...to ask you what are your curfew times are for your teens?

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What time do your 14, 15 and 16 year olds have to be home by in the evening? Need some feedback.....

DD is just 17. She's never really had a set curfew, we tend to discuss what time she'll be in for each event. She's never really gone out much on a school night, into town after school but home for tea, once to a concert, a few meals out etc. If she works on a school night (rare) she has to finish at 11.
Weekends and holidays it depends. DH has picked her up at 2 am before. In general though she finds her own way home, sometimes DH will pick her up but usually she will share a taxi, get a lift or walk home.

Yes, if it were a really special event (concert or theatre or something not in our city) if he had a sensible plan for getting home we would be open to a later curfew at weekends. The majority of his friends are pretty local, so at 17 we are happy for him to walk home for midnight. I'd be willing to pick him.up later for a special event, would rather say yes on the odd occasion so being reasonably strict during the week as balanced.

*is balanced!

Thanks for the feedback. I don't want to wish our lives away but if I can muddle through and get both my teens to adulthood in one piece, I will feel relief and a huge sense of achievement. Looking forward to my next bigglassofwineplease in 2021!!

My DD1 is 15 and is hardly ever home! She spends every evening hanging around with her mates. Week nights she needs to be in by 9 and weekends it is 11. Most of the time she is late as she leaves at the time she needs to be here and walks at the pace of a snail! I can't pick her up because I am a single parent and my other DDs are in bed.

DS is 14 and has to be in at 10pm over weekends. 9pm during the week but he rarely goes out then.

DS 17 (18 in December) and he doesn't really have a curfew. He usually stays at his friends over the weekend. He's having driving lessons and will be getting a car once he passes, so that will mean a different sort of worry.

DD (16) is in between 11-12 at the weekend. Her and her friends tend to get the last bus at 11.30 and home by 11.45ish. During the week it's normally about 10 at the latest or her boyfriend is here, but as GCSEs have started she's in every night at the moment or may pop and revise with a friend until about 9.

I have friends who have kids who never seem to go out other than to family things. Am I right to believe that giving freedom will help our kids to become more life savvy? One of my friends watched her ds, 14, ride round the estate on his bike from her window as she was worried he was out of the house!

I can keep anyone company tonight.
I am sitting drinking Chamomile tea, DD at a party tonight, I have offered a lift, she suggested 11.30, so showing some consideration.

Your DD sounds lovely. Pre-arranged lifts aren't a problem...it's when it is sprung on you at a moments notice....I respond to consideration all the time.

DS is 16 and doesn't have a curfew as such at the weekend but he's generally back around 12 anyway.
At the moment he only goes out during the week to play sport, otherwise its exam time and he's face down on the sofa revising after school or asleep/eating everything so doesn't really go out.

Never had a curfew. Kids never been allowed to just go and hang out.

Always had an agreed time to be in/picked up judged on a case by case basis.

I never had one, provided I said what time I was back. Had a tub with emergency money for taxi too. I wouldn't have asked for a lift after 11pm though, would have stayed at a friends or got a taxi

DS16 - midnight unless there is a specific reason to be out later like an event. He's only done it once though for his prom. Usually he chooses to be home by 10pm.

We don't have curfews. We have different times depending on what's going on.

Ds 14 is 10pm on weekends and holidays and 9pm on school nights unless bowling.

Dd 17 is 9.30 on school nights unless working and midnight at weekends and holidays. 10.30 for exam leave.

Oh and Dd is always late hence the earlier times. Her bro is usually 10 minutes early.

I've 3 teens and it depends on the circumstances.

Dd1 was at a party on Saturday night so we decided on 1am (she's 17) and she got a taxi home.

Through the week none of them are out longer than about 9, Friday and Saturday its usually around 10 for the 15 and 17 yer olds, earlier for dd2 (13). Depends who they're with, where they are and if they're getting public transport home or a lift.

We end up doing a lot of sleepovers as they all have friends from all over the city.

I have a 14 & a 16 yo and they have never asked to go anywhere after dinner other than the organised activities that they get collected from.

It seems a bit odd to me, but I'm not inclined to encourage them to change

I went to Ibiza with my friends when I was 16, so think I'd cut a similar sort of slack for mine when they get to that age

He's 16. No set time - it varies depending where he is. However, he has to let me know (by text) where he is and when he leaves.

Once they are old enough to be out til midnight they are old enough to get a taxi home.

12pm for ds from 15,
do you mean 12am

DD is 16.5. She doesn't really go out on week nights(been revising for months and currently in middle of exams) and at the weekend if it is a party then the latest is usually 12. If she was just 'out' with friends then 9pm but she doesn't tend to hang about. If she was at a friend's and parents were there, then later.

Wouldn't let her get a taxi from a party etc