Bit of background, DS is 14 (yr9) and has had trouble with bullying since yr7. The reason is, he acts in quite a 'camp' manner and was hounded by kids shouting 'gay' at him (this is relevant to the story). The 'brought it all to a head' incident was around 2-3 months ago which resulted in my son telling me he felt suicidal I posted about it here but under an old username.
To be fair on the school, they took it very seriously and put an action plan together to help my son and a zero tolerance policy on any kind of bullying towards him. He gets a one to one weekly with the head of year to discuss any problems. This has been working well and DS has been happy to go to school.
Yesterday, DS was off school attending a family funeral with us. He got a text from one of the boys in his drama class saying 'Mr X was making fun of you today'
It transpires the class were meant to act out a sketch that someone they met on Tinder was actually the same sex as them and how they would react. He allegedly said to the whole class, "Can't believe (my DS) isn't here when we are doing this' with a silly laugh. Apparently the boy who text asked the teacher what he meant and he said 'I think you know what I meant' and carried on with the lesson.
DS is mortified and I am RAGING. It's one thing when teen boys make fun of your child (part and parcel of high school life I guess) but when a teacher does it for cheap laughs??
I want to find this guy and flatten him tbh - but obviously I can't do that. I know what will happen when I go in - it will all be denied or played down - even though the whole class heard it.
Any advice on how I proceed? DS only has this teacher once a week so has gone in today with instructions to find out more from others in the class to make sure / clarify some of the facts before I approach the school.