Flat is in a shitstate, I want to go back to being SAHM

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I work so much it's hard to keep up with it all. The entirety of our crockery is currently lying dirty on the kitchen side or coffee table and we have so much washing covering the sofas that I have no idea what is dirty or clean.
DP works a lot too. We leave very early in the morning at get home very late at night and we're both too tired to do anything other than eat a quick dinner in silence and go to bed when we get home.

I just told DP I should go back to being a SAHM so I can at least keep the place clean and he looked like I'd just told him His pet puppy had died.

Aibu to stay at home and clean instead of working (even though I know I would hate it) or should I throw everything away, demand we live a minimalist/nudist lifestyle so I dont have this problem?

I could clean now but honestly I'd rather shove all the dirty forks up my bum at this time of night having just got in from tidying my workplace (which the weekend staff left in such a state the whole place smelled like farts)

I think there's a lot of criticism for the op
I think when you get to that feeling, everything is overwhelming and I can see where the original post has come from.

No man would ever ask this.

We probably all feel a little overwhelmed with daily 'chores' on top of work and caring for kids etc. Can you go part time rather than give up work all together?
I have a total ban on anyone putting clothes in the washing basket unless they are actually dirty (they all have a tendency to just throw stuff in the wash at the end of the day dirty or not). Apart from underwear if it's not actually dirty or smelly it ain't getting washed. Agree with getting a tumble drier - I we are a family of 5 and I probably do 5 or 6 loads of washing a week, just have to wash, dry and put away as soon as out if the drier. It feels overwhelming but actually only takes 10 minutes.
And agree with getting a cleaner, you will still have to tidy up and organise things yourselves but at least you don't have to worry about the cleaning. Even a couple of hours a fortnight makes a difference.

reduce your hours. Its what I did and havent looked back. Working full time, then coming home dealing with children meant no time mon to fri for housework. Me and dp were just physically knackered. Dp has a 14 hour day of intensive laborious job and mines was mentally draining. By the time 9 oclock came when kids were in bed we just wanted to crawl to our own beds, fuck housework. I cut my work to 2 days a week and our home life is much happier. Sure we are financially poorer but have gained in other ways.

Ew. The final paragraph of the OP is sort of scatological and is grossing me out.

Get on top of it & maintain it. If you are out early morning until evening your house isn't getting dirty. The only plates are breakfast & dinner. Both of you could clean in about 20 minutes. Put the washing on in the morning hang it up when you get in from work or if you have a tumble dryer do multiple loads at the weekend. Just do little jobs as you go along & don't let things pile up. I've done it myself & it ends up becoming too much to deal with.

Does the OP even have children? It is a flat. If she can afford to give up work, she can afford to pay a cleaner out of her salary instead.

It is not hard.