would you still have this child attend the party?? Not sure what to do?!

[NoOneLikesACrispyTowel]

Sons party today.

One of the parents text me at 5pm yesterday to say her daughter couldn't make it.
We extended the invite to someone else who is now coming.

The mother text me at 10pm to say that her daughter could come after all.

Now we have to go to the shop and buy another party bag and stuff because we have ended up with an extra person. And we also have to pay for the 'stand in' child to enter the soft play centre now and extra for face painting etc.

It's really pissed my husband off who told me to message her back and 'tell her tough!'

I can kinda understand where he's coming from because at 10pm changing your mind is a bit of a liberty. But from the little girls perspective (kids are aged 5-6) it's not her fault and from my sons persepective that's his friend and he wanted her to come.

WWYD.

Just let the kid come it's not worth the drama of saying no. There were only 5 hours between the 2 answers and I'm guessing the child wants to come.

And my bloody husband is like yours. We had a situation to do with football cards or some rubbish like that and DH was all "you text her saying her DC needs to give them them back" I was like "eeerrm why don't you?" (wasn't a mum I knew or had the number of- would of had to get the number from someone else) makes them change their tune when they've got to be the cunty ones.

I'm glad you're letting the child go. It's so shitty when so called parents mess their child around like that. It's not the child's fault or their mums, and the mother did the right thing and let you know when she thought they couldn't make it rather than just not turn up.

10 years of parties here. One child never turns up. They are ill. Parents got the wrong date. Kid at grandparents and they forgot. Also, re: party bag. Get a bag of sweets or a box of maltesers. As long as kids take home something that makes their parent tutt they are happy.

How did you manage to invite the extra child at short notice without it being totally obvious to their parent they were on the 'B list' ?

How did you manage to invite the extra child at short notice without it being totally obvious to their parent they were on the 'B list' ?

not everyone thinks like that. I've invited the odd one or two at the last minute because I'm terrible at organisation, and I'd gratefullly recevie an invite for my child as the last minute. I wouldn't think "oh, so we must have been on the B list". Honestly, life's too short to waste time thinking like that.

How did you manage to invite the extra child at short notice without it being totally obvious to their parent they were on the 'B list' ?

It was my husbands best friends daughter, DH had been to husband house the night before and apparently their little girl is having a really hard time at school with bullies. So when I told DH that someone had pulled out, he said we should invite her because she's having a hard time and our eldest DC could play with her (she's nearly 9).

Anyway, 3 kids didn't turn up (why couldn't they just let me know? I don't mind if they can't come but please tell me so!) so not only could we accommodate the girl but also her little sister and fun was had my all.

Well done OP. Glad fun was had by all and the little girl and her sister had a good time. You are moat probably exhausted, feet up and a glass of wine. You deserve it.