First lesbian date tomorrow. AIBU to say no kissing.

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Finally, finally plucked up the courage to ask a woman I've liked for months out on a date.

I'm still closeted, still a little unsure of all my thoughts but I know I really really like her.

But tomorrow I just want to chat and not kiss and definitely not do anything else.

Also, she said she really likes me and is so please I asked her for a drink but wants to know why I would tell her how hot every guy in the office was and dated men while I knew her and now say I'm lesbian. Also why did I avoid her and only show an interest now. She thinks she's just an option when in fact she was always my first choice I just never understood my thought. So I'm not sure how to explain that tomorrow.

I'm very very nervous.

Would a no kissing ban be too much? Unreasonable? I want to take everything very slow.

If you aren't a troll and you are this confused and worried, I wouldn't date yet. Someone else's feeling are involved and it's unfair to mess with people's heads.

I'm not surprised to be honest.

I know I'm not a troll. But I've tired to be a member of mumsnet before and had the same reaction so I am just going to cut my losses now.

I've very happily been a member of several forums and never had this reaction. Ah well.

Did I drop a tab tonight?

Seriously odd thread...

Is this the manager?

if same poster, isn't it a bit soon? why not give the councilling a go so you're in a better position to come out?

If not. god no don't say "there will be no kissing". You don't have to kiss on a date, but ruling it out basically calls it a non date date and is a bit rude IMO. It's absolutely fine not to kiss, but, if you definitely don't want to kiss you shouldn't be going on a date. The purpose of a date is to figure out whether you want to kiss etc that person. If you definitely don't yet, don't waste their time and mess with their head with this non date date thing

Op it may be that people tend to be very honest on here where they spot inconsistencies. I'm aware on other forums there maybe 'oh Hun don't stress' but here there seems to be a genuine concern about you based on your previous threads.

OP people were very supportive on your previous thread, about your sexuality, and the general opinion was that you were gay, but from what I 'recall the general consensus was to stop worrying about"labels" and take time to work out who you are and what you like. You yourself agreed that some lgbt counselling would be beneficial, and were sourcing some.

Then suddenly we hear you are going on a date, we guess with the manager concerned. but not wanting to kiss, into the mix we had you debating whether to go to a birthday dinner, as you had £15 until today. I'm not doubting that you have all this going on in your life, but it's confusing to read, and therefore becomes more difficult to support you. Perhaps stick to one or two threads initially, rather than start several in a few days. I would also suggest you try other topics than AIBU, where you may get harsher responses, as that is the nature of the beast.

Ultimately, OP, there are a lot of us here who want to support you, and help you be who you truly are, regardless of the restrictions of your upbringing. MN also loves a little e date thread, and had you gone on the date we'd have been there virtually with you!

Keep posting, it sounds like a real crossroads in your life ATM, and there are people here to listen.