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He sends me copies of emails to DD, their weird...

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Mummmy2017 · 19/05/2017 21:36

After 5 years of him being gone I sometimes get copies weird emails sent to daughter.... this one is about a craze for doing something that make you pass out...

So I sent a reply saying we were laughing about it, and DD isn't lilkley to do that as not stupid... and it's a crazy from 9 months ago.

He now says with a reply like that, it shows why he doesn't communicate with me... and then lies and says someone died becasue of it in our area this week.. but it's not in the news.. he always makes things up.

Want to send his a really snotty reply, as he knows I always reply when he emails me,,, Do you think he did it because he wants me to bite...

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 19/05/2017 21:42

Why did you feel you should reply to an email which was sent to your DD? How old is she?

KarmaNoMore · 19/05/2017 21:44

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Fightingthefire · 19/05/2017 21:45

I'm so confused

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Mummmy2017 · 19/05/2017 21:50

If I don't send a reply he calls me ignorant.

The last time he sent me an email it was a photo of the wound where he had his toe cut off due to infection, it was horrid, I had to call DD and tell her not to open it as it would make her sick.

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TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 19/05/2017 21:50

Maybe he sent it because he'd heard someone had died and wanted to warn her? Things like that crop up often, especially on Facebook.

I don't get why you're being the way you are

Crunchymum · 19/05/2017 21:50

Your post is very hard to understand OP.

NellieFiveBellies · 19/05/2017 21:53

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MeadowDream · 19/05/2017 22:04

Have I missed something? Previous thread or something?

Waltermittythesequel · 19/05/2017 22:05

what?!

Wolfiefan · 19/05/2017 22:05

Maybe he really thought this craze was a threat to your child and wanted you to be aware? Confused

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Mummmy2017 · 19/05/2017 22:06

I am being like this because most of the things he sends tend to annoy our teenager, he preaches at her on the phone about things and when she tried to change the subject to things she likes he dismisses her views.

At 15 she is a very well rounded child who ends up texting me , to shout so he can hear on the phone that she has to do something so she can get away from the phone call as she hates hurting people's feeling even dads.

If I don't make some reply about having read the article, he will call her and she gets 30 mins of being lectured about something, so she asks me to reply. He really does thing he knows everything.

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shinyredbus · 19/05/2017 22:06

I'm confused. Confused

indigox · 19/05/2017 22:07

If I don't send a reply he calls me ignorant.

So what?

LadyOfTheCanyon · 19/05/2017 22:08

Don't mind me, I'm just pulling up a chair so I can get comfy for the drip feed...

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 19/05/2017 22:10

Ignore him, and teach your dd to say "this conversation is making me uncomfortable and I am ending it now"

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 19/05/2017 22:10

Or what "NellieFiveBellies" said

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 19/05/2017 22:11

A parent annoying a teenager.

A parent 'preaching' at a teenager.

A teenager not wanting to spend 30 minutes on the phone to a parent.

Perfectly normal then!

ClemDanfango · 19/05/2017 22:13

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Starlighter · 19/05/2017 22:13

My head hurts trying to figure this thread out... Hmm

Frillyhorseyknickers · 19/05/2017 22:15

i will take that under advisement

Whatever you do OP, don't respond as suggested above, because it makes no fucking sense. 😬

thatorchidmoment · 19/05/2017 22:15

This is all quite bizarre. I assume 'he' is your DD's father?

Panicmode1 · 19/05/2017 22:17

I'm not sure I understand the OP, but we had a letter from DD's school this week to say some girls made themselves pass out at school...and it made the local radio. They didn't die though....

No idea about the rest of the post!

PickAChew · 19/05/2017 22:18

I'm guessing he's an ex who was abusive?

And he's carrying it on. if he's being inappropriate, tell her it's OK to say "I have homework to do, dad, goodbye" and then hang up. She doesn't have to listen to it for a minute and definitely not 30 and she doesn't need to have you give her an excuse to hang up. Teach her to be strong and assertive.

ScarlettFreestone · 19/05/2017 22:19

I'm not sure why people are finding the OP difficult to understand?

Her ex of 5 years regularly sends her 15 yo DD emails with links to the kind of rubbish that appears on Facebook but is easily disproved by a quick check of snopes.

He CC's her in these emails and complains to her daughter if they are not acknowledged.

OP I'd just reply with a link to the relevant snopes page. Or just say "duly noted".

Pallisers · 19/05/2017 22:20

Your dd needs to learn how to stop conversation with her father if it is making her uncomfortable. This is a skill she will need in life. At 15 she needs to learn that it is ok to "hurt people's feelings" if their feelings are unreasonable. If her dad is as you describe then she particularly needs to learn this right now because otherwise she will end up in a relationship with someone just like dad and not get out because she "doesn't want to hurt his feelings".

Start giving her some phrases to use like "thanks dad, that is helpful. I have to go now, love you" or "this is making me a bit uncomfortable, let's discuss another time. got to go, love you" and teach her it is ok - absolutely ok - to use them.

As for yourself, just reply to his emails with "Got it - thanks".