'Bring a bottle' still acceptable?

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Adult's 50th party at ours. Afternoon 'do in garden. Family and friends. We'll provide food and some drinks. Is this ok on invite or not anymore?

Cheers

I would rather bring a bottle and have lots of parties/gatherings than wait for someone to have to afford to pay for everything.
In my circle we have get togethers very regularly and we all chip in.

Have a great party OP

I think usually people will bring (or ask if they can bring) but for a special occasion I would assume it was being provided. Sorry OP.

Yeah seems OK and people do that yeah. Not everyone, but it is the done thing for many general get togethers. Anyway, don't people bring a bottle out of politeness?

Several years ago a woman I used to know, (ex colleague) saw me in the shopping centre, and invited me and DH to her house to a 'party' for bonfire night. A dozen of her neighbours, and also about 20 family members. were going too.

She asked us on 4th November morning and the party (outside BBQ) was THAT night. She said 'bring some booze and a pack of burgers and some fireworks; everyone is contributing!'

Coz it was 4th November, the only fireworks we could get cost £18, and on top of of burgers and booze, we hardly got any change out of £30! We didn't really know anyone there, the best of the booze was snapped up before we got there, and I don't eat meat, and DH wouldn't eat other peoples BBQ cooked meat. We ended up eating a jacket potato each with cheese and beans, and drinking 2 cans of beers, whilst no-one talked to us all night. Shittiest night ever, and we spent thirty quid on it!

For the record, I would rather go to a party where I brought my own booze though, rather than go to one where there is a bar! Last one we went to like that (a 50th,) we ended up spending£40 at the bar between 2 of us! We only had 5 drinks each!

I just won't be accepting an invitation again where I have to by naffing fireworks. They were expensive!!!

It is cultural I think.

I could no more turn up to a party empty handed than I could fly to the moon.

I wouldn't put it on the invitation simply because in my circle of friends it would be self understood that you'd bring a bottle to a bbq. People would normally ask the host if they can contribute food as well, although that's mostly declined.

Thanks folks. It's gonna be pretty chilled, not a formal thing but I've taken it off the invite. Seems most people will assume to bring a drink anyway. If the party was at a bar- it would unlikely be a free bar.

I think it's fine but best to say bring own drinks, xy+z provided (mixers, soft drinks etc) so people know what to bring.

Bring A bottle to me is more sharing and nice than bring YOUR OWN bottle.

You don't want people making a fuss about which wine they brought vs which one they are drinking.

Within my social circle, people would usually bring one anyway . TBH I don't like to be told to bring one ?
If I'm hosting a birthday party I would expect to buy the drink - although many people still bring plenty 😀