would never dream of describing any of them aged 6 as 'sexy'. That is so wrong and so weird.

I'd have to say something to her about it and see what her attitude about it all is. And put her straight.

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Monstermuncher · 22/05/2017 19:13

Its not my intention to make her feel foolish. Part of the reason for deleting the post was so that other people wouldn't see what she had written and think how odd it was. Or comment on her comment if you see what I mean. Thanks for all your replies!

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TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 22/05/2017 19:16

If she means cute there's a very good word for that. It's....erm....cute.

If she means adorable there's - well you get the idea.

Sexy is not good about a six year old, boy or girl, no matter who says it.

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 22/05/2017 19:21

I probably wouldn't even mention deleting it tbh. Just act as you normally would and delete any future inappropriate comments. If she ever brings it up tell her jonestly that it's inappropriate to describe children as "sexy". I wouldn't make a thing out of it, she may not even notice you deleted the comment.