To find this 'friend' odd?

[cailyaclara]

Ok. So I recently made friends with another mum and all seemed to going well.

She seemed rather lonely and was having issues with her other half. We got on we'll and did quite a few play dates.

But all of a sudden one day she just stopped talking to me. Apparently I had discussed things with her husband at the school gate and she didn't want us talking...

Thing is. I've never spoken to her husband. EVER! I've seen him once at a school Science day thing, and that's it. Not too sure how I'd converse with him, considering that he works away from home most of the time and never does any school runs.

I'm totally bewildered by this, to be honest! She was incredibly rude to me in the middle of the school playground and I'm now starting to think that the reason that she seemed lonely is because she's batshit crazy and others are giving her a wide berth!

Is she living in some freak alternative universe?

Only just read your last post OP. Strange how some people are desperate to get onto the PTA. In our school everyone tries to avoid it!

rollon Yeah I thought the PTA comment was weird too! I'm chair of my kids' PTA because no one else wanted to do it. There is certainly no election process just to be a member. We're crying out for them.

I assumed straight away that she used the husband thing as an excuse to cut the friendship, but no, posters have to immediately jump to it being a man's fault of course.

Don't know why she aims to be on the PTA, you just volunteer, it isn't exactly difficult to do.

At most schools I've worked at, they are always desperate for PTA members. This school one is the polar opposite. It's like a coveted thing for a lot of the parents, so there's hardly ever a space and people tend to lean towards appointing those who are well-known/ a clear part of the school community.
So she wants to get in with teachers, current PTA parents, anyone who she think may help her look good, from what I've seen/ been informed.

Sorry! The PTA committee. She wants a meaty role!

If she wants a PTA role then screaming at other parents in the playground seems rather detrimental to her cause.

I still don't understand why she can't just go along to a meeting as an interested parent. Even if all the committee roles are taken she can still offer support.

What a strange woman. Definitely avoid her like the plague!

I assumed straight away that she used the husband thing as an excuse to cut the friendship, but no, posters have to immediately jump to it being a man's fault of course.

That's probably because it's a classic domestic abuse tactic but clearly you have superpowers and can be sure that isn't the case here

I think it's really helpful that there are posters who can highlight domestic abuse tactics when they may be being used.

Either

Someone has told her you've been talking to her husband.

Her husband said it (to alienate her).

Or she's paranoid.

But if there were no other signs I'd try to talk to her and let her know you've not spoken to him. And that you hope she believes you.