To not want to go on holiday because I, "Look pregnant"?

[LilacSpatula]

Feeling pretty shite right now. Was my first day back at work today (DD is 5 months) and I planned my outfit and felt confident and groomed.

Got in to work and all was well, until one dickhead colleague asked if I was pregnant again (the same one who asked if I was going to breastfeed before I went off on Mat leave). Brushed it off and headed home feeling pretty good.

Then I went to see my niece after school with DD. I was holding her and kind of leaning back and she say, "You look pregnant Auntie Lilac."

AIBU to not want to go on holiday any more with my whole family, who are all really skinny. I'm a size 12 at the moment but previously had issues with weight and food and lost a lot of weight. I don't want to go into a downward spiral and have plans to exercise (shred) before we go away.

Help me stop feeling quite so shit.

Ignore him!

Congrats on your baby!

YANBU to feel upset ❤ kids say alsorts, but as a grown man he's clearly just a wanker. Don't not go on holiday though!!

You were right with your first assessment. You looked great. I'm 4 months pp and still have a few pounds to lose so I get it but I think you should Ignore anyone who isn't complimentary.

Ignore the spam. Thing is you may never regain your pre pregnancy figure. And that's normal and ok. When you avoid holidays the only people who suffer are you and your family who love you regardless, not the judgemental strangers.

Hahaha at the idea of doing weights and living off juices with a five month old.

Op you are fine. Ignore them and enjoy your baby

Ignore him, I was rather surprised I didn't just ping back into shape, God knows why after having twins. Looking back I am rather surprised at how clueless I was. Anyway, five months isn't anything and a size 12 is a pretty normal size even if it isn't what you are used to. I wish I had listened more to the, nine months to grow a baby, nine months for your body to recover stuff.

All of the above, plus, nobody give a thought to what other people look like on holiday, even if you were a huge size , which clearly you are not.
Your body has done a wonderful thing, it doesn't matter if it is a different shape from your teenage bod - it should be.

Thanks all. Not sure what MsJudgmental said tho

Your right Backforgood - it's done something amazing.

It just stings as my Dsis seems to have forgotten her struggles with weight and is tiny now.

I got a new bikini and was feeling positive. I suppose at least I can hold the baby in front of my rum?

*tum

But hmmmm...rum

Nine months after giving birth and I still look pregnant, despite being two stone lighter than my pre-pregnancy weight. I think my abdominal muscles are still on strike (I had a gap for ages).

Regardless, I'm sure you looked ace. Don't avoid holidays, or cameras, or anything because your body has changed (even if only temporarily). Life's too short.

Don't miss out on good times because of body anxiety.

Tbh Op I would drink the rum and get someone else to hold the baby...

9 months on, 9 months off (at least!) your body has just grown a human ffs. People are so inconsiderate and speak before they think.
There are many gorgeous high waisted, monokinis, tassely bikinis out there and all flattering for women all sizes. Any excuse to go shopping

Doesn't everyone still look a bit pregnant five months after giving birth? I was still wearing my maternity jeans. If you are a size 12 you are slim unless you are 3 ft 11. Congratulations on your lovely baby.

Sounds good SuperMan!

I'm 5ft 7 so not teeny tiny but yes the muscles are still so far apart - it's so weird when you've always had a flatish stomach. I have a waist trainer so could try that but don't really think it will work.

Thanks Nanny - she's massively lovely so can't moan really

5'7 and a size twelve 5 months after having a baby! You do realise how many of us are green with envy?

The tummy, don't worry, that takes time for nearly everyone.

Enjoy hols with baby.Hope you have a great time.

Lots of us dream of being a size 12.

My weight is back to what is was pre-birth, my stomach isn't as flat as it was. My DS stated the other day that I was the best mum ever because of my squishy tummy. Your child will not see you the way you see yourself. I would honestly ignore the ab cruncher and focus on the great job that your body did.

I have a reasonably flat stomach
Last week ds asked if i was pregnant " because You look like it mummy " and on a recent period bloated day a work colleague nodded at my belly and said " your not are you"

Ignore op bet you look great

I DID ping back into shape after I had dd.

It was really odd (I did have massive complications and was very ill, so that might have been part of it)
Bit me on the (mahoosive) arse though. 18 months later...THEN it hit me.

She's now 8. I still look pregnant. :)

Fuck em. You have just made a person. How cool is that? Your body will sort itself out.

Go on holiday

On yeah cornish I got that

Dd LOVES my squishy fat mummytummy snuggles. So she tells me.

The very definition of mixed feelings. I used to have a very athletic figure. Alas

Bloody hell OP ignore them! I know it's easier said than done but personally speaking after 4 children your body takes ages to to back to 'normal'. I never regained that little tight stomach I had before having 4 children or my pre pregnancy 'normal'. What I do have was a little pouch, a few stretch marks and a bit of loose skin. Wear that bikini on holiday with pride and drink the rum I'm 48 and frankly I don't give a fuck what people think of me. Here's one of the bikinis I'll be wearing on holiday this year. A fuck I do not give.