Well. Am I?

[Comedyboobs]

My youngest DC (6 yo) has Adhd, he sleeps in my bed usually with a body part (foot on my face today) on me. I have 3 older DCs. I'm a single parent.

I'm renovating the house we are living in (timescale is 10 weeks until it goes on the market) and also restoring antique furniture to bring in an income, while I look for a 'proper' job. Im stressed out to the max.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is a shitty text from DBoyfriend:
I really appreciate your antique shite. But stop talking shit about it, it's boring, sell it & send me a naked photo.

I'm knackered & would really appreciate some ideas re replies. I have red flags awaving.
#imusuallyshithotatsarcasm

Well he sounds like a right wanker. But I don't really get what the first half of your OP has to do with that? Sounds like he'd still be a wanker if you were well rested.

I was trying not to drip feed

I suppose you could send a text saying stripped chest just for you. Then send him a picture of a stripped pine chest of drawers.

But unless he is normally a lot more supportive I would ask him to leave your life. Sorry, tell him to leave your life.

Comedy I can guarantee you aren't being hypersensitive.

He basically said "I'm not interested in what you have to say, flash me your tits"

Not a keeper in my view.

When I first read it, I laughed. But I'm guessing now he was deadly serious...which makes him a total prick.

As for 'Media whore'...

I'm so sorry that you were abused so badly before 💐 (There's a place in hell reserved for that/those wankers x).

Unfortunately you have attracted someone who is exploiting your vulnerability. He obviously seems better than your Ex (exes?), and maybe he will s, but he's definitely, absolutely, 100% not good enough for you. He's really not.

Pack up his stuff (& get yours back from his if you have anything there) then cut all ties with him.

You're doing an amazing job raising your kids, looking after your Mum & trying to earn a bit of money while you do all that 🌸

You don't need some complete bellend pulling you down, you really don't.

Get rid of him.
You're stressed to the max, doing your best, and he finds your life boring if you talk about it?? And just wants to see naked pics?
Fuck. Off.
Seriously.
You're worth way more than this dick, and if he's being protective of you now, knowing your background, there is a potential for that to turn into "isolating you from everyone else and then abusing you himself" as this is often the way abusers work.
Of course, he might not do that - but I'd still ditch the pig because of his total lack of empathy and his tendency to see you as a piece of flesh rather than a whole person.

Restoring antique furniture?

I can't think of anything I'd love to be able to do more-sounds really fascinating to me.

We can all "talk shite" sometimes can't we?

My mum used to tell me the same stories about people I didn't know time & again!

It was annoying at the time but know that she's no longer here it's something to smile about.

The naked photo-well that's not my thing so it just sounds horrible to me-especially tagged on to the end of a pissed off message!

Following on from Annie's post above - there's that saying: Just because you were with a level 10 bastard before, doesn't mean that you should accept a level 7 bastard now, just because he seems better than the first bastard.
(OK, that's not only paraphrasing, it's a bit longwinded but you get the gist!)

So yes - you've been hurt before, he seems better, but he can see the "Wounded and vulnerable" invisible sign on your head and he's homed in on it. :(

Gosh OP - I wish - really wish - I could restore furniture but I'm just not artistically talented like that. What I do know, however, is that if I were my DH would be very interested, very impressed and would be happy to talk about it. It's quite a talent you have there. As for the boyfriend - well - what everyone else said. You are SO much more deserving than having to put up with that kind of crap.

'Incredibly protective'?

How is he like this? I'm wondering if it's a nicer term for 'unbelievably controlling'...

Please get rid, OP.

I trust you're not selling to move in with him/to his house? He is a total and utter prat. I hope he has no unsuitable photos of you already? As a PP said, you've been hurt previously by 100% prats - this guy is a 70% one. Role model for your DCs? I think not.

I would just block him and get on with your hugely busy and admirable life. Good luck, OP.

Sorry. I haven't read replies yet (brain fuck going on)
He's sent an apology.
But.
I 'm done

Yeah, those messages are definitely not "protective"or supportive or even plain nice. All of which I am mad enough to expect from a partner. I mean you already have a house full of children, anyone else in your life has to earn their space imo.

Very pleased to hear it, Comedy - I think you've made the right decision. xx

It's not the first time he's pissed on my bonfire

and you can bet your life that it wouldn't be the last either.
You're well rid I'd say. Good luck with the renovations and the sale

I'd love to see photos of your antique furniture BTW... I love antique furniture porn!

Please fall through with that, Comedy and get rid of this man. You owe him nothing. You deserve better than this twat. He's honed in on your vulnerability, but he's waving red flags left, right and centre that he has great potential to become abusive - his remarks are meant to make you feel insecure and destroy your confidence. Sending naked photos to people is always a bad idea, too. Just get rid and do not let him worm his way back in, just him out and if he comes over, don't engage with him, he'll use words to undermine you.

He is trying to knock your confidence so yoire easier to control maybe?

Thing is, you know that he's being a shit. If I (or no doubt plenty of other people) had got that text, I would have laughed and sent something like the juice bottle picture that someone posted.

If this wasn't your immediate reaction, then you already figured that he's an arsehole. You've got enough on your plate, without a shit "boyfriend" to contend with.

It didn't even occur to him how that would make you feel, because he just doesn't give a shit. You are doing the right thing by dumping him!

Plus what @NoOneLikesACrispyTowel said. I go a bit cold when people say their partner is protective. There are men who seek out vulnerable, abused women purely to control "protect".

I think a photo of a well turned table leg, considered indecent by the victoriana, and a goodbye forever is required

I'm glad you are done. What people who have been abused (me being one) often fail to realise is that a red flag does not mean 'proceed with caution'. It means 'Do Not Enter The Water'. Ignore a red flag and you might end up drowning.

So I love a bit of banter, and have other banter spouting friends. Even if anyone of us did a joke about media whore it would always be followed by a genuine congrats.
What he did isn't banter. It's stepping on you in the guise of banter.

Stick with being done. He's not a decent person. You deserve better.