TWO unreasonable people for the price of one

[B1rdonawire]

In a well-known coffee chain rhyming with Hosta, I witnessed the following (as did agog DD):

Younger woman feeding small child in highchair, large ride-on toddler motorbike thing sticking half-out from under table; older woman wishing to pass her, carrying tray of coffee. There was room to walk past (just) but it was very tight.

OW: I can't get past
YW: I'm feeding my child
OW: But I can't get past
YW: Well what do you want me to do about it?
OW: Move your things out of the way

Within twenty seconds this had become shouting on both sides:
YW: I've got every right to be here, you can't tell me to move, you are so rude you didn't ask me nicely, why should I move for you etc etc
OW: You should move out of the way, you're blocking my way, you should leave the bike outside, I'm not the one who's rude...

So, WIBU to watch in just as much fascination as DD we don't get out much ? Or, I suppose, more sensibly, who WBU out of older woman and younger woman? OW could perhaps have gone round the other way. YW could definitely have been more helpful and tucked her stuff out the way.

Woman with coffees was spoiling for a fight, but the other woman didn't need to go straight onto the offensive.

OP, YABU, Caffè Nero is better than Costa.

Six of one half a dozen of the other...

YW could have stopped feeding child for 10 seconds to let OW past, but OW could have tried going round...

As bad as each other.

I was once walking through the carriages of a train from Euston in London and Helen Baxendale the across was blocking my way. She was polite tho'

Staff should have made her leave big toy outside if it's a tripping /spilling coffee over the customers hazard.
But ow was in a better position being without child and having the opportunity to actually enjoy her coffee!!
She should have mountaineered over the offending vehicle and kept quiet imo.

The mother was completely at fault, she should have moved the toy like a normal person. No excuse.

Maybe she would have thought twice about moving it if the older woman had wobbled the tray when trying to squeeze past and spilt her coffee all over her kid?

Having a child with them doesn't give anyone the right to block the isle.

It's not ok to say well I'm feeding my child and can't be arsed to move the huge toy sticking out.

Woman with child was the rude one here, becuase to block an isle other people will want to walk up and down with the coffee they've paid for is rude.

Yet another entitled parents, boils my piss

Mother was in the wrong...she could have moved in 10 seconds and stopped the risk of ow squeezing by and potentially spilling her drinks over all of them.

I know we don't have coffee woman's tone of voice to go on, Navy, but surely she could (should?) have said 'excuse me', and asked the mum to move the toy, with a please?

Mind you, I've just embarrassed myself in Caffè Nero, so I should probably pipe down.

I wouldn't have mountaineered over the toy even if I didn't have my dcs with me, for one thing I have fibromyalgia and would probably end up falling spilling coffee over me and her child being fed and for another I have young children too so even if I don't have them on that occasion I wouldn't leave their crap everywhere so I'm bloody well not going to kill myself on someone else's because they are being entitled

It amazes me how confrontational people can be so I'm going to say they were both out to have a fight that morning. Unless the OW had no other way round and past the YW was the only pathway I think it wouldn't have killed her to just detour.

Woman with the child was being U. It would have taken her ten seconds to move the toy (which she shouldn't have even had in the shop in the first place).

Definitely the yw. She shouldn't be blocking the aisle

(I'm not excusing the mother, she seems to be been rude for no good reason.)

YW was in the wrong. She shouldn't have blocked the aisle in the first place, but even if she did it without realising, once she did realise she should have jumped up, moved the offending item out of the way and apolgoised.

Not sure what OW did wrong, she just asked the person obstructing the aisle to move their stuff out of the way. Perhaps "Please could you move your stuff" would have been better than "I can't get passed" but I doubt the outcome would have been much different.

Older woman should have got on the toy and rode away on it shouting YEEHAH!

Older woman should have got on the toy and rode away on it shouting YEEHAH!

I think the YW was bad to block the aisle but OW approached the situation in a confrontational and rude way. If she'd asked politely it probably would have been a better outcome.

I HATE how rude people can be. I commute on the train and if I'm in a window seat I politely ask the person sitting in the aisle seat to let me out at my stop. I then thank them. If I'm in the aisle seat more often that not I get 'I'm getting off' or 'get out my way' or occasionally even just 'MOVE'. It's horrid. Manners cost nothing

smelly!

Def woman with child is U.

As bad as each other.

The aisle shouldn't be blocked obviously.

But people do block the aisles with all sorts of things all the time. People ask politely to get past if necessary. It often seems that it's only when it's something child related that other people get upset about this.