To think I might just scream at some judgy twunt

[Angelicinnocent]

So I have a teenage DD who has some long term health issues. Not life limiting or anything but very much lifestyle limiting.

As part of her care, she has an ultrasound every 6 months but because of her age this is done at our women and children hospital which basically means on the maternity unit.

So, when we turn up tomorrow morning, we will be sat with a bunch of pregnant ladies and whoever is with them and my DD will be subjected to many nudge, nudge, look at how young she is type of looks and whispered comments between them. An occasional headshake in my direction to have allowed my DD to be in "trouble" so young etc.

Over the past couple of years, I've taken a deep breath and ignored them because my DD doesn't like scenes but it's really starting to get on my nerves so my question dear mums netters is wibu to wait until the nudging starts and then tell them that they are a bunch of judgy twunts and should be ashamed of themselves and by the way, ultrasound is for many reasons, not just for pregnant women.

For those saying that other people just don't care, go into a Maternity hospital with a teen and you will find out that they do.

My DD used to have to go for scans because of her PCOS and we always got side way glances and nasty looks/chuckles to their companions.

My DD got miraculously pregnant at 18, because of the treatment that she was getting, unexpectedly caused her to ovulate. She now faces judgement because of her being a 'young Mum'.

birds. I'm sure she will do great

I'd go with flumpy idea. It's enough for them to know they are wrong. I have a child that gets scans every 6 weeks, she's still a abbey and it's done in the children's hospital and also in a specialist heart clinic.
I can see from your side how that could be frustrating but as an onlooker I think rightly or wrongly I would assume pregnancy but would also bunk illness I wouldn't make it obvious I thought anything though. If they are being obvious then they deserve to be called out on it.

Baby not abbey, think not bunk.

God, you poor things - how unpleasant.

I know this is easier said than done but I reckon just pity them - seriously, if I had nothing better to do in life than judge a teenage girl, I'd be pretty upset with my lot.

Wow, do you all live in the 1950s?

Not doubting you OP - I'd find this incredibly annoying too - I'm just grateful that I live in a part of the country where nobody gives a shit about the other people in the waiting room.

Well, we went and mostly was ok. Just 1 obnoxious old bat who very clearly pointed out my DD to the lady she was with and commented that she wasn't even embarrassed enough not to wear her school uniform when she came. Lovely radiographer who heard her told her to mind her own business, some patients come from the children's ward.

Thanks to her, I kept my temper and was not embarrassing mum!

I agree with pp saying that people are scanned for many reasons and I'm sure no one would wonder in the main hospital but since this department is in the women and children hospital, 95% of the people there are pregnant which probably influences what they are assuming.

Id buy a t-shirt along the lines of no I'm not pregnant lol if I was 100 percent sure they were commenting then I'd say something

I know how it feels in a sense as few hours before my scan I had a miscarriage so they said keep the appointment as would be the quickest one. I went with my mum as OH covered my work as we work together so I could rest and I was taking paracetamol and the woman tutted and said you shouldnt do that to your baby my mum nearly ripped her head off! People should really mind there own business

Navy's suggestion is great.

Shame on the old bat .

I hope your DD feels better soon

Angel, for your lovely radiographer. Good to hear it was mostly ok.

I had the same thing when I was 16-17. I had to get ultrasounds every month at first and then a little less often.
My mam would a little too loudly shout " I hope it's a girl" we found it funny tbh. People have sad lives and fill them by judging so, poor them

I had a number of them when I was about 15- I sort of enjoyed staring out the people giving me dirty looks!!

My mum has regular ultrasounds on her heart. She's 75. Do you have an ederly relative? When the nudging starts you can say "we're not here for her, but for her" that'll shut them up.

@DawnagainDonna

She now walks in and says 'before you start, I"m not up the duff and mind your own business'.
Before that, I used to say it for her.

What, just announce it to the whole room? You both sound a little deranged.

Perhaps the department could be encouraged to put up a large sign in the waiting room saying "Children's and Maternity Ultrasound Department" - making sure it is clearly visible in the waiting room. At least you could point and say "You are here because you are pregnant, she is here because she is a child".

Or even a smaller notice at the reception desk, reminding people that the department is used by both children and maternity patients and that they hope visitors will respect the privacy of everyone waiting regardless of their age.

May that should be "Children's and Women's Ultrasound Department" rather than maternity.

DD2 (15 at the time) had scans for a bad knee. Every single time she came out she'd make some comment about how the baby was growing well just to see the looks on people's faces in the waiting room.

It was all pretty funny until she came out after one scan and there was a teacher from her school in the waiting room. That made for an interesting conversation with the school the next day!

Then they are stupid. The ultrasound dept is visited by men , women and children of all ages and is not exclusively for pregnancy. Ignorance is not an excuse for rudeness. Ignore them. If anyone actually says anything then say out loud the second sentence above.