'Bring a bottle' still acceptable?

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Adult's 50th party at ours. Afternoon 'do in garden. Family and friends. We'll provide food and some drinks. Is this ok on invite or not anymore?

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Why wouldn't it be? Sounds lovely.

Of course!

If it's a BBQ type thing I expect people will anyway.

I always say this when I hold a party.

I would put it on and I wouldn't be offended if I got an invite with BYOB. Far cheaper than having to buy drinks from a bar at a party in a hall or something and also far cheaper than going for a meal where you pay your share and for drinks!

Yep! I usually say 'there will be some wine/beers etc but bring what you like to drink'

I'd say it's absolutely fine to say BYOB. To be honest I'd never dream of attending a party at someone's home without taking at least a couple of bottles of wine / fizz.

Cool. We always do take with but I was just doing invite and thought, ooooo, I wonder if this would be seen as a bit, ummm, cheeky?!

Will leave as is!

Yes, it's what people would expect at a barbecue party. You won't need to put it on the invitation.

Personally I prefer "BYOB" - bring your own bottle - to me that implies if you want to drink, bring your own... Whereas "bring a bottle" sound a bit like you must contribute a drink to the party even if you're teetotal/designated driver/pregnant/not a heavy drinker etc.

That's just my interpretation though and I totally wouldn't be offended if I saw "bring a bottle" on an invite

Sorry but I can not stand hosts asking people to bring drinks to parties or gatherings of any sort.
To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO

Absolutely, I always bring a bottle regardless of whether I'm asked or not. Alcohol is expensive.

To me it screams tight.
Hosts provides all IMO

I don't get this attitude. My friends would rather contribute and enjoy a good evening than never be invited as I don't have the money to provide all the drinks for a lot of people. We have great gatherings (for varieties of reasons) and would be sad if they stopped just because a friend won't provide it all.

Kel1493, would you take a couple of bottles along to a barbecue party if it wasn't requested on the invitation?

Get many invitations Kel?

I don't state it on invitations, nor do my friends
It's just the rule to take a bottle /box of beer/spirit of choice anyway.

Always bring a bottle. Unless it's a black tie event.

If it's an invitation to a friends , then I wouldn't dream of turning up empty handed
Probably bring a bottle of red and a bottle of white 🍷

Funnily enough I just received a Facebook invite for a friends house warming BBQ.

No problems at all with this!

I'd be stunned NOT to see this on a BBQ outdoors/home event invite TBH.

But most people unless they are stinge personified would bring a bevvie anyway.

kel1493
What if there's nothing provided that you like to drink?

I'd far rather bring something I like than gamble on there being something on offer that suits my taste.

I think if you invite friends to a party, especially when you are a grown up 50, you provide sufficient refreshments. If guests bring gifts that's up to them but shouldn't be a prerequisite.

I wouldn't dream of asking my friends or family to bring anything to a party or gathering I'm hosting. But I know that most would and I always do if I'm the guest. I don't need to be told.

I'm sorry OP but I do think it goes against the spirit of hosting.

Having said that, it may be a cultural thing. I'm 2nd generation British and there is food and drink to feed the five thousand at our family gatherings

Absolutely. Nothing wrong with it at all.

The last special occasion party I hosted, I provided all food and drink and it would never have occurred to me to ask people to bring their own bottle, nor did they.

It's totally different to having a barbecue for no particular reason, when I would expect people to bring their own.