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Petty ironing issue with DH...

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 09:34

We have a cleaner who comes for 4 hours on a Monday. She spends the last hour ironing.
She wasn't here last week (Bank Holiday) so although I have done some ironing of essentials there is still a larger than usual pile.

I went to add some things to the basket this morning and found that DH has been through it and put all his clothes at the top, so that all his stuff will get ironed first, and if she runs out of time, it will be mine and the DCs stuff which isn't ironed (and presumably I will have to do later).
It's not even like it's just his work shirts - it's also scraggy T shirts and pyjama bottoms (which I wouldn't normally iron anyway!).

I am just so Angry with him - seems so selfish!

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Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 08/05/2017 09:35

Swop the whole pile over so his is at the bottom!!

Gamtanner · 08/05/2017 09:36

Put his to the bottom

AnathemaPulsifer · 08/05/2017 09:38

Leave his work shirts and put everything else on the end of the bed. If he queries it explain that you noticed he'd moved it all to the top of the washing pile and were baffled why he would think his pj bottoms were more important than you clothes.

blackteasplease · 08/05/2017 09:39

Yes, swap it back over! Or at least enough of it so that it's fair.

lilydaisyrose · 08/05/2017 09:39

Very selfish. We don't iron in this house (weddings and job interviews only!) but my DH will pick his clothes only out of the the laundry basket (or off the floor on his side of the bed!) and put on a wash of only his stuff - socks, pants, work shirts etc. It gives me the RAGE. His argument is that he needs stuff for work on Monday morning. We have 3 kids (2 in school uniform) - what the chuff are we all meant to wear come Monday? Quite often it's a half load he puts on too, so plenty of room for other people's clothes. I do countless loads of washing but the implication is that I'm not on top of it all. Aarrgghh!

Redredredrose · 08/05/2017 09:40

Will you end up doing his shirts if she doesn't?

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 09:40

Ha! I DID mix it up again! Perhaps later when he whines 'didn't my chinos get ironed?' I'll say 'oh they must have been at the bottom of the basket' and he won't be able to say 'no they weren't' Grin

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NavyandWhite · 08/05/2017 09:41

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TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 08/05/2017 09:41

absolutely....SWAP it over, two can play at that game!!

and then spend the entire week putting all his stuff UNDERNEATH everything else....keys under newspapers, shoes under bags, his pillow UNDER the bed...all that!

Sleepdeprivedredhead · 08/05/2017 09:43

Why wouldn't he be picking up the excess? If he has made his "the priority" then I'd be expecting him to do the rest in place of his free time later.
Why do his washing if that's his attitude?

ExplodedCloud · 08/05/2017 09:48

If he tries it again could you ask the cleaner to iron from the bottom of the pile next time as a one off? That way he'll be all smug that you haven't noticed and still won't be able to complain...

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 09:50

His work shirts are a contentious issue. He works for himself and has a very informal local office where many of the other people in his office wear jeans and T shirts. He still likes to wear a 'proper' shirt everyday though, which is fine, if it makes him feel professional, but I said I'm not spending ages ironing them. He always buys the sort of expensive thick cotton shirts which require LOTS of ironing. Nobody likes ironing them! (Him, me or cleaner) I've told him it would be more cost effective for him to drop them at the dry cleaners each week where they will wash & press 5 for £12, but won't as he says 'someone might see him' Confused What? Being responsible for some of his own laundry?? Hmm

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someonestolemynick · 08/05/2017 09:51

"Darling , I noticed all your clothes were on the bottom of the ironing pile. I know you would never be so selfish as to move your stuff above everyone else's So was just wondering if you knew what happened there."

Psychological warfare Grin

C0untDucku1a · 08/05/2017 09:54

Do you both work?

Personally i would take out anything that doesn't need ironing, like pjs and scraggy tops, and shove them straight in his wardrobe. Then id leave his shirts at the top. I cannot be arse ironing shits ( or pleated skirts). Id put what i dont mind ironing myself (children's tshirts) at the bottom!

GnatsChuff · 08/05/2017 10:00

C0unt I've never been arsed about ironing shits either. I find it makes the rest of the job even shittier than it was to begin with Grin

Definitely rearrange his shirts back to the bottom. Report back when he realised his manly stuff has not been prioritised.

NuffSaidSam · 08/05/2017 10:05

He is being unreasonable and very childish....it's the sort of thing one of my DC would do!

But you really should stop ironing, it's a terrible waste of time (or money if you're paying someone else to do it).

Mix56 · 08/05/2017 10:09

I would ask him what the Fuck. If its that important he can do it himself. &
& Give him M&S iron free shirts for next birthday.

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 10:11

C0unt - I don't work full time outside the home, but I am just as busy as he is. I help him with some projects in his company, I manage a rental property, do everything else in the house to do with food shopping, paying bills, managing DC at school and home. I also volunteer for a couple of local groups/charities.

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MuncheysMummy · 08/05/2017 10:17

I am the opposite I'm afraid! I see people going round un ironed and think Jesus how do they look in the mirror and not bother to iron their clothes?! They look scruffy and lazy when obviously creased (as many things such as shirts and t shirts for example do)

wickerlampshade · 08/05/2017 10:19

Why on earth do you iron anything other than work shirts? If you tumble dry and take things out straight away they don't need ironing.

TipBoov · 08/05/2017 10:20

I agree with Muncheys - it does look scruffy. I've seen posts where people claim that others can't tell that they don't iron their clothes.. yes they can tell!

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 10:22

I tend to agree Muncheys and I'm happy to have the key items ironed. I like to think I'm pretty efficient in minimising the ironing pile - so everything comes out of the tumble drier and gets put on coat hangers which means lots of tops/shirts don't need it. If DH takes something out of the tumble drier he bungs it all in a basket and then it nearly ALL needs ironing Angry

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Kokusai · 08/05/2017 10:23

I don't iron anything.

Work shirts go to the dry cleaners opposite me - they do 5 for £12 as well.

Apart from that I buy stuff that doesn't need an iron and hang things up so they dry without creases.

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Jng1 · 08/05/2017 10:24

A lot of 100% cotton stuff needs a quick iron IMHO e.g. White Stuff tops, cotton chinos, bedding etc
DCs school shirts and trousers don't get ironed.

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Westray · 08/05/2017 10:55

No iron in this house.

Problem solved