Do I really need to stage manage your shits?

[holeinyourhead]

I roared this at my 6 year old this morning, who at 8.30am decided he needed a clear out as we were about to leave the house to go to school, making us late. He still needs to be reminded to wipe his ass. Flush the toilet. And wash his hands. AIBU to think that a 6 year old should be able to remember this stuff by now, or am I just a crap mother who hasn't taught their child the basics?! I'm not proud of myself but buttons were pushed this morning, let's just say that.

It's not unusual for a 6 year old to need reminding but is it possible he was stressed by your attitude? People can't help when they need a poo! When they need one, they need one. It's not as though it can be controlled!

You are not. My ds is 10 and the same - yes he has asd but dd doesn't and at the ge of 9 will still leap off the bog having done a pile of droppings, pull her pants up and head for the door.
I don't think kids really care about hygiene pre puberty tbh.

My dd still can't wipe her own backside at 6. Because it's always done for her. Her bowl routine is in the evening. Up until recently I worked evenings. Do was rarely present at poop time. But now I've told her she has to start doing it herself.
Hand washing not a problem. But flushing and toilet seat sometimes usually needs reminding.
She Also likes company whilst having a poo. Do actually sits in the loo with her while she's going

Does anyone roar abuse at you when you have a shit?

No. Thought not. Then don't do it to a SIX YEAR OLD child.

wipe his ass What is he doing with a donkey in there?

What is he doing with a donkey in there?

Could be worse. He could be coveting his neighbour's ass.

Do I really need to stage manage your shits?

That really made me .

Op we have all been there so go easy on yourself.

Maybe have a chat with him later and explain why you shouted this morning.

What about a reward chart? I have one with mine to make my morning routine easier.

I know you won't be with her all the time but its worth a try.

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ds does it in school but not home, when asked why can't he do it himself at home he replied

"your here"

A reward chart for having a crap at the correct time?? Why would you try to control anyone like that?

Yanbu. Poor shitting practices is the biggest cause of the spread of gastroenteritis in schools.

It should be drummed into them until they stop being so minging!

Words fail me.

You reap what you sow in life. How about teaching DS to be a big boy now?

If you really shouted that at your 6 year old then yes, YABU.

bless, poor boy

6 years old! Course he needs a gentle reminder but it is sad you shout at him and also it is damaging for a child to associate a call of nature with fear or anger.... watch yourself. Not him.

It's wrong to shout at him - aggression during a poo can make him want to hold it in and that's bad for everyone.

DC all learned how to clean up after a poo from 4. The importance of hygiene is something that's really important in my DH's religion, and so the kids were taught about how vital it was to ensure they wiped until there's no more poo on the tissue (they use wet wipes as they're easier) and then to wash their hands with soap. It took gentle education and regular reminding with signs in the loo (and a couple of poo related kids books) but they eventually got it.

I think you're getting a flaming when it's obvious you're angry and stressed OP.

My DD (6 in Sept) often acts like I was put on this earth to wipe her arse, and yells and yells from the bathroom, expecting me to drop everything and sort her out.

And yes, there are times when her extreme stubbornness and air of entitlement have caused me to lose my shit (no pun intended) and yell at her for being so rude to me and not wiping her own fucking arse like she should.

But I still do it because the site of her cack handedly (no pun intended) wrapping 20 sheets of loo roll around her hand and gingerly wiping - but never actually getting herself clean - drives me nuts.

decided he needed a clear out as we were about to leave the house to go to school

No he didnt "decide" - he needed to go. Poor hygiene is not wiping properly, it has nothing to do with "controlling" your bowel habits.

Awh, he's only 6 so i'd maybe do "a poo reminder" around 8am, i can see why you were stressed.

My 8 year old DD still has a poo and uses the same tissue to do the front after the back, it makes me want to simultaneously throw up and slam my own head into the bathroom door as i must've had the same fucking conversation with her every day since she was three.

I say "did you flush the chain, wash your hands and turn the light off?" To my DSD who's about the same age 4 or 5 times a day. It's important to keep reminding them until they get it unfortunately.

YABVU
You need to stage manage your morning exit strategy - build in 5 minutes wriggle room for the unexpected. Missing shoes, traffic, loo visits etc etc.

6yo needs a poo just before leaving the house, making you a bit late. It happens.

I've had plenty of children this age in my house recently, and I can verify that they all need reminding to go to toilet / flush / put their trousers back on / wash their hands. That's why schools are full of D&V!

My 6 year old always needs a poo just as dinner is served. He will literally sit down and then ask to leave to do a poo every time! He also feels the need to announce to the entire table that he needs the toilet- and it's a number 2. Thats annoying, but at least he has to wash his hands because hes about to eat!

My eldest son once text me from upstairs to ask me to go up and wipe his bum for him!