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Original poster

To dislike people condemning adults having fun

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brasty · 13/05/2017 19:51

What I mean by this is those who condemn adults having fun without children. For example, condemning a group of adults making a big deal out of Christmas when there are no kids involved. Or condemning adults enjoying theme parks with no teenagers in tow. Or condemning adults enjoying Disneyland with no kids.

I am not personally into all of the activities I have named, but you don't need kids with you to enjoy yourself. If adults enjoy these kind of things, then let them enjoy them and don't look down your nose at them.

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Reow · 13/05/2017 20:22

TAAT

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 13/05/2017 20:24

DH and I have just got back from Florida and had a brilliant time. We don't have kids but did the theme parks as well as a lot of other things. I don't give a monkeys what other people think as I'm sure I'd find some of the things they do boring/moronic etc!

Redredredrose · 13/05/2017 20:24

YANBU. DS is 2 and I think I'd enjoy a theme park much more without him in tow than with him! I suppose that might change when he's older/less whiny, but I don't see why becoming an adult means I now must be dead to all fun activities.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 13/05/2017 20:26

Yanbu. I wouldn't mind doing the adult soft play

Stokey · 13/05/2017 20:32

It would never have occurred to me to go to Disney before kids.

CricketRuntAndRashers · 13/05/2017 20:32

Absolutely agree! I still enjoy most of the things I enjoyed as a child :)

But I must admit, I personally don't understand Disney either... But yes, why not?

I love Christmas, reading, running, martial arts, shooting, baking, celebrating other people's birthdays, board games, searching for Easter treats (yes, my family might be a bit over enthusiastic with hiding each other's treats...) etc. I loved all of those things when I was a child :)

Although, I must admit, I don't think I'd enjoy playing "princess" or tea party anymore... But cops and robbers could probably be rather entertaining... Or British bulldog :D

barrygetamoveonplease · 13/05/2017 20:33

We could all try not being arsed what other people think.

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:37

I have done Easter Egg hunts with adults only. Lots of fun. Actually much more fun than with kids.

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user1490734428 · 13/05/2017 20:40

TBH, I do judge people that have their honeymoons in Disneyland runs from lynch mob

But, I totally agree, I love trampoline parks and Hamleys. I take a sneaky ride on a slide/swing in a park if there's no-one about.

PortableVirgin · 13/05/2017 20:41

Who's 'condemning' them, though? I personally think it suggests an adult with such childlike tastes is possibly pretty mentally unsophisticated -- but it only affects me in the sense that if I met someone new who did a Christmas countdown from July and regarded Paris as the place you zoomed through to get to Disneyland to get her winter fix before her annual trip to Florida, I'd know we weren't going to be kindred spirits. I wouldn't get the Spanish Inquisition to try to get her to Renounce the Mouse, or curl my lip at her Daffy Duck clock or anything. Grin

CricketRuntAndRashers · 13/05/2017 20:42

brasty

the last few years we were adults and teens. It was rather spectactular. Although we don't do eggs. We'd never find those in my DM's yard. My stepbrother had to in the river to find his things... We tend to hide rabbits, boxes and nests :)

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:42

PortableVirgin You know it is possible to have enjoy childlike things, and enjoy going to the ballet, theatre and nice restaurants? The two are not mutually exclusive.

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BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 13/05/2017 20:43

Can you get drunk at Disneyland?

CricketRuntAndRashers · 13/05/2017 20:44

Bunty

I hope not. Or else DH may actually want to go...

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:50

There is no alcohol for sale in Disneyland apparently. Not surprising really as it could be a recipe for disaster

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youcometomyhouse · 13/05/2017 20:51

I went to an adults only session at a soft play centre and it was brilliant!

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:53

A friend had a bouncy castle at her wedding. There were strict adult only times as well as kid only times.

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PortableVirgin · 13/05/2017 20:54

I don't think nice restaurants require any sophistication or adult qualities, to be honest -- all you need to do is like food. And while, sure, it's technically possible that some adult Disney fan is also a Wagnerian obsessive with a thing for Pina Bausch, I imagine the bit of the Venn diagram that might include him or her is so small it's invisible. Mind you, I would really like to meet that person, and if I were in his/her house, the scores and serious music equipment might tell me there was more to this person than their Daffy Duck click. Grin

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:56

You have to have a decent palate, plenty of adults don't and prefer junky food.
I enjoy ballet, theatre, news programmes and I love Radio 4. I also enjoy childish things.

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histinyhandsarefrozen · 13/05/2017 20:57

I have been to Disney (Tokyo) with friends no kids- but we were all quite young -early 20s- and we were off our faces. Can't imagine repeating the 'it's a small world' experience.

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brasty · 13/05/2017 20:58

I did go to Legoland, and loved it. But it was the Lego village I really loved, which most kids were not the slightest bit interested in.

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AlpacaPicnic · 13/05/2017 20:58

There is no alcohol for sale in the Magic Kingdom...

Epcot on the other hand... they host an international wine festival! You can play 'drink your way around the world'... it's actually encouraged Grin

CreamCheez · 13/05/2017 21:02

There's a swing park near me that's built for adult use, as well as kids. It's near an office area. I hop on a swing (tyres on chains) if I'm feeling blue. Works wonders! I often see men in suits checking me out, secretly wanting a go (of the swings!). I really think they should!

drinkingtea · 13/05/2017 21:04

I don't think there is condemnation so much as incomprehension.

I do judge adults who "perform" their childlike enjoyment for the benefit of onlookers (the self absorbed woman in the swings swishing her hair and play acting, making sure her boyfriend is looking, oblivious to the non plussed children waiting for a swing, or the "cool dads" at soft play barging toddlers out of the way and endangering the 10-20kg children on the slides and inflatables and rope nets by putting far more weight on the equipment than its designed for - I hate the "parents and carers are welcome to play too" places for that reason.

I find on MN the attitude is the opposite to the one the OP describes when it comes to equipment and entertainment designed for children, with posters competing to jump onto the "adults have every right to hog the kids stuff and sod the actual kids" bandwagon.

Haliez13 · 13/05/2017 21:08

PortableVirgin - I love Disney and opera. In fact, I've been to both Disneyland and the Bayreuth Festival. I also have a phd and like rollercoasters.

It's very possible to have space in your life for all sorts of things. OP - YANBU.

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