To ask if your DP plays video games?

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Especially straight after work? Like come home and spend 4/5 hours in front of the Xbox/PS4,eat in front of the TV, play little with the kid...then go to bed?

How the flip do you deal with it?! And when do they essentially grow out of the games? If ever?

We have had some epic family Mario Kart battles....

I love it when people judge people who play video games I assume you never read or watch TV or go to the cinema or do anything else as entertainment? I don't have the focus to watch TV or movies once my meds wear off. Video games keep me busy and stop me fidgeting.

To answer your question OP yes, DH and I both play video games, but only after DD has gone to bed. Sometimes I'll go up to bed and leave him playing or vice versa but it's always a mutual decision, it's never a case of "I'm playing this for 5 hours tonight and that's that". It's your DH's attitude that's the problem, not the video games.

Games similuate though where as most TV and movies are senless passive things

Games are like any other media - there's some brainless rubbish at one end of the spectrum, and really challenging, creative stuff at the other, and everything in between (and let's face it, sometimes after a day at work and an evening of screaming DCs sometimes you want something brainless!)

Games are like any other media - there's some brainless rubbish at one end of the spectrum, and really challenging, creative stuff at the other

True. Portal makes my brain hurt.

I love it when people judge people who play video games 

This. My dh plays the ps and is a serious gamer. He's neither a Shurker or immature teen. He's actually senior management at an investment bank. This is a stress reliever for him apart from him enjoying it. But he plays once all family responsibilities are done and no one needs him for anything.
We all have something we enjoy, as long as it's not taking over your life or being selfish to those you have a responsibility towards then why judge someone else's activities.

Both me and DP are pc gamers (we actually met through World of Warcraft ). On weeknights we don't play at all until the dc are in bed, if at all.
At weekends he plays a couple hours in the afternoon and more than a couple in the evening.
Before having dc we both used to play well into the wee hours at weekends.
Everything in moderation

Portal makes my brain hurt.

I've played the entire Metal Gear Solid series and I still couldn't tell you what they're actually about.

@JoshLymanJr I swear the noise Quiet makes... just speak woman

I think the biggest issue with my DP is that he has to 100% every game, which at times means he's very late to bed!

why are games seen in such a negitive light? and films are not

You don't watch films from the minute you get home, for five hours, ignore your family, watch them whilst you eat tea then go to bed.

Anything that cause you to do that is a problem.

DH plays video games most days after we've gone to bed - I get up much earlier than him so sleep earlier. We go up to bed together, watch some telly, I'll turn in for the night and he will play them then. He had headphones and bought me an eye mask so it doesn't bother me.

He stays up til about midnight playing games, still gets up at 7am on the days DSD is here to get her ready for school etc. So it doesn't interfere with my life whatsoever.

They don't grow out of it. My Dh would spend all of the time on it give the chance I don't mind once DD is in bed because while his playing I'll watch stuff that I like on tv. If it starts to encroach into daytime though then I'll ask him to turn it off.

I play more than my DP does! If I've got nothing else to be doing, I could easily while away 4 hours playing games. In fact, I've got a nice week off work in June - should be finished all the graduate stuff I need to do for my June review at work - so I intend to spend that week writing a new story and living for the xbox.

I swear the noise Quiet makes...angry just speak woman

Yes, all things considered Quiet isn't exactly a riposte to the 'games are for teenage boys' crowd...

I see the usual judgement about video games has been said. Didn't take long. And as for the "it's for kids" arguement, tell that to the developers of the several over 18 games on the market. I'm sure GTA is aiming for the preschool market.

OP I don't think you should expect him to grow out of it, it's a hobby. That being said, he shouldn't be gaming the moment he walks in to bedtime when you need him. DH and I are gamers. A lot of the time we play games together but there are many times when we play alone.

You need to talk to him.

OP I don't think you should expect him to grow out of it, it's a hobby

I agree with this. It shouldn't be interfering with family life, just like any hobby, but I hate that people get all judgemental about adults playing video games. If my DH told me to stop reading for pleasure, I'd be fuming. A hobby is a hobby.

I game. So does my DP. He likes everything made by Naughty Dog and Im a Bioware and Assassins Creed Fan. And we play co ops like CoD and Battlefront together. But only once the DC have been put to bed.

at the game snobbery on here. Why am I not surprised? They arent all for kids either. I do hope there arent any kids playing the Last of Us.

My DH games, but only when I'm not around and wanting to watch TV. He sometimes plays FIFA or something with the kids too, but mainly he binge plays round at his friends house, where he goes once a fortnight and stays overnight.

If he played as much as your DP we wouldn't have got together in the first place and I would be very unhappy with it once the DC came along. Does he do any childcare?

You don't watch films from the minute you get home, for five hours, ignore your family, watch them whilst you eat tea then go to bed

Games don't make you do that. Being an asshole makes you do that.

As others have said, it's not video games that are the problem it's the excessive amount of time spent on a hobby when he has a family.
Video games are not my thing, but plenty of people of all ages enjoy them and don't play them so excessively.

My DH is a massive gamer. He's 34. He plays it only when me and the kids are in bed or out, however he stays up until 2-3am sometimes, even when he's working the next day, then he's tired and grumpy and falls asleep the next day/early evenings which totally pisses me off. We have regular disagreements about it and I could quite happily smash the damn thing to be honest

He's never played one of owned one.
They're for kids!

Don't be daft. They're a hobby. Just like any other hobby. It isn't the nature of the hobby that's the issue - it's the fact that it is being done at inappropriate times and for too long.

Must tell my bf they're for kids. He makes them 😂