Is this too far to move from my mum?

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I actually think the answer to this question is no.

But I need impartial answers to see whether I can help my mum see sense and understand her perspective.

I currently live 15 miles from my mum and in the opposite direction 20 miles from my dh and I work.

We are talking about moving the 20 miles to our work place town, a) because it seems daft us both doing the drive every day and b) we get more for our money than where we currently live and c) it's a lovely area, so we will be 35 miles from my mum.

I speak on the phone to my mum most evenings and see her every two-three weeks 3/4 visits we go to her, 1 in 4 she comes to ours.

Well since I mentioned that we were looking at a new house, she has brought it up that she can't believe I'd leave my own mother and move so far away and that she'll never see me. I say I currently do the journey every single day I am more than happy to do the journey every couple of weeks to visit her.

AIBU to think this isn't a big deal?

As back story, she moved 150 miles away from her mum at a similar age to I am now, and I have a sister who lives 275 miles away.

My mum has a husband and lots of friends and is v active so not lonely or difficulty travelling. In fact her sister lives 30 miles beyond where we are looking at moving to and she sees her once a month.

35 miles - that's half an hour in the car. She is being silly.

Tell her to stop being almighty levels of ridiculous

I used to commute 30 miles to Uni when I was younger - on a daily basis (and occasionally late night basis too!!).

I currently live 250 miles away from DPs, the closest are 2 DSibs who live about 10 miles away, I have a DSib in the same city as me, and there are 2 more DSibs who are overseas (1 transatlantic!).

She's daft!

YANBU. Your DM is active, social and married.

35 miles! Blimey, that's really close.

I left home at 20, and moved 100 miles away. Later, I moved to a closer town (for work), but that was still 50 miles away. Then (again with work), I moved 305 miles away! Then another 20 miles farther up North, so I'm now 325 miles away. Still see parents about 4 times a year. Talk on phone every week.

My DD is at Uni 105 miles away. My DS is at Uni 17 miles away.

She's being ridiculous.

Remind her that some young families move to Australia!