To think there's some real twa*s out there?

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The more and more I read mumsnet posts about DH's and DP's I realise how lucky I am and that there are some real b's and sexist pigs out there!

True it shocks me what some women put up with and why do they? I want to scream at all the My partner/husband is lovely, a real family man and then go on to catalogue being hit/sworn at/kids ignored by him. Ho hum (yes there but for the grace of whoever...) But sometimes you get a really lovely thread started about their lovely OH. Of course women can be twats too!

I really wasn't the only one in fact someone else said about the 'cuntish behaviour' and that still stands. Why should passive aggressive comments towards someone who is happy be allowed? The poster that mentioned a 'trigger warning' for happy threads maybe has a point, because on MN you're only allowed to be miserable.

No, I reported you because of your personal attack on another poster. And yes, it was far worse than her "bully for you" comment.

I agree with Soupdragon

Sorry you got called that, BluDabee You didn't deserve that.

I'm not going to continue this ridiculous argument as I feel I may have derailed this thread (sorry for that) and also because it's keeping this thread alive and I think it's pretty awful.

YANBU, and I don't think it hurts any of us to be a bit more grateful, if we've been dealt a decent hand.

It's not about being 'lucky', it's just about appreciating what you have.

DH caught a flight yesterday, and watched a movie on it, called Manchester By the Sea, or something.

I got an email from him when he landed telling me he'd just watched it. It was really good, but really depressing.

A couple lost their children in a house fire, and it detailed the fall out for them, afterwards.

When he landed, he just wanted to let me know how much he loved us and was grateful for us (and he also wanted me to make sure the house was all safe).

I think this sometimes to myself, but I don't tell him often enough, and I don't really let myself dwell on it, to truly appreciate it. I should.

In other words, I get what hickory* is saying.

There's nothing wrong or awful about expressing an opinion. Getting the hump because others may not agree with you is, in my opinion, a typically vanilla style reaction to not hearing what you wanted to hear. Loads and loads of examples of that here.
But, there are also examples of people taking a more thoughtful approach to why so many women seem to end up with so many really awful men and there's nothing wrong with being grateful that you're one of the more fortunate ones who has ended up with a keeper. If you can pass on the knowledge of what constitutes a keeper and what does not, then who knows? we may be able to influence the individual's decision making process when looking for a life partner.
If anything, threads like this should be seen as a useful tool for educating women.
Sadly, so many women don't know what is acceptable or even reasonable, in a relationship. So many women have breathtakingly low expectations of what a proper relationship should look like.
And so many women put up with living depressingly horrible lives because they're frightened of splitting up, co-parenting, finances, housing, upsetting the kids...the list is as long as your arm.
We should be educating young people into understanding what is healthy and what is unhealthy in a relationship. And we should be calling out anyone, whatever sex, creed, colour or ethnicity when our human rights are being infringed as they most certainly are when anyone is abused: mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and socially.

Whoopdeee dooooo for you. Very poor taste to rub salt in other peoples wounds, though.

This to me is as mean minded as all the other accusations of 'stealth boasting'.
Being unable to be happy for someone else's happiness is a poor way to live, and it drags everyone else down, too.

I just don't expect to be called a cunt by a random stranger on the internet

Er, you have been on AIBU before haven't you? Being called a cunt is run of the mill and shows you're contributing in the spirit of the board. Which you were

Of course not. However I loathe detest can't abide smugness

The smugness is only your interpretation. It didn't read that way to me at all, or to several other posters on the thread.

The smugness is only your interpretation

This exactly. People are allowed to be happy with their lot and say so. I see no smugness.

How do you know op has a partner, she could be happily single, and thankful she is not in an unhappy relationship with a twat.

Good point Aeroflotgirl

I know a few single friends, and they seem happy being single, they tried the dating thing, but there are a lot of twats out there, so they are happy remaining single, as far as I know.

Just putting it out there I have had my fair share of shit things happen to me in my life including a shitty relationship. I am happy now though. We live and learn don't we? I am definitely not trying to rub salt in anybody's wounds.