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To think this was karma?

66 replies

funnynight · 13/05/2017 13:38

My sister and I have a fairly love hate relationship. Went out for dinner last night and each paid for what we had (it came to about 70 altogether). As I went to pay my share (significantly more), she queried the bill and asked the waitress for a couple of more minutes to pay hers.

Incidentally they had left my cocktail off the bill which she was furious about and insisted I should still pay for. The service was appalling and the meal was very average and overpriced so as far as I was concerned it was fine. But no, she mentioned this to waitress in order to get me to pay it! Hmm

She then made as if to leave the restaurant, thereby saddling me with her portion of the meal! 35 quid extra for me! And the cocktail... She only stayed when the waitress saw and came bustling back over.

This left her in the position of paying not obly her share but also for my extra cocktail - karma? Smile (She is currently forcing me to give her the money...)

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/05/2017 14:11

And I agree - if my sister tried to run out on me, leaving me with the whole bill, then that's the last time I'd eat out with her.

QuiteLikely5 · 13/05/2017 14:12

Surely she is not that bad that she was going to leave without paying? They could have called the police

PoorYorick · 13/05/2017 14:12

This word, karma. I do not think it means what you think it means.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/05/2017 14:15

Well no Quitelikely - she knew the OP would pick up the whole bill if she left without paying.

user1491572121 · 13/05/2017 14:16

I have a brother I don't like. I'd never go out with him.

YouTheCat · 13/05/2017 14:19

I have siblings - two brothers who are brilliant. If I didn't like them then I wouldn't see them.

noitsnotme · 13/05/2017 14:20

So did she pay the whole bill in the end? Or her half? Confused

Floggingmolly · 13/05/2017 14:20

Why go out to dinner with someone you clearly despise?

Secretsquirrelclub · 13/05/2017 14:21

Not sure about the karma and bit baffled about what has happened.

All that's coming across to me is that both you and your sister seem engaged in a battle of one upmanship, she's does something and na na na nee you do something back. Bit childish really, not sure why you would willingly spend time and money to perpetuate it really ?

noitsnotme · 13/05/2017 14:22

I reread. I get it now.

AuldHeathen · 13/05/2017 14:23

Your cocktail, you pay. And stop behaving like a 12 year old.

AuldHeathen · 13/05/2017 14:24

And you are misusing the word karma. Get a dictionary.

Lunde · 13/05/2017 14:24

It seems pretty clear to me

  • OP had already paid her share + the full service charge that sis refused to pay
  • sis realised the cocktail had been missed and made a big fuss to the waitress
  • sis then plans to do a runner and leave op to pay sis's share + cocktail but is stopped by waitress and ends up paying her own share + cocktail that she made the fuss about

OP never eat out with her again

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/05/2017 14:26

Oh I get it now - the OP had already paid her share, it was the sister who hadn't paid so she copped the extra cocktail on top of her lesser share. Gotcha.
Serves her right, yes, but you should have paid for the cocktail anyway and not paid for service if it was shit.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 13/05/2017 14:28

Clearly all the people saying things like "why would you see someone you clearly dislike" don't have siblings...

I have a sibling that I don't get on with. I don't go out to dinner with him.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/05/2017 14:30

Yeah, I wouldn't go out to dinner with my brother either.
Or anywhere else with him.
But neither would he, so it's never going to be an issue.

FrenchMartiniTime · 13/05/2017 14:30

I wouldn't have mentioned the cocktail.

I've been to restaurants and they've left whole bottles of wine off the bill and I didn't say anything, not my problem if they've marked the bill up wrong.

Did you not say anything to your sister when she was getting up to leave, like "where do you think you're going?"

I have a sister who I adore, we don't have a love/hate relationship and neither of us would treat the other that way. That's not normal sibling stuff. That's being a bitch.

scootinFun · 13/05/2017 14:31

Maybe next time go to a buffet where you pay upfront - there, problem solved! Or never go anywhere where you need to split the bill - meet up for a picnic or something similar. Either way I'd avoid purchasing decisions.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2017 14:35

YABU for even believing such twaddle as 'karma' exists, or that if it does, it's payback for something.

Iflyaway · 13/05/2017 14:36

Why wouldn't you not pay for something you've consumed? That is stealing.

Would you work for free? No, thought not. (Unless volunteer work, obviously).

Iflyaway · 13/05/2017 14:37

YABU for even believing such twaddle as 'karma' exists, or that if it does, it's payback for something.

Never read anything about Hinduism or Buddhism then..... Wink

expatinscotland · 13/05/2017 14:40

'Never read anything about Hinduism or Buddhism then..... wink'

On the contrary. I don't believe in any of it Wink right back atcha.

Ecureuil · 13/05/2017 14:48

When your sister got up to leave, did you not say 'where are you going? You haven't paid your share of the bill yet'?

Ecureuil · 13/05/2017 14:49

I've read a lot about Hinduism and Buddhism. Still think Karma is a load of twaddle.

mumofthemonsters808 · 13/05/2017 14:50

I'm not a big believer in karma, I've seen zero evidence of it in my own life.REgarding your relationship with your Sister, I think when relationships are strained, anything the other person does you will interpret negatively.Personally, I couldn't socialise with someone I had issues with I wouldn't be able to enjoy my food.